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Initiating sex.

19 replies

SiriusStar · 02/08/2010 21:51

How do you or you partners make it known that you/they want to have sex?
Do you have "moves" or do you say something?

That's it really, just curious as dh has taken to just coming out bluntly and asking.

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MrsSawdust · 02/08/2010 23:02

Just say it. Very bluntly. Usually "d'you fancy a shag?"

Also quite often we will have 'planned' to have sex that night or to meet at home straight after work while dd still at Childminder. (this usually happens when one of us has suggested sex and the other says "no, I'm too tired but let's do it tomorrow night for definite") In those cases we often start sending each other dirty texts or making suggestive comments / looks / gestures a few hours before to heat things up before the 'date'.

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lazarusb · 03/08/2010 20:01

Kissing...mmm...sharing a shower is a good start too

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Goober · 03/08/2010 20:03

Do you want cock?

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AnyFucker · 03/08/2010 20:09

omg, goober, are you my DH ?

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Gigantaur · 03/08/2010 20:13

Mostly just by the odd naughty tickle as i pass him throughout the evening. then in bed it is just a once thing leads to the other form of kissing.

Though tbh i have it every morning and night so it is more a case of saying no rather than yes.

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Goober · 03/08/2010 20:18

No I am not AF.
He only says it cos it cracks me up (and I always say yes.)

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AnyFucker · 03/08/2010 20:20

me too

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Unlikelyamazonian · 03/08/2010 20:23

I am not envious at all of you all with your plenty-of-sex lives and your nice men. Just go away. Stop it. You are making me not-envious.

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Warbride · 03/08/2010 20:29

When he does want it, usually comes to bed with a stonker on, no pants, flings bag the bedclothes and starts tugging my nightwear off.

That usually makes it obvious.

Pants on and no moves, equals = no rumpy for me tonight.

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Malificence · 03/08/2010 20:31

Straddling him and saying "give it to me big boy" usually works in this house .

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Warbride · 03/08/2010 20:32

That actually works??

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EricNorthmansmistress · 03/08/2010 20:34

Some variant of 'come here' if it's an early evening job, or he'll come to bed and start groping my bum if I'm already in bed. I never initiate it cos I don't need to - I just pick and choose when I fancy it cos he always does

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Malificence · 03/08/2010 20:36

Oh yes.

Sometimes he'll play hard to get and be all stern, he knows that gets me going, he makes me really work for it .

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Warbride · 03/08/2010 20:38

Sounds like hard work, we have a slapping sesh and I try to smack his bum as hard as poss then he smacks mine and we have a bit of playfighting. this sounds all kinky doesn't it?

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Malificence · 03/08/2010 20:40

I like a good hard bit of spanking.

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Warbride · 03/08/2010 20:46

I just like sex, when I can get it.

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lazarusb · 04/08/2010 11:09

I've always felt it's better to be upfront. I once told someone I fancied ' I like you, think you like me, do you fancy a fuck?'. He was quite surprised but appreciated the honesty and was grateful I wasn't going to play hard to get. Am similarly honest with dh now. It's great!

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