I have been reading through the threads today trying to put my thoughts into perspective.
My story - H decided to IM (instant message message me through his Blackberry) last friday night and say basicly that we are over - this was as he was boarding a flight to Tokyo so would be no further contact for 15 hours! I spent friday night in tears trying to figure out what the IM meant. On saturday am, he IM's that he was so sorry and the meassages continued on throughout the day asking for a divorce and stating what maintianence he would pay me (from a men that when asked said he hadn't looked into divorce). I have only spoken to him once on the phone on tuesday (his birthday) and had to text him on friday to get him to ring our youngest who's birthday it was ( was painfully obvious that he did not want to talk to me but would talk to youngest 2). He has declared that he now sees me as the mother of his 2 children and a friend. I also found his wedding band on the side in our room yesterday and told him this over IM and haven't heard from him since.
Since then I have been on an emotional roller coaster, one minute happy the next crying - our (my) children 13, 5 and 3 (also have a 10 year old but he is away on holiday with friends) don't know what is going on but the 13 year old is very with it and has declared that if dad leaves he wants nothing to do with him, and also asked if this meant he would have to have a step family!! He has asked that I don't say anything until October when he gets back, and we can talk ( I have told some close friends as I can't do this on my own and if I keep crying they pretty much know that something is going on!)
i really do not know what I am asking, but just needed to write this out
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mumsanutter · 08/08/2010 17:54
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