Homeless at Christmas : /

(45 Posts)
surreyagain Sat 24-Nov-12 23:30:09

Can anyone help? We are a professional couple with children who have just moved to Farnham for schools and are still looking for a house to rent. We are in holiday cottages at the moment but have no idea where we will be staying for the two weeks over Christmas as everything is booked. I wouldn't mind if it was just us but our children keep asking where we will be and where Santa will find us. I just wondered if anyone has a 4+ property around Farnham way which they would be interested in renting over the holiday period. I know it's a strange request and most people would be hesitant because they don't know us. We would be more than happy to meet - we are a very house-proud couple and our children are very well-behaved ; ). Alternatively, if anyone has a house they rent out near Farnham, please let me know. I am feeling very guilty at the moment : (. Many thanks!!

Can't you go back to where you came from for Christmas? Are they going to chuck you out of the holiday cottages?

What's a 4+ property?

wonderstuff Sat 24-Nov-12 23:38:43

I imagine 4 or more bedrooms.. Lots of properties in Farnham on rightmove to rent..

hf128219 Sat 24-Nov-12 23:40:38

I think they just need a house for the 2 weeks over Christmas.

learnandsay Sat 24-Nov-12 23:42:22

I know nothing about estate agencies. But I did a Google search on 4+ and came up with the number of bedrooms.

wonderstuff Sat 24-Nov-12 23:43:32

What are you going to do after Christmas?

BeerTricksPott3r Sat 24-Nov-12 23:46:58

I would hit the EA/rental offices on Monday and start looking for somewhere. MN is fab but it's not a lettings agency and I think you need to get somewhere secure asap.

hf128219 Sat 24-Nov-12 23:53:25

http://www.holidaylettings.co.uk/surrey/adate1.4739/adate2.4753/

Try here

surreyagain Sun 25-Nov-12 00:14:50

Thanks. I know this isn't the right place to post. Moved back from overseas. Am registered with 20 agencies, huge waiting list for the school and so we need to wait for a house nearby to arise. Am ringing the agencies twice a week. Have tried many options and this was a last minute thought. Hope I don't annoy people posting on here : (

BeerTricksPott3r Sun 25-Nov-12 00:18:09

A house is your priority, right at this moment, not a school. It sounds extremely stressful, hope you find somewhere for Christmas.

GrimAndHumourlessAndEven Sun 25-Nov-12 00:19:28

oh that sounds grim

um um shove stuff into storage and hotel for the festive period?

tell kids that Santa is vair clever and knows where children are, the robins look for them and go and tell Santa

this is a robin, in case you are a bit hazy on bird id

learnandsay Sun 25-Nov-12 00:20:37

As far as I can tell you're not annoying anyone. Hope you find a place. Hope you have a nice Christmas.

Oh, God. I hope..

wonderstuff Sun 25-Nov-12 00:21:01

I can't help but good luck. I think I'd go for housing stability over school catchment if push came to shove. Hope it works out for you.

surreyagain Sun 25-Nov-12 00:35:46

Thanks everyone : ). I am tempted to go for any house but hubby is insisting on waiting. Might have to go the hotel route. But with three little ones I just wanted a nice homely Christmas, not all cooped up in a hotel room. Trawled lots of holiday websites including the one above suggested. But everything is booked. Ho hum. Perhaps I should write to Santa as well ; !)

BeerTricksPott3r Sun 25-Nov-12 00:40:20

I'd write to your hubby instead.

^Dear Hubby,

I am not playing the part of Mary this year and neither are our children.
Therefore I will be paying a deposit on a long-term let tomorrow.
Feel free to join us.

surreyagain"

lyraflo Sun 25-Nov-12 00:44:39

Good luck! I can imagine getting the kids comfortable for Christmas is number one priority! Maybe get them to write a letter to Santa telling him about what's going on! We're moving to Surrey from overseas on 18th December and the letter idea seems to be allaying large amount of anxiety - best of all, even if you have to "post" the letter with present delivery instructions at the last minute at least magic means it'll get to Father Christmas in time.

annh Sun 25-Nov-12 00:52:52

Are you looking for a house to rent just so you can be on the huge waiting list for the school or are there places available once you find a house in catchment? It sounds like the former in which case, for God's sake, don't make yourselves miserable moving from pillar to post just so you can be on a waiting list. There must be other houses available. Where are your children going to school at the moment? And please say you're not waiting on South Farnham!

madwomanintheattic Sun 25-Nov-12 01:35:24

Um, why is he insisting on waiting? What is he insisting on waiting for?

Initially I thought there were none avail, but there seem to be loads... Just sign up for a short term let whilst you find the 'forever' house?

<baffled>

Just as a matter of interest, which school are the kids in now, and why does it have to be Farnham? There are plenty of towns reasonably close if it is just for work, and there are several decent schools in them...

surreyagain Sun 25-Nov-12 08:02:50

Thanks for your posts. We started planning this move months ago and visited lots of schools. We were happy to move to several of the areas. All had really long waiting lists so we chose the school we loved and the area as it seems to be a case of waiting wherever we go. So here we are. In Farnham. We need to be on the doorstep of the school or we will never make any inroads on the list. Actually, the list isn't too bad if we can find a house close by. But nothing at the moment and we have been told it will pick up again after Xmas. Just not sure where to go in the meantime. Hubby says if we take anything we will just sit on the list forever. The only school with places is not a good option at all. I am home teaching at the moment.

RosemaryandThyme Sun 25-Nov-12 08:30:20

Is it that you are waiting to buy in the catchment area of your choice ?

And meanwhile you need to rent - is that right ?

If so, it seems a bit odd, it could take months for a property that you want to come on the market and to buy it and move in, meanwhile you'll be wasting lots on rent and struggling to keep four children up to speed academically at home, seems an awful lot of presure for you.

Time for a re-think maybe ?

If location is flexible perhaps reconsider school choices, must be some ace schools out there with spaces.

OliviaMumsnet (MNHQ) Sun 25-Nov-12 08:56:51

Hi there
WE are going to move this thread to our property section.
Thanks
Olivia
MNHQ

hf128219 Sun 25-Nov-12 08:57:06

Really confused! I thought you just needed somewhere to stay for 2 weeks over Christmas?

OliviaMumsnet (MNHQ) Sun 25-Nov-12 08:59:22

blush
Best of luck sorting it all out

wonderstuff Sun 25-Nov-12 09:10:08

One of the houses on rightmove was a short-term let..

hattifattner Sun 25-Nov-12 09:17:14

put your stuff in storage for 2 weeks and move into a B&B or the travelodge. Theres a new one opening in ALdershot, theres one in Guildford, possibly one in Farnborough. Plus Camberley.

Or go stay with relatives.

Its hardly "Homeless at Christmas"

UrsulaBuffay Sun 25-Nov-12 11:13:57

Follow a star? wink

surreyagain Sun 25-Nov-12 11:55:14

No, not buying. Just need to rent a house close to the school to even have. Chance. And there are none. We have a short let but it is booked for three weeks over Xmas. Thanks for the tip about the short term let on right move. I rang last week about this one but its unfurnished!

SandyChick Sun 25-Nov-12 12:45:37

What about something like this ?

Or could you could go anywhere for 2 weeks over christmas? If you don't need to stay near Farnham then you could turn it into a little christmas break somewhere?

VerityClinch Sun 25-Nov-12 13:53:53

Does it matter if its unfurnished? Where is all your stuff?

Blueschool Sun 25-Nov-12 18:09:45

Samdychic idea is nice.

Use this is as a chance to have a lovely Christmas break in a nice cosy farmhouse somewhere or similar.

tiredemma Sun 25-Nov-12 18:18:44

I clicked on this thread as I was really concerned that a family would be literally 'homeless at christmas'.

not really 'homeless' is it?? - like freezing cold homeless, sleeping in shop doorways (or squalid b&b's with your kids) and hoping for a dish of food from a soup kitchen on xmas day.

hmm

aufaniae Sun 25-Nov-12 18:25:19

Take an unfurnished!

When I moved into my flat I had nothing, you'll soon pick up bits.

Probably cheaper to move into an unfurnished and buy some nice IKEA / second hand stuff than to pay for a hotel over Christmas!

LadyMaryChristmas Sun 25-Nov-12 18:27:34

I don't think that really makes a difference, triedemma. The OP doesn't have anywhere to live and appears very stressed out about it. It makes her and her family homeless. Homeless covers lots of things, even someone staying on their friend's sofa is homeless.

I hope you manage to find somewhere, surrey.

tiredemma Sun 25-Nov-12 18:37:44

I know what homelessness covers. Ive worked on a team that provides mental health services to homeless people.

LadyMaryChristmas Sun 25-Nov-12 18:42:11

So why post the above? confused The OP doesn't have anywhere to go, it doesn't mean she's any less stressed than someone facing a B&B or a shop doorway for Christmas.

hf128219 Sun 25-Nov-12 18:42:46

She is technically homeless over Christmas as she doesn't have anywhere to stay.

It was only the thread title.

tiredemma Sun 25-Nov-12 18:47:39

"I am tempted to go for any house but hubby is insisting on waiting. Might have to go the hotel route. But with three little ones I just wanted a nice homely Christmas, not all cooped up in a hotel room"

She does have options? No?

hf128219 Sun 25-Nov-12 18:49:39

She is looking for advice or help. It's not very constructive to post if you offer neither. hmm

Viviennemary Sun 25-Nov-12 18:50:17

I'm amazed you didn't make plans as to where you were going to live in advance of moving countries. Or did your original plans go wrong. Where were you planning to stay. Can't quite understand this I'm afraid.

LadyMaryChristmas Sun 25-Nov-12 18:50:30

She does have options, personally I'd tell the husband to piss off and I'd sort out a house with or without him. It doesn't mean that she isn't any less stressed than someone in a shop doorway though. I'm not here to judge or tell someone their worries are out of proportion or any less important than someone elses.

tiredemma Sun 25-Nov-12 18:51:27

My advice would be get a hotel. Let someone else wait on you over the xmas and new year period and good luck with finding your home in the new year.

Blueschool Sun 25-Nov-12 20:46:58

Op do you think you and your dh has fixed onto this school a little too much? Too the point its stopping you getting on in life.

It sounds like a huge stress for the remote chance of a school place.Maybe you should look at other areas too? One with a handful of good schools to increase your chances.

Dont get to hung up on OFSTED, school rankings etc. I bet your waiting for South Farnham as its top of the leagues, but there are plenty of wonderful schools all over Surrey.

surreyagain Sun 25-Nov-12 22:40:06

Thanks everyone, especially to a couple of particularly lovely posters. Will bow out now as I am feeling a bit of a fraudster and I really was just wondering whether anyone out there was wishing to rent their house over Christmas. I have just come back from a country where I was part if a similar network and lots of people were posting similar messages and lots of people were interested in renting and getting some money.

But you are quite right. We are not homeless. I just feel bad that we don't have a 'home' for our children at Christmas. I have such lovely memories of my childhood Christmases and want to do the same for them. I have actually looked all over the country for country cottages but they all seem to be over 3 grand for two weeks or booked. And the school story is very complex and far too long a story for on here. We are on several lists and actually started off in a completely different area on yet another waiting list. And we did just as some of you suggested. We have come somewhere with lots of good schools. But they all have long lists so we have to park up somewhere. But hey, that's my problem to work out. Will bow out, agree that there area many many people out there in far worse a situation and work out some way to give my beautiful children a happy Christmas. Thank you : ))

hf128219 Sun 25-Nov-12 23:13:22

Good luck! You would be able to get a couple of family rooms in a Travel Lodge for under £1K for 2 weeks over Xmas.

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