Upset at derision for my decor

(103 Posts)
DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 15:22:42

A colleague came round for coffee yesterday and openly laughed at my house and shockingly bad taste. She spent about 2 hours ridiculing my 'delusional grandeur' and picked out item after item for scorn.

I bloody love my home and spend most of my money and time on it because I really love interiors to the point of obsession. I openly admit that and I know my taste isn't to everyone's but I was offended.

Has anyone else had this happen to them? If I don't like something I just keep my trap shut.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Tue 20-Aug-13 15:23:21

Invite yourself to hers and let it rip.

It is a bit late, but it sounds like a perfect occasion for the Mn phrase, "Do you mean to be SO rude?"

nilbyname Tue 20-Aug-13 15:24:59

What's your house like!???

LemonPeculiarJones Tue 20-Aug-13 15:25:58

Wow, what a rude arsehole your colleague is!

Spend a nice half hour laying into their hair/clothes when you see them next.

No return invite for them! A potential friendship well and truly squashed.

And no, it's not funny, or 'just a joke' if that's what they say when they sense your annoyance or if you say anything. It's just rude and stupid.

Hasn't happened to me but it's rare for guests to be that rude. You were unlucky.

Chubfuddler Tue 20-Aug-13 15:26:26

Examples please. She sounds really unpleasant.

WetGrass Tue 20-Aug-13 15:26:53

To paraphrase Winston Churchill

"Madam, I can repaint, but I fear you will be burdened with your rude manners for life".

Sounds like jealousy to me!

hellymelly Tue 20-Aug-13 15:28:38

I agree she sounds jealous. And unpleasant.

tethersend Tue 20-Aug-13 15:28:45


My house is decorated in a way that only two other people appreciate (60s/70s throughout), so am used to the comments. It matters not a jot.

mrspaddy Tue 20-Aug-13 15:29:39

Very bitchy of her. Respect lacking!! It is an honour to be invited to someone's home and like you I would keep it zipped if I didn't like things. I think it is the only place you can be truly yourself and happy in. Did ou say anything back to her ?

Periwinkle007 Tue 20-Aug-13 15:30:02

how rude. I am always worried when people come to the house about what they might think of our taste or state of decor but noone has said anything yet.

FannyFifer Tue 20-Aug-13 15:30:26

You let someone take the piss out your house for two solid hours?

What the feck is wrong with you, why didn't you ask her to stop being rude or leave.

Seriously you don't have to put up with bullshit like that.

People only behave like this when let away with it.

fieldfare Tue 20-Aug-13 15:32:30

How shockingly rude!
I'd not have been so restrained op.

ProphetOfDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 15:35:54

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LauraChant Tue 20-Aug-13 15:39:18

I bet if you were to do it to her she would be majorly offended as well. I remember a school "friend" continously mocking our car when I was at school because it was old, whenever she saw it or was given a lift in it, but I only had to mention once that her doorbell was ridiculous (it played a tune) and she was in a major huff.

Admittedly we were both ten.

changeforthebetter Tue 20-Aug-13 15:41:17

What an inadequate bitch she sounds.

Icy indifference is the way to go. Really, I would be limiting any conversation with this mare.

I am massively underwhelmed by the 60/70s look. However, I keep my gob shut tight as I have twigs, fairy lights, pebbly shit, laminate flooring and family photos on the wall...... I am the lowest of the low grin

Enjoy YOUR home and ignore, ignore, ignore brew

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 15:43:47

I have been to her house and it is very nice but definitely not my taste. Here's me thinking that's what makes the world go around. It never crossed my mind to take the mick out of her choices and I really don't know her enough to warrant the comments and advice she insisted on a dishin'.
Nilby I am very much an Abigail Ahern fan/stalker and buy a lot from her Islington shop ( she's doing a diffusion range in Debenhams from Sept 1 ). My house is in v dark and sludgy because that's what I like. I think my crime was mentioning I spend most of my disposable cash on my home - that irked her. I don't have children so it isn't child-friendly and that pissed her off too ( she didn't bring hers so no danger).

Thought I'd found a new friend sad

treaclesoda Tue 20-Aug-13 15:43:50

She sounds horrible. And possibly jealous. But mostly horrible.

Out of interest, what did you say in response?

FannyFifer Tue 20-Aug-13 15:47:53

What does dark & sludgy mean?

CalamityJones Tue 20-Aug-13 15:52:49

I love Abigail Ahern - I'll bet it's absolutely gorgeous and your colleague goes in for magnolia walls and Ikea bookshelves.

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 15:53:36

I would have said something if I had not been so stunned by her rudeness. I was a bit agog to be honest. I won't waste my energy.
All my friends have different tastes and a couple are very interiors obsessed like me but that is neither here nor there as far as friendship goes... demi-john of wine, a bag of crisps and a reet laugh is all I require from a mate's home.

LazyMonkeyButler Tue 20-Aug-13 15:53:48

How very rude! I wouldn't waste any more time on her TBH. And, yes, what does dark & sludgy mean?

changeforthebetter Tue 20-Aug-13 15:55:34

How very dare you spend your money on your home (surveys own pink plastic tat strewn abode).

It's a shame when you think you've bonded with someone and they turn out to be a fuckwit.... ah well smile

MothershipG Tue 20-Aug-13 15:59:47

Just google imaged Abigale Ahern - I now know what Doom means by 'dark & sludgy'. Not my cup of tea but your (hopefully) ex friend was simply rude.

I did like her dog, very handsome! grin

changeforthebetter Tue 20-Aug-13 15:59:47

Ok, just googled AA. It looks very stylish - not my taste - but we have established that is pretty dire grin

I really wouldn't care if your house was painted sky blue pink with green dots if you were warm and welcoming.

MothershipG Tue 20-Aug-13 16:00:11


Oooh I just googled Abigail Aherne and I love it.

Alas! I have children. Although do you think those dark walls would hide little fingerprints?

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 16:10:27

Ooh Fanny it means v dark. You either likes it or not. F&B Downpipe, London Clay, Hague Blue. Paint out all your woodwork and ceilings in it and get lamps or a miner's pit helmet to navigate round your house.

tethers my sister has a brilliant mid-century vibe - her house is amazing and I love and appreciate what she has done - I wouldn't have it personally and she would certainly not have mine but we do nick ideas off each other.
I think I may be too precious about my house!

It looks cool to me.

Reality Tue 20-Aug-13 16:17:18

Oh wow, I bet your house is amazing!

I fail miserably at interior design, I aim for bright cheery colours and I think my house ends up looking like a nursery school (not helped by the kids' clutter, to be fair). The only rooms in my house I like are my purple front room and teal kitchen.

I might go the other end of the spectrum and Aherne-up my bedroom. My furniture is already dark (although bland, it's from Next) and I reckon dark blue walls and a couple of antlers would do a good job of disguising teh million books (mine) and boxes of Lego (DH).

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 16:21:25

Pete you won't be able to see fingerprints, dust, filth or your own children... ever. They'll be 42 before you find them in the luxurious inky darkness. Can't remember the last time me spindles got a wipe shock.

Shall I sign you up for 400litres?

MadBusLady Tue 20-Aug-13 16:21:28

If she doesn't read or know about interiors, she just won't understand that style at all. And I realise it's impossible to say that without sounding like a snob, but that's ok, cos I am smile

HarumScarum Tue 20-Aug-13 16:21:34

Your house probably looks incredible judging by what I found when I googled Abigail Ahern. I am very jealous. Your 'friend' is an arse. Regardless of taste (and yours sounds very swish indeed) it's just plain horrible to behave like that.

ProphetOfDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 16:22:06

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Capitola Tue 20-Aug-13 16:23:25

I thought you were going to say you have feature walls in every room, pleather sofas and light up twigs.

She was obviously jealous at your trendiness.

MrsDeVere Tue 20-Aug-13 16:24:34

I think it is very rude to be so critical of someone's home.

But it happens all the time on MN. People roar at aspirational decor or chavvy decor etc.

I have a very particular sort of taste and it would drive many to utter distraction but I like it.

I appreciate effort when I visit a home. Even if it is stuff I wouldn't touch with a barge pole. You can tell when someone has put a lot of love into their home even if it is stuff from Next (roundly despised on MN) or Argos (ditto).

I am sure your home is lovely and anyone who is that rude needs a good slap IMO.

colette Tue 20-Aug-13 16:25:22

DameDoom -how rude ! Hope you don't have to work too closely with her, she must think her opinion on what her colleugues are wearing is valid as well . How judgemental. e

ProphetOfDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 16:25:48

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LadyClariceCannockMonty Tue 20-Aug-13 16:26:56

'I thought you were going to say you have feature walls in every room, pleather sofas and light up twigs.'

What if she was?

OP, I can't believe you didn't show her the door and let her get as far as pointing out 'item after item'. You're a better person than I. smile

Northernexile Tue 20-Aug-13 16:27:34

God I love that look. I love grey. My husband thinks I'm nuts though. I'll be your friend if you want to sack off the rude one!

just googled Abigail Ahern and I think it looks very cool
I bet your house is fab and shes just envy

FunnysInLaJardin Tue 20-Aug-13 16:32:39

Lovely style Doom.

We've had this too btw. Once years ago we spent quite a bit doing up our bathroom in Sottini ceramics etc. This was about 25 years ago and it was white and chrome which was quite modern for those days. Our neighbour came round and said 'oh it's very................white'. Fucking white, is that all you can say you of the wooden pergola angry

NoMoreMadCatLady Tue 20-Aug-13 16:36:11

Is it so dark & gloomy that you accidentally gave her bovril and a dog biscuit instead of tea & cake? In which case maybe she has a point, and you need to open a window & splash out on a 30w bulb. Otherwise feel around the walls gently to find and show her the door. Cheeky cow smile

TerribleTantrums Tue 20-Aug-13 16:37:20

She is a philistine. I wouldn't want my house to be the style of your house, but I would bloody love to visit it because the Abigail Ahern photos look amazing. I can't imagine anything more boring than every home I ever visit being in my taste. One of my friends loves to do up old furniture with chalk pain, not my taste at all but I love her home with all its distressed bits and pieces because it's interesting.

I bet she's the sort of person who visits art galleries and says "I wouldn't want that on my wall at home" and totally misses the point of art giving you an experience outside of your normality.

At least she was up front so you know that she's a cow straight off, it might have taken months of sly comments and talking behind your back to work it out.

I have a feature wall in my bedroom
to hide the bad plastering.

Furniture hides the rest. grin

I love the idea of a house where you can't see dirt or children! The nearest I have to this is dark grey decking.

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 16:43:21

Am just sad that I actually really wanted to be her friend. I lied about the coffee cos' I was embarrassed - I actually cooked her a lovely lunch and spent hours rolling feckin' vine leaves the night before.

I do have a great circle of girlfriends so I am not a total saddo but she seemed great at work and I didn't want her to feel left out as she is quite new and teachers can be a funny bunch.

She does have a magnolia house with feature walls and no fireplace... never had a problem with it or even noticed until now. Am on warpath!

MadBusLady Tue 20-Aug-13 16:45:59

She sat there and ate home-made stuffed vine leaves and said all that? What a caaah!

Well I love your decor and vine leaves so I will you be your new friend. smile

Pagwatch Tue 20-Aug-13 16:55:42

I thinkthe OP is Abigail Ahern.

Great advertising grin

Seriously,what your house looks like is neither here nor there.

Being relentlessly mocking in someone's home is not the action of a nice person.
I just can't imagine how anyone gives themselves permission to do that with out a moments 'Christ I m a twat' reflection.

DameFanny Tue 20-Aug-13 16:56:39

I want to see photos of your house please. And Tethers too. I'm a design whore and proud.

She sounds like one of those people who take personal offence if you do anything that's different from their taste. Good thing you found out now before you get stuck with her grin

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 16:58:35

To be fair mad she may have slightly choked on the complementary cat hairs I accidently garnished with. What can you do with all the darkness?
Pete you are officially my mate so when I am kicking off ( not often... or ever) on AIBU, you must rescue me... your reward will be a lifetime of handy hints on how never to dust or clean but have everything looking pristine until you look closely.

MadBusLady Tue 20-Aug-13 17:00:40

It's true about dark surfaces, I cleaned the slate bathroom floor today after weeks of thinking "Meh, I haven't cleaned the floor for ages but it looks fine". Oh my lord it wasn't shock

Mumbledore Tue 20-Aug-13 17:07:49

OP I imagine your house looks like a magazine house and I am rather envious!! I love the Abigail Ahern style but would never be brave enough to attempt it, so I think it's great that you've gone for the style you love. I think 'friend' is jealous - forget it as you look around you thinking how lovely your home is grin

Ilanthe Tue 20-Aug-13 17:10:07

I googled Abigail Aherne as well and I love it. She was rude.

I have very strong views on design, and I am lucky enough to be able to express them in my job and privately to my family. I would never criticise someone's house unless I was specifically asked and then it would be 'this would look nice' rather than 'what you have is crap'.

Unfortunately, I have to share a house with my DH who has rather, erm, pedestrian pensioner design taste, so every room in our house is a compromise and therefore a bit anodyne. I have feature walls, though I am plotting their demise.

MadBusLady Tue 20-Aug-13 17:11:35

While I have fellow delusions of grandeur style whores here, can you tell me what you think about velvet sofas? It's this one I'm thinking of but in a shimmery mid-grey velvet which they don't show online. Not keen on the pink cushions.

I'm a little worried that I like mid-grey shimmery velvet now, but it might date too quickly and am I better off going for linen or herringbone or tweed for something that will be for minimum 10 years?

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 17:12:51

I will post DameFanny but my husband will have to get the proper camera from work. It is not a palace and my house is small and quirky with odd angles... that's why we bought it - no one else wanted the 1930's monstrosity at the end of a v posh Victorian road. I do feel sometimes that we paid way over the odds for it but there was something about the mad layout that shouted gallery walls and quirk. My DH had a dicky blue when I told the decorator to paint out our ceilings and woodwork dark. He was amazed how much taller it made our quite low ceilings ( we'd been in Victorian tce before)

Viviennemary Tue 20-Aug-13 17:14:23

She is a cheeky ignorant rude person. Whatever her thoughts were she should have kept them to herself as she was a guest in your house. I agree she sounds jealous. If you like your decor that's all that matters.

WannabeFayeMouse Tue 20-Aug-13 17:17:16

I wish I had a style for people to ridicule tbh. In my house it would be more like "did you just move in?" "no I've been here 7 years" "oh....."

So well done for having a style and doing your thing. Walk your own walk, beat your own path. Why do you need this woman's opinion when you know you like your house already?

LRDPomogiMnyeSRabotoi Tue 20-Aug-13 17:18:52

I wanna see tethers house!

She was very rude. Why is it people think it's ok to be rude if they tell you you're aspirational/rich/posh with it? confused

I bet if you'd spent all your cash on making a minimalist palace full of exposed splintery wood she'd have been fine with it.

What you're describing isn't my taste to live with, but who cares?

wonkylegs Tue 20-Aug-13 17:24:26

She was rude full stop.
I don't always like someones decor (life would be boring if we all liked the same stuff) but I'd keep it to myself and maybe if it was truly noteworthy/awful mention it to DH later. But I'd never be rude enough to say it to somebody.

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 17:26:06

Mad herringbone would be amazing. That is a lovely sofa. Mine are B&S too. I wouldn't personally have velvet because am a bit grotty and it would show pet hair. Herringbone is very classy and you could chuck over sheepskins, reindeer skins ( the buggers shed so don't) or various tartans/ cashmere throws.

TerribleTantrums Tue 20-Aug-13 17:33:48

Mad, if you have DC or are a bit clumsy then steer clear of velvet. I have two velvet chairs that are only three years old and they are horrible now, they've needed to be recovered for the last 18 months. Any spill at all ruins velvet, and it wears very quickly so if you slide your bum onto the sofa in the same place every evening you will have a bum-shaped bald patch.

Tweed would be lovely I think.

MadBusLady Tue 20-Aug-13 17:37:30

No DC but oh dear, we are a bit grotty too! Maybe the hunt goes on. That sofa comes in other fabrics but not particularly exciting ones. The herringbone and tweed samples I have are from and are really gorgeous, but we can't find a sofa we both like in there (because DP likes sitting as if in a dentist's waiting room and I actually like to be comfortable.)

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 17:42:14

I have two Asquith sofas - yes leather is the scourge of MN but they are distressed Chesterfield design so look good with throws etc. They get better ( obv) quite quickly over time and stand the test of hampers of various pets.

GrendelsMum Tue 20-Aug-13 17:43:22

So she came to visit your beautifully decorated house and sat there eating hand-made stuffed vine leaves, and laughed at you for two hours?

Touch of the green-eyed monster, I suspect. Either that or she was disappointed not to be offered Pombears.

GrendelsMum Tue 20-Aug-13 17:44:59

Oh yes, we have a brown leather sofa with rugs and cushions on it, and I think it's really good. As DameDoom says, as it gets older you can pretend it's distressed, rather than simply having been attacked by cats.

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 17:48:25

Mad you've unwittingly solved your own problem. Get DH his chair thingy and you buy a sofa. do not get seduced by unless you can afford to replace your sofa every 5 years. Tis work of the devil.

nilbyname Tue 20-Aug-13 17:54:37

I love your taste and think your house sounds great!

Sofas you say....tell me more!

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 17:56:02

Grendels do you too have hampers of pets falling out of cupboards?
We have a wide selection of waifs and strays.

MadBusLady Tue 20-Aug-13 17:57:21

Oh no,'s fabrics are lovely! I don't suppose you have any experience of Loaf? (Sorry for continuing hijack.)

Yes, DP is after a wingback leather chair. Might just banish him to that with his takeaway curry.

MummytoMog Tue 20-Aug-13 18:00:14

Can I come round? I will leave my kids at home, but I love the sound of your house. I would love to be able to decorate like that, but I struggle getting the odd bit of exciting wallpaper past DH (I apologise now that I have a feature chimney breast in Sanderson Summer Tree). We have a 1930s semi which is quite bland. I would love to have interesting angles to play with!

GrendelsMum Tue 20-Aug-13 18:00:29

I have never had a pet fall out of a hamper in a cupboard. How does this happen?

Is it along the lines of 'cat wants to go in cupboard. cat finds hamper. cat sleeps in hamper. door is shut on cat. some hours later, it occurs to humans that the cat is rather quiet'? If so, we've had the scenario without the hamper involved.

MummytoMog Tue 20-Aug-13 18:00:50

I said love a lot there. I'm not a total stalker. I have just spent two hours on Houzz though....

GrendelsMum Tue 20-Aug-13 18:01:15

Oh yes, we also have the horribly shedding reindeer skin.

I'll second the advice to avoid them.

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 18:15:21

Grendels in your honour I shall rename my hamper a small selection- Like ye olde Body Shoppe colleczione. Instead of a dewberry soap and body lotion, you'll receive a labradoodle pup, two kittens ( one will have to be a baldy alien type - we have a surplus) a long haired Peruvian guinea pig ( like Blue Peter's Liz), a giant African land snail and three hairgrips - or insects if they survive transit.

specialsubject Tue 20-Aug-13 18:22:30

you put up with this for two hours? Why didn't you ask her to leave after two minutes?

ubik Tue 20-Aug-13 18:24:56

I'm having a real sense of deja vu...

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered Tue 20-Aug-13 18:51:19

I think she was incredibly crass and ignorant to spend time in your house being so critical and taking the piss. I'm certain she's very jealous, especially because you've no need to take children into account with your style choice.
I've been in many -many,many- houses over the years and have "admired" decor that I hate, and I can be quite outspoken; it's just unnecessarily unkind to be negative.
I've googled too and I love it, I've done rooms in a similar style in the past.
I too now have a rather pedestrian husband whose idea of a wild colour is pale taupe! He was a wild punk when I met him!
And yes I've had the piss taken out of my choices too and bitten my lip knowing that if I retaliated the person would crumple.
No, they are not "flintstone" arches, they are mediteranean, you might think that a funny colour for a house but it's the same colour as the sky at dusk. But mainly - IT'S ONLY FUCKING PAINT!
OP I think you sound fab.

GrendelsMum Tue 20-Aug-13 18:57:54

Please don't create a pet selection hamper, Doom! It must be the only type of selection hamper my DMiL has not yet given me for Christmas or Birthday, and I just wouldn't know what to do with the guinea pig.

ubik Tue 20-Aug-13 19:02:13

I am very interested in the inky sludgy paint = less housework scenario. We live in a magnolia nightmare because our lovely Georgian tenement was rented to students for years. everything is magnolia - the walls, kitchen wall and floor tiles, the bathroom, the carpets.

I think I might actually go insane

Dame- I'm always up for a non existent rumble in AIBU.wink

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 19:21:38

ubik it's bloody genius and ignorance is bliss as far as I am concerned.
I wasn't that thrilled with the massive dry bogie I felt on my staircase - DH sadly carries a hanky ( I know) and it definitely wasn't me or my many pets. Must have been the York ghosties.

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 19:32:50

bewitchedI agree she was very crass but I doubt she was jealous - her husband is a high earner and her house is worth at least 3 times ours. She was furious about the amount I spend on lamps ( eeh, me house is practically black so there is going to be some certain lampage needed).
Anyway, roll on the dark nights. T'will be wonderous.

HarumScarum Tue 20-Aug-13 21:27:32

>> She was furious about the amount I spend on lamps

HAhahaha. This has made me snigger. I think maybe she has too much time on her hands. I can't imagine even having an opinion about someone else's lampage. Although, when I was helping my aunt do an inventory of her house and we got to fifty tables, I did gently suggest she shouldn't ever buy another.

ShoeWhore Tue 20-Aug-13 21:45:03

What an odd and rude way to behave.

I have quite specific taste but think it's rare I can't find something complimentary to say about someone else's house - what fabulous light in here, what a pretty lamp etc

Like the look of Abigail whatshername - perhaps I should embrace the pitch darkness of my kitchen and go for it? grin

trixymalixy Tue 20-Aug-13 21:49:03

I love love love Abigail Ahern! I'm jealous of your home and I haven't even seen it!!

Ignore her, she has no taste.

SabrinaMulhollandJjones Tue 20-Aug-13 21:49:07

I did just have to google Abigail Ahern to see her dog. He is indeed v handsome.

I would never criticise anyone's decor - just so rude. I would tell bare faced lies rather than hurt someone's feelings.

trixymalixy Tue 20-Aug-13 21:52:33

Ha, just read where you said she has a B&Q house ( magnolia with feature wall). I could have guessed that!

LittleBearPad Tue 20-Aug-13 22:07:45

Dame your house sounds gorgeous and your guest sounds like a bitch. You were more polite than I would have been.

Only a Mumsnetter would have a friend who was furious about their lampage. grin

How you didn't laugh in her face I don't know!

BranchingOut Tue 20-Aug-13 22:14:56

I passed by there today, on my way to the Farrow and Ball shop, natch, and had to fight the urge to pet one of the dogs smile

RaspberrySnowCone Tue 20-Aug-13 22:18:54

It's your home you can decorate how you want, it's your space. Your colleague sounds incredibly rude and seriously lacking in social skills. Don't invite her again.

Foosyerdoos Tue 20-Aug-13 22:23:29

I googled too, looks fab. I think your 'friend' is jealous.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Tue 20-Aug-13 22:36:01

Def jealous!

MrsFlorrick Tue 20-Aug-13 23:51:11

OP. I very much like AA stylee. I no longer reside in the trendy borough where her shop is. However I too spend spare cash after DC (=whatever I can wrestle from DH) on home and home decor style etc.

In fact I have had a well known interiors magazine photograph my very stylish kitchen diner this afternoon.

Your now ex friend would really really hate me. Stylish very designed home and a 2yo and a 4yo. Hahah.

I will be your friend and I certainly wouldn't mock your home. In fact I want to see it. And I am interiors obsessed and could do with a friend who is as bad as me. grin

WafflyVersatile Wed 21-Aug-13 00:00:44

I really like the style though it would probably be too dark for me to live with. I think my problem is I like a bit of everything and fail to commit properly to anything...

I have stuff that I know other people think is terrible taste but we all handle it with humour. I don't mind that my taste isn't everyone's.

Anyway sounds like she was very rude so bollocks to her.

DameDoom Thu 22-Aug-13 00:00:45

You lot have made me feel so much better. Thank you one and all. Ironically, I blustered out of the bedroom last night and managed to break two toes due to total pitch blackness. Shall have to sue bloody Abigail Ahern grin.

DameDoom Thu 22-Aug-13 00:19:23

Shoewhore if you've got a dark dingy kitchen you should absolutely do it. I have done a gallery wall and hung a massive ornate mirror with loads of candles n shizzle. It looks delightful and I have precisely two inches of usable workspace so maintain a certain slimness... what's not to love?
Mrs Florrick I am so impressed. Which mag will it be in? Will definitely buy it.

Jaynebxl Thu 22-Aug-13 07:02:43

It is definitely a very particular style and personally I would hate to live somewhere so dark myself but if I found myself visiting a friend with such a house I hope I would focus on picking out some nice things to comment on before spending the rest of the time talking about something else. Her behaviour was horribly rude and judgemental.

sleepcrisis Thu 22-Aug-13 08:00:15

I think I love your house, DD. Woman sounds like a twat. I used to live in AA's shop but live far far away now where every other house is magnolia and they all think I'm a wannabe hipster for liking grey walls and antlers.

Really sorry to hijack thread but can I ask you a Q about dark and gloomy? Sorry I know it's really cheeky but never met anyone who has actually done dark and gloomy. I have been fighting the urge to paint front room down pipe. It's currently bare plaster. Haven't got the guts to do ceiling and woodwork too - is north facing and fairly small - 4x4m.
Ceiling not too low but not very high. Maybe 2.15m ish. Is Victorian but no bay. Is knocked through to the back reception room with a 2.5m opening but the rear window is now a door to kitchen extension so not huge amount of light. Dh's compromise is to paint front room down pipe and rear room something meh like pavillion grey. Would that look shite and half hearted? What do I do with woodwork? Argh. Need a confidence boost!

Whoops that's more than a quick Q. Sorry..

maybemyrtle Thu 22-Aug-13 08:57:33

"her husband is a high earner and her house is worth at least 3 times ours"
Money can't buy style, or even manners apparently. What a cow.

DameFanny Thu 22-Aug-13 08:59:41

Still waiting for photos <taps foot>

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