Is going for a third viewing unreasonable?

(41 Posts)
MissBetseyTrotwood Wed 04-Sep-13 20:37:08

It's a big, big decision; we are relocating family and work from city to country. We want all our (getting more elderly) parents to see it as, tbh, we might end up with them living there too a few years from now.

What do you think?

CaptainSweatPants Wed 04-Sep-13 20:38:42

I think it's fine

at least they'll know you're serious

mumblechum1 Wed 04-Sep-13 20:40:54

I think it is ABU yes.

But then we bought a house for half a million quid in the 90s without me even seeing it [shame] before exchange of contracts.

That was because we relocated from one end of the country to another and I couldn't face dragging two small kids, one with severe CP, to yet another viewing. DH described it to me over the phone and I said fine, just buy it.

So I'm at the other end of the scale grin

cq Wed 04-Sep-13 20:47:40

It's the biggest investment you'll ever make. Absolutely not unreasonable to be completely sure.

Any buyer serious about selling should not mind. Or even if they do, will not stop you of course.

mylovelymonster Wed 04-Sep-13 20:54:24

Surely there isn't an actual limit? You are seriously considering this property, so as many as needed to help you make the final decision yes/no is the reasonable number??????? Your money, your future - worth a teensy bit of 'inconvenience' to the vendor before you agree to hand over the biggest amount of cash you ever will? (presumably grin)

Hope it works out & best of luck with it all. Negotiate like a demon x

LynetteScavo Wed 04-Sep-13 20:55:13


I wouldn't (I've always known during first viewing if it was a yes or no) but that's just me.

If it was a close call between two properties I can understand why you would need to.

RandomMess Wed 04-Sep-13 20:55:47

Biggest expense ever, absolutely go back and see it again. Far better to not go ahead than put in an offer and then pull out over niggling doubts that you've not explored now.

MissBetseyTrotwood Wed 04-Sep-13 20:56:07

mumblechum1 you are a brave lady. grin

I don't trust my DH as much as you trust yours!

The seller can always tell us to get lost, can't they...

thanks all!

Jaynebxl Wed 04-Sep-13 20:58:20

Absolutely fine. You really need to be sure.

Kendodd Wed 04-Sep-13 21:04:15

I did hear an estate agent friend of mine say that if somebody views a house more than two times they almost never buy it. What doubts do you have?

Naoko Wed 04-Sep-13 21:11:11

Fine, of course, I've gone back to a shop three times before buying a pair of shoes before so why wouldn't you be really, really sure you wanted to buy a house...

(That said, the story of how my parents bought a house neither of them had actually seen is a family legend held in a certain degree of awe grin)

MissBetseyTrotwood Wed 04-Sep-13 21:11:29

We are torn between two places and just can't decide. In short, semi rural, great accommodation and garden but far from bus/train (DCs are 5 and 6, so teens before I know it)! OR, large, amazing Victorian post industrial space on the edge of nice small and bustly town but next to railway line and no real garden. Just. Can't. Decide. grin

OldBeanbagz Wed 04-Sep-13 21:12:03

We viewed our house around 4 times before making an offer. We had to convince ourselves that although it was unattractive at first glance from the outside, we could create something stunning from it as it was in the right location.

I'd ask if i were you though if your heart is set on it and your parents don't like it, what will you do?

MissBetseyTrotwood Wed 04-Sep-13 21:13:03

All these stories of buying houses never seen! Wow!

MissBetseyTrotwood Wed 04-Sep-13 21:15:35

I know it sounds wet but if they are very very against it I could never set my heart on it. And nor could DH; we absolutely respect their judgement (about property anyway, prob not decor!) and if they were very very anti somewhere I'd have to listen.

OliviaMMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 04-Sep-13 21:34:21

We can't possibly help unless you link them grin

goingtobefree Wed 04-Sep-13 21:51:05

You are most certainly not being unreasonable
It is propably the most expensive buy you will ever do, so go for another viewing
We are in the process of buying and seen it twice and the
Third time with a builder (as work needs to be done)
before we put our offer
It is the same feeling we had everytime we went, weboth loved it.

YANBU, it really wouldn't bother me if someone came back to view my property three time. To be honest if someone came back three times then put in an offer I would feel confident that the sale would complete.

OH and I agree with Olivia we need to see them grin

holidaybug Wed 04-Sep-13 22:10:02

YANBU - it is a huge investment. I once bought a house I had only viewed once (although DH had viewed it twice). As soon as I walked in after buying it, I knew I'd made a massive mistake. The next house we bought after that we viewed over 4 times before we bought it.

Mintyy Wed 04-Sep-13 22:11:00

Of course its not unreasonable!

Jan49 Wed 04-Sep-13 22:50:42

I think it's OK to view 3 times but who do you plan to take with you - you say "all our elderly parents"? I wouldn't be happy about a lot of extra family members all turning up to a viewing.

I think you should explain to the EA that they might be living with you in the future and ask the EA to mention that to the viewers as the reason for bringing them to the viewing. Personally as a seller I'd be miffed if a buyer asked to come back a third time in order to show the house to other family members. My prospective buyer did that last year and I came close to yelling at them all to leave. Wish I had - they later pulled out anyway.

mylittlemonkey Wed 04-Sep-13 23:08:58

We viewed our house 3 times because like you op we had a compromise with the
one we bought so needed to be absolutely sure the rest of the house was worth the compromise. I definately needed 3 viewings and when we moved in I was glad as knew we had made the right decision.

mumblechum1 Thu 05-Sep-13 07:26:59

*mumblechum1 you are a brave lady. grin

I don't trust my DH as much as you trust yours!*

I just didn't see it as that big a deal. We needed a large house in the country within a commute of London. If this one had turned out to be crap after we'd bought it and I'd seen it, we would have just flogged it and bought another grin

I was just fed up of taking two small kids on the plane to Heathrow more than twice

Erlack Thu 05-Sep-13 07:40:58

Links! Links! Then we can make up your mind for you. grin

I think people are way too apologetic about wanting to spend time seeing a place before they buy. On two occasions, I spent maybe a total of 30 minutes looking around the property we ended up buying, which when you think about it is absurd. I've spent more time agonising about buying a pair of shoes than that. If your elderly parents might end up living there, why shouldn't they have a chance to see it? Is a seller really going to say no, you are not allowed back?

wonkylegs Thu 05-Sep-13 08:14:03

Not in anyway unreasonable - we saw this place 3 times and the vendors said we were welcome to come back more if we needed.
We looked at a lot of properties, and this one wasn't my favourite house but it was my favourite whole package (house, garden, location, utilities, potential, price etc) and I needed to weigh it up that this was the right thing to spend an awful lot of money & upheaval on.

OhDearNigel Thu 05-Sep-13 17:06:34

we viewed a house three times once. We didn't buy it.

OhDearNigel Thu 05-Sep-13 17:09:50

The seller can always tell us to get lost, can't they...

In which case I would tell them they could keep their sale. When we had our house up for sale we would have had people back 3 times with mum, dad, uncle tom cobbly and all to secure a sale. It's not as if you're spending a tenner, is it !

MissBetseyTrotwood Fri 06-Sep-13 21:26:28

Third viewing

We went. It was lovely. We were hoping to see it on a horrible, wet and windy, grey depressing day. But it was pure, beautiful sunshine and a long lovely late summer evening. The in laws came with and loved it.

Needs more work than we thought at first.

It's rural but with about 10 or 15 houses around, so a hamlet really. The nearest station is a hop over the garden hedge and a walk across an orchard. Trains go 4 times an hour to the nearest town. So the DSs could lurch around a bit independently when they're older.

It's all happening very fast though. I'd have to give my notice in the next few weeks to leave my job at Xmas. I love my job. I love the community we live in but it's no good for our DSs as they grow. School options are better there and the streets are safer.

Sorry, I'm diverging from the original thread. grin

jenster1976 Fri 06-Sep-13 21:33:49

Hehe, knew it! I viewed this house about 2 years so it's been on the market for a while! We now live next village along and love it here, (Selling) come join us!

MissBetseyTrotwood Fri 06-Sep-13 21:35:25

And yes OhDearNigel selling a house is hard work! When we sold our last flat my DM nearly wet herself laughing at the photos as she claimed not to recognise the clean, tidy, orderly flat she saw!

It's a good budget we have because we have a lot of dead relatives who lived in old houses in old crap areas of London that got nice. Not because we're bankers or owt. grin

MissBetseyTrotwood Fri 06-Sep-13 21:38:17

Ha haaaaa! Ace. grin

It is a funny one, granted, but we do have peculiar requirements for DH's work and our family...

jenster1976 Fri 06-Sep-13 21:38:40

Sorry just meant that your description of the area made me think it was likely to be this area, it was lovely but was up for over £800k then which was too much... Great if you've got poss relatives to consider though!

MissBetseyTrotwood Fri 06-Sep-13 21:44:59

Cleverly spotted!

Yes, 800k+ is too much. So glad you like the area. The main house isn't 800k's worth but the whole package could work really well for us.

Being such a townie I'm scared of winter there though. That's the only thing that's putting me off; getting snowed or iced in. How's it been for your this (long) winter?

jenster1976 Fri 06-Sep-13 22:00:08

It was cold and we're on oil with a decrepit old boiler so it was v expensive, however the roads were generally fine, think there was only 2 days I didn't fancy dicing with it. We do have a 4x4 but to be honest its pretty manageable without. Although the train line goes down at the merest hint of ice or snow so DH had a few snow days!
Boughton's a good village and you're well placed between Faversham and Canterbury and there's a good community out here. Let me know if you've got any other questions, my DDs are 6 and 4 so similar to yours if you need pointing in any directions.

MissBetseyTrotwood Fri 06-Sep-13 22:12:38

Thanks! It's good to know the community is strong; I've got such a good support network here that I'm dreading leaving it tbh. Liked Boughton I have to say; my best friend grew up in the area and was a bit down on it but I didn't really get why.

It's such an unusual set up there, I can see why it hasn't sold earlier.

Anyway, have MNetted for way too long tonight. Need to tidy up and get to bed!


MissBetseyTrotwood Wed 02-Oct-13 21:03:08

jenster1976 I'm going to PM you too. But a question - what are your broadband speeds like? I'm trying to find out online but nowt beats an honest opinion from a resident imo! DH is going to be working from home so it's vital that it's a decent.

Things are moving at our place - ours is all spruced up and we've open house this weekend. Eek! Excited and scared all at once. grin

TheArticFunky Wed 02-Oct-13 21:13:18

We visited 5 times and also brought plumbers and builders with us. We also had one visit to inspect the loft.

I appreciate that it may have been a pain for the vendors however we were not interested in buying it in its present state we wanted to renovate and convert the loft we had to take professionals with us to advise if it was possible.

hifi Wed 02-Oct-13 21:30:35

Our buyer visited 3 times before offering and has been a further 3 since. It's a huge amount of money you are spending,view away.

MissBetseyTrotwood Wed 02-Oct-13 21:38:02

After the 3rd viewing we did put an offer in and it was accepted. Hurrah! Now to sell ours!

FCEK Thu 03-Oct-13 15:24:47

as a house seller, I have a viewer who implied she might come back for a third viewing which annoys me. I think 2 is enough and in this area, more than 2 is unheard of.

any more than 2 is just time wasting, they either want it or they don't. As a poster above says - if they need more than 2 viewings, then I think they are unlikely to buy it as something isn't 'right' if they need to keep checking.

Leopoldina Thu 03-Oct-13 15:28:49

why would it possibly annoy you if they wanted 28 viewings? you don't need to be there / know they've been. Let the agents earn their commission the hard way...

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