A long way down the road

[Madascheese]

I've been sorting through all the paperwork about my divorce and residency court case for littlemad this morning as my outlook inbox is full so the 3500 (I kid you not!) about the divorce needed to be filed away. It's given me an odd mixture of intense sadness and overwhelming pride about where I was and where I am now.

Before I go out and buy a bloody big cake for myself I want to say to all you lovely ladies out there who might be reading this, if your partner makes you feel less than special, if they undermine your confidence in yourself, not just by shouting or violence, if you have a vague sense of 'I wouldn't be able to do this because I know I'm no good' then you need to do something about it because you know what, you are good enough, you don't deserve it and life DOES get better.

The early emails/solicitors letter and my responses are not pretty reading but it's made me see how far I've come, how much I like myself now and how lovely my life is now.

Just needed to let that our somewhere safe, as you were....

[GypsyMoth]

totally agree!!!

i have been there....and am 56 years down the line now....what a journey!!

[AnyFucker]

56 years, tiff ?

OP, congratulations to you

I am very glad you have reclainmed your life

[harassedinherpants]

It's just coming up for 10 years since I left xh, and I found all the paperwork a few months ago.

It was like I was a different person!!! Actually I am pretty much a different person.

One of the best things I ever did !

[moocowme]

i like to think i am a person now, better than being lower than a piece of furniture that i was back then.

[GypsyMoth]

5/6 years...lol....depending when you start counting!!

[Madascheese]

Thanks, I felt so strange reading some of the stuff - even emails I'd sent to him when I was still trying to save the relationship, let alone the first document I wrote for the divorce outlining his behaviours.

Wouldn't bloody well stand for it these days!