No smutty answers please, I'm serious.
DH has a stressful job that is just about to get more stressful. He has also told that he will have to reapply for it at some point in the next 3 or 4 months due to a reshuffle at work but hasn't been given a date or even a more precise timescale. We have a lovely 20mo son, have our house on the market and I work 3 days a week.
DH is clearly having a shit time and is willing to talk about the ins and outs of the situation. However, this alone is not helping him. He has gone into his cave and is not participating in family life much. All he seems to want to do is play violent computer games, as he says they help him to relax. He is even going off sex (unheard of). He recognises that he is depressed but doesn't want to go to the doc's or do frequent exercise.
I am not always the easiest person to live with but I am really trying to bite my lip and be nice and supportive. I find myself getting frustrated about him only contributing to the housework and childcare if he feels like it, or if I don't give him the choice. E.g. I was at work all weekend, so he had to have our son, but as soon as I was home I did everything elae that needed doing.
I also find it hard when he spends 3 hours a day playing games. This makes me cranky and snarky, and I feel bad afterwards for nagging when he is do clearly having a bad time. But I also feel like a drudge and mug, and that I am only here for sex and cleaning. Withholding these will mean that he gets grumpier and the house will ming.
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How can I help my frazzled DH?
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ruthosaurus · 27/07/2010 13:34
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