Did you compromise on anything when buying your forever home?

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Piemistress Sat 17-Nov-12 10:19:15

I am having a dilemma. We have sold our house and currently searching for our long term family home (we are in Scotland). There are 3 contenders and I just don't know what to do as each one has something that the other house doesn't IYSWIM. Unfortunately we can't really wait and see if anything else crops up as are having to rely on the kindness of family and friends for accommodation in the interim (we are 2 adults, 2 young kids).

House A is the smallest but has the nicest garden. It is huge, sunny and totally enclosed. It also has a big flat driveway with lots of parking space. There is no en-suite or space to build one (itself not a huge deal as have never had one). It has a conservatory off the lounge and we could use the dining room as a playroom. The downstairs windows would need replacing and there isn't masses of storage. The plot is nice and open and doesn't feel hemmed in and has a nice views front and back.

House B has a lovely feel inside. There is lots of space and a nice open plan kitchen/diner/family room and separate playroom off the lounge. The bedrooms are all big with a huge family bathroom and en-suite and all with built in wardrobes. It would need a lot of work though, the boiler is over 20 years old and both bathrooms need replacing. The front has lovely views but the garden is very overlooked and the back of the house feels very close to other houses. Because the village is on a slope there is a house immediately behind this one which is why it feels so overlooked, it's a big house and sits above this one if that makes sense. The garden does face south and east though.

House C is randomly the house I grew up in! The family that bought it from my parents are moving. I don't know if this would just be too weird or not. It has a lovely south facing open garden, conservatory, lots of storage and an en-suite. It all depends how much work needs doing to it too.

I am hoping after second viewings that my mind will be made up for me but I'm just not sure! With Houses A and B it's garden and open plot versus house and the I have the emotional ties with House C.

Sorry for waffle!

Did you make any comprises at all or just wait it out till the right house came along?

We compromised on the closeness to a main road - we are off the road so is just a traffic noise kind of thing. But the plot/garden is fantastic, it is not overlooked and the house was (albeit in a very rundown state) what DH &I both love architecturally. We have spent £££ on a total renovation - so now we are soon to move into a fantastic, fantastic house on a large, lovely plot. We have road noise we kind of don't notice any more (and if it had been in a quieter spot it would probably have been about £50K more expensive).

I don't think your heart is in house 2. And being overlooked (or feeling overlooked) can be a real blah feeling after a while. In our old house our house felt overlooked (though weirdly due to window angles etc really wasn't) but the surrounding houses just felt a bit "looming" IYSWIM.

Good luck. There will be a compromise on something. There always is. House 1 - could you eventually extend to add extra space?

CMOTDibbler Sat 17-Nov-12 11:07:22

I don't think we'll ever buy a forever home tbh as we are happy moving every 5-7 years, but we've always compromised.

In your case I'd go for a or C - I hate being overlooked, and nice front gardens are a drag as you never actually use them. I think C would swing it though

RedHelenB Sat 17-Nov-12 11:28:06

House C - you know what you are getting!!

Piemistress Sat 17-Nov-12 11:37:44

The problem with House A is that it would be quite hard to extend as the house sits a bit higher than the garden? And a double story extension would cut out quite a bit of sunlight. I am a nightmare! DP would be happy with any of them but I'm harder to please!

House B second viewing today and the other two tomorrow. I think the overlooked garden is exaggerated because we are moving from a house with a great uninterrupted view of fields out the back of us and are in a very quiet cul de sac out the front.

All of the houses are within five mins walk of each other too, mwahhhh.

Piemistress Sat 17-Nov-12 11:38:45

Do you think it would be weird moving back into a house you lived in for 15 years when growing up?i think I will know for sure if it is after tomorrow!

WildThong Sat 17-Nov-12 11:41:56

You have to go with your instict if it is your forever home. We compromised on the internal condition of ours but did get that good feeling from it when we viewed it. We have been here 2 years and still have a long way to go but we have forever to do it so don't regret it.

7to25 Sat 17-Nov-12 14:15:20

internal condition is irrelevant as you will be there forever and do those things anyway!
I think everybody compromises on something, it only matters how important that is to you.
I live in Scotland and don't think gardens are used the same way here as in the south of England.
A colleague of my husband moved here and chose his house for the wonderful garden. they have never used it because of the weather. (west coast)

ClareMarriott Sat 17-Nov-12 15:44:21

If you want space, not to be overlooked and to live on/near a slope, it would seem to point to House C !!! If we could, my three sisters and I would buy the bungalow in Ireland where we spent childhood holidays !!!! Good luck with your decision!!!!!

betterwhenthesunshines Sat 17-Nov-12 17:26:43

Can't advise on your choice, but yes, we had to compromise. The back garden is overlooked ( doesn't bother me). Double fronted house which I just loved on sight, but a narrow hall in the middle - sorely tempted to knock down a wall so one of the front living rooms is open plan as the narrow hall is a real log jam. Not much else as it was flats when we bought it so we made most things work how we wanted!

Piemistress Sat 17-Nov-12 17:37:42

Just been back to House B for a second look and it's not as badly overlooked as I thought it was from the first visit. We more overlook them IYSWIM but there are 2 houses by the back garden. It needs alot of work though which does scare me a little (2 new bathrooms pretty much straight away) and boiler is over 20 years old. My dad came too and pointed out things I hadn't noticed BUT because we plan on staying there till the kids leave home I am thinking long term on work. The owner also showed me plans they had drawn up for an extension which did look lovely! I guess the valuation will reflect what needs to be done.

House A and C tomorrow so am hoping by tomorrow night I know in my heart which one! Because we are making an offer off market will have to pay for the survey ourselves.

Rhubarbgarden Sat 17-Nov-12 19:07:01

House C sounds like a winner if you can deal with the weirdness. I think you'll have to go with your gut feeling really.

Like Fishfingers we compromised on closeness to a road in order to get the architecture and location we wanted - Georgian village houses are always right on the road. There is always a compromise, whatever your budget.

Piemistress Sat 17-Nov-12 19:21:35

My dad walked past House C and said all the wood looked rotten under the roof (under the V bit does that make sense?) Is that easy enough to fix? I think i am in such à dilemma as its so much cash and I just want to get it right. We compromised on current house with traffic noise for great view and never regretted it!

Startail Sat 17-Nov-12 20:36:54

Yes, no spare bedroom, but outbuildings and a big garden.

Really wish we had a utility room, but didn't know then quite how much washing 2 older DDs cause.

Startail Sat 17-Nov-12 20:40:32

Oh and meant to say C if you won't feel odd making it your own.

A if too many ghosts.

Themobstersknife Sat 17-Nov-12 20:51:11

I will stick my neck out and be a lone vote for House B! The lovely feel is key for me. Storage for me is another key point. We are a little overlooked but we are in the house more than the garden, although we do use the garden a lot. I suspect our neighbours are more annoyed at us in the garden whereas we are not really aware of them. We compromised on not having a kitchen/diner/family room as that was top of our list, but we have the potential to create that further down the line. But then I grew up in the smoke and have lived in urban areas since so never had the lovely views.

Mandy21 Sat 17-Nov-12 21:15:54

From your original description I'd also go for House B. I'd love the big house, lots of storage, big bedrooms, big bathroom, ensuite, it wouldn't matter a jot to me that we were overlooked. Even if you use the garden quite a lot, you live in the house day in day out and so thats my priority. If its a forever house, you can do the work over time (voice of experience - 2.5yrs in this house and we still have the peach bathroom suite blush!)

Piemistress Sat 17-Nov-12 21:25:49

Thank you all! Will revert tomorrow after second viewing of A and first of C (since I left home anyway!)

myron Sat 17-Nov-12 23:15:37

House A for me. Decent plot size and not being overlooked are huge pros! You can renovate/extend over time especially if you planning to live there long term.

tedglenn Sun 18-Nov-12 08:46:22

Agree with rhubarb that whatever your budget, there is always a compromise. This move, we have our biggest budget ever and our budget is generous for the area we are moving to. In theory, we could afford our perfect house (i.e. through the process of saying 'here's a house at xx, move it away from the main road and it would cost xx more, give it a bigger garden and it would be xx more, give it nicer views and it would be xx more etc etc). But 9 months of searching shows me that the perfect house doesn't exist! You'd find one with all the features above, but it would be dark inside or back on to a scratty neighbour. So I think you are right not to hang around looking for the 'perfect' house.

The compromises in the house we are buying are: a tiny hall (stairs straight ahead, so have to go through living room to circulate through the house); less land than i wanted; and not my preferred style (it's Edwardian).

In your situation, I would buy A (or C if it suited your family dispassionately, away from the emotional ties).

Piemistress Mon 19-Nov-12 13:41:37

So, went to see the old family home last night. Felt a little wierd especially as they haven't done anything to it bar paint a couple of rooms. The carpets were still the same and the kitchen looked exactly the same! I was hoping that after seeing the house my our decision would be easy but it's not!

Ultimately I prefer House B inside, the layout is lovely with playroom off the lounge and open plan family/diner, 4 bedrooms (all decent size but one significantly smaller) and the front one has a great open outlook with view of some hills and the sea (past the houses in front as above them on a slope). However the en suite is attached to a bedroom at the back not the nice front one so no idea how much that would be to change. Plus the boiler is over 25yrs old. It's just the huge house behind it I can't get over! I think it would always bug me?? The front of the house has a lovely open aspect it's just the back that feels really hemmed in.

Parents old house is probably the same size wise just a different layout. No open plan kitchen/diner like I would like (don't think could change it as supporting wall inbetween), huge lounge and has a conservatory. We would make the dining room the playroom. All bedrooms are a really good size and en-suite is off the right bedroom. All the wood is rotten under the eaves so guess we are looking at least £5K to replace that with plastic facias (not sure of spelling) but the garden is more child friendly, very enclosed, sunny and private. That's the only thing that's swaying it really. Internally the amount of work needed on both houses is the same (new carpets, bathrooms, decor etc). I don't really feel especially emotional about it being my parents old house (especially as it was sold because they had split up). There is a lovely open aspect out both the front and the back.

DP says he's happy with either! I'm definitely more fussy!
ARGHGHGHGH!

I can't link to schedules as it's an off market sale (nothing suitable where we like so I put an advert in the paper and had a few responses)

Hemmed in. Bad vibe there. If this was relationships and an emotive term like "hemmed in" was used we would all be saying "leave the bastard" grin.

I have never been in this position over houses - but I would seriously write a list of pros and cons for each house. Start factually (bedroom sizes etc) and then do an additional bit of more emotive terms.

Leave the lists for a bit (an hour, a day) and then go back to them.

Then, ignore the lists completely and go with your instinct. Though to be honest how you write the list will probably subconsciously reveal your instinct too.

And if all offer too much of a compromise then walk away.

kitsmummy Mon 19-Nov-12 13:58:18

Can't the kitchen/diner in your parents house be opened up by taking the supporting wall down and putting a steel beam in in place?

Piemistress Mon 19-Nov-12 13:59:37

I think ideally I might wait longer but the problem is we are moving out of our house in 2 weeks and staying with family and don't want to take advantage of their goodwill by staying with them for toooo long. Am back to work from maternity leave in March/April so would ideally have moved into our new house by then.

I think deep down my heart likes in House B BUT I know the 'hemmed in' feeling would constantly bug me , I love the house but not the plot. The view from the kitchen window sink is just a fence so I can't see the kids playing from their either. I don't think the perfect house will exist and I know I have to compromise on something. Sigh!

Piemistress Mon 19-Nov-12 14:01:05

kits I think it could. My long term plan with either house would be to build an extension sun room on the back and have a big open plan room with the kitchen and dining room. We are planning on being in this house till the kids leave home (at least), the youngest is 5 months so a good while!

KirstyJC Mon 19-Nov-12 14:04:37

I would avoid House B, but then our last house had a garden that was overlooked and as a result we never used it. You can't change the other houses and where they are, but pretty much anything inside a house can be changed, so I would count B out.

For me personally I like the sound of House A, the big sunny garden, lots of parking and a driveway - sounds fab!

House C depends on how weird it would be to move back to parents home.

When all is said and done, you can write lists and rationalise it for ever. That won't help - just close your eyes, think about living in each one. With your furniture, your things, and your family running around in there. Which one FEELS right? Which one makes you want to kick your shoes off, put your feet up on the settee and have a cuppa when you walk in? That's the one to buy.smile

indiegrrl Mon 19-Nov-12 14:09:10

Don't worry about a boiler being old, if you can afford about 4k, which is what is cost us to upgrade (pipes as well as boiler). Qualified firms take this in their stride it isn't a big job or too dirty - just costs money!

DewDr0p Mon 19-Nov-12 14:10:05

Nowhere is perfect ime.

Is there anything you can do to make House B feel less overlooked?

It's just that the house itself sounds fab. The kitchen/diner/family room would swing it for me, I have to say.

What's your gut feel?

I would go with house C. We nearly bought the house DH grew up in. But it had been bought from his parents by a builder (the one currently doing our house) and transformed. It is no longer the house he grew up in IYSWIM. Yes the same basic layout, the same parquet flooring...but decor/fixtures/fittings all updated and it does not feel like the same house.

THe hemmed in phrase just keeps coming from you for house B. Red Flag.

ANd yes, you can removing a supporting wall. We have - and now have the most amazing open plan space thanks to some RSJs.

Piemistress Mon 19-Nov-12 14:56:15

I have approached the owner of House C and advised we would like to get a survey and valuation done (it will be at our cost as house wasn't marketed) so just waiting to hear back from them as I know they might not be able to commit to an entry date as they have to find a new house in new city (they have to move there). Hopefully they will see the advantages of selling directly and avoiding sellers fees which are about £2K! If it all gets a bit sticky then we will go for House B. I know realistically living in the part of Scotland that we do that there isn't a huge amount of time spent in the garden but it's nice to have some privacy when you do! smile

Ohhhh....how exciting. Keep us updated.

VikingVagine Mon 19-Nov-12 17:06:29

What about renting somewhere until you find somewhere perfect?

tugamommy Mon 19-Nov-12 18:28:57

I know I'm probably alone here but I would never buy a house with a south facing garden, ie with a north facing front. It means none of the front rooms get any sun, ever. It has to be east/west for me.
But other than that def house B. Storage is the most impt thing ever! smile

Piemistress Mon 19-Nov-12 19:14:35

We did think about renting but it would be over £1000 a month which is hard to swallow! Even for a 2 bedded place. We have ruled out House A now as its about 1/3 smaller than the others (despite great garden) and neither of us had a great yearning for it. ok so (sorry for brain dump on MN!)

House B
Front faces East with open aspect
Garden is a strip running down the side and faces east and south.
Garden is semi overlooked from above and to the side
We overlook other houses quite badly from the back hence hemmed in feeling
Small kitchen but is open plan to dining room (wall has been knocked down) giving open plan small dining/family room
Decent sized lounge with single storey room next to it (probably use as playroom)
Potential to join playroom with family room by adding on a sunroom which would pretty much link up whole ground floor quite nicely
Utility room which has internal door to garage
Driveway for 2 cars
Downstairs loo
Upstairs big family bathroom
Small double to front on one side
Two bigger doubles to rear both overlooking right into people's gardens, one has big ensuite but would want to change layout so en suite is off front bedroom with view
Both bathrooms need replacing and needs new boiler, carpets etc
Big double at front above garage with large window open aspect can see local hill and bit of the sea

House C
Front faces north with open aspect
Garden faces south, enclosed with patio
Concrete area too for kids
Front garden too but north facing
Driveway for 2 cars
Utility room with internal door to garage
Huge kitchen, needs updating
Dining room with doors to conservatory
Long term would like to join kitchen and diner?
Big lounge
Square hall upstairs with four big double bedrooms, one with en suite ( have view of local hill and a bit of the sea)
Family bathroom
Rotten wood all round house so plastic facias required
Decor upgrading required inside

The houses are five mins walk from each other and both within walking distance to the school, bus stop, local shop etc. it's a small coastal village in Scotland.
They both have double inbuilt cupboards in all bedrooms.

I wish I had surveys for them both and valuations! I think the valuations will be quite similar though, I know what neighbouring properties sold for in the last six months and there's not much in it.

KirstyJC Mon 19-Nov-12 20:15:14

If House C was your childhood home, how did you like growing up there? Did you find the garden big enough to run around in, the house fun to be in etc? That might give you some indication of how the house would suit your children too.

Definitely B sounds wrong - you keep saying 'hemmed in' - not a good way to be feeling when you are thinking about a forever home and you haven't even moved in yet - imagine how it will feel a few years in...?

Do the same list House B, House C with just descriptive words/words from the heart/instinct.

Piemistress Mon 19-Nov-12 20:33:00

We moved there when i was about 12 or so, so have différent memories, more of a bedroom with Howard Jones pósters (showing my age here!) and then later on hanging out the window for a ciggie (ex smoker now!). I asked my parents if they thought it would be weird and they said no but we are planning to totally change it decor wise.

When the survey and valuation come back for House C we will know more then and hopefully the owners will find another house so have à better idea of dates.

I know lots of people have houses overlooking them but i guess its harder to consider as we are going from a little house with nothing but fields behind us!

Piemistress Mon 19-Nov-12 20:37:14

We moved there when i was about 12 or so, so have différent memories, more of a bedroom with Howard Jones pósters (showing my age here!) and then later on hanging out the window for a ciggie (ex smoker now!). I asked my parents if they thought it would be weird and they said no but we are planning to totally change it decor wise.

When the survey and valuation come back for House C we will know more then and hopefully the owners will find another house so have à better idea of dates.

I know lots of people have houses overlooking them but i guess its harder to consider as we are going from a little house with nothing but fields behind us!

Ok, going to sit with DP and talk from yhe heart, I know he prefers House B and thonks I am being silly for saying that I wont get used to the overlooked garden!

Piemistress Mon 19-Nov-12 20:38:04

Not sure what happened there, oops

Piemistress Sat 24-Nov-12 21:42:01

ok so, there has been a survey and valuation done on House C but when we spoke to them tonight they mentioned there had been other people interested in the house (small village so news travels) which has left me feeling a bit angry. Have no idea how much they are hoping to get but we aren't going to pay over the odds.

Piemistress Fri 28-Dec-12 14:40:18

Thought I would give an update on this!

We ended up trying to buy House C but got totally screwed over. The husband told us that "there aren't other people interested" as his wife had misunderstood what was being said (later realised this was a big fat lie). So we put in an offer just below valuation which was, unsurprisingly, knocked back as we didn't want to put in our best offer straight away. In those 2 days they had had a "significantly" better off and sold it to another party! No chance to up our offer or come to an agreeable price with them. Turns out the other party are "friends" of theirs who have "always wanted the house". So we wasted a month of our time on this, most vexed! I have ignored their apologetic email!

So that left House B (as we had already discounted House A purely on the fact there was nowhere to build an ensuite or extend it really, plus it had a lot less storage). So we met with the owner of House B and they accepted our offer of the valuation price. The amount of work that is to be done does scare me! And the big house in the bag garden does bug me BUT the house itself is really nice. DP thinks I am totally over-reacting about the overlooked part of it as they actually cannot see into our house/garden but we can see into theirs. It's the side of their house which is beside our garden and one of our back bedrooms looks right into their garden? I keep wondering if we have done the right thing in discounting House A because of the reasons above BUT I would probably be doing the same if we had offered on House A and not B. House B does have lovely big windows out the front with great sea / hill views, it's just the back of the house that bothers me a bit.

We had to make a quick decision though as staying with family in the interim which is quite stressful with 2 young DCs!

fussychica Fri 28-Dec-12 15:13:37

Thought I had a forever home but things change and I've just had to sell a 5 bed 4 bath house with a beautiful pool (obviously not in the UK) for a pittance sad. We have had to downsize dramatically to be able to still live in a nice area in the UK. We have compromised on outlook, bathroom and space generally but am actually very happy here. However, being so close to other houses is by far the most difficult of the compromises for me to live with so I'd rule out House B even though the house sounds the nicest. I'd go for C if you can deal with it. Despite what I said about B I think you'd be wanting to break out of A, especially with the crap weather we seem to be having.

fussychica Fri 28-Dec-12 15:16:48

Sorry just seen your update but had already posted what is now a totally unhelpful reply. How rotten for you. Hope it all works out.

Springforward Fri 28-Dec-12 23:14:21

We spent 3 years - I wish I was exaggerating, but I swear I'm not - searching for our current house, and there were still a lot of compromises to make, mainly in terms of the amount of work it needs. We must have looked at over 100 houses, but you know, there isn't one of them which I would rather have now. As long as the basics, such as size and location are ok, the rest is what you make it, to a great extent.

Piemistress Sat 29-Dec-12 21:20:52

I have uploaded some pics of the garden in house b, what do you think about the neighbouring house behind it? Could I make it less imposing somehow? It's not as bad as I originally remembered but we have just left a lovely view of fields (see pic) which is making it harder! They can't actually really see into our garden but just feels like it.

If you recognise it let me know, eeks!

Flatbread Sat 29-Dec-12 21:41:39

Pie, some people care more about view, openess and being hemmed in, others don't. Nothing right or wrong either way. It seems you care more than your dh.

I am like you. Seen the pictures of the view from house B on your profile. It would bug me.

What ever you decide, best of luck!

CaHoHoHootz Sat 29-Dec-12 22:32:54

The Effect of the house at the back could be diminished by planting a tree. Something with a light 'open' feel (IYSWIM) . Something that would soften the edges. Get an experts opinion or look around te nieghbourhood and see what other people have. A slow growing, multi stem, small'ish silver birch would look nice.

Piemistress Sat 29-Dec-12 22:49:29

DP has just fallen out with me over it all. He cannot see what the problem is at all and thinks that having houses close by is just par for the course, it doesn't bother him at all. Mmmmmm. It's a bit more stressful too because we have sold our house and are staying with family till we find somewhere and 4 bed houses in the village we like get snapped up (hence us looking for a private sale).

Will take a walk next week and see what other people have done to disguise nearby properties. I think the fact I had such a lovely open aspect in our house has made it want it again but we were on the edge of a village which helped!

Thank you peeps x

Springforward Sun 30-Dec-12 00:04:17

When we finally settled on this place, it was one of two on the table, and the other one was back to back with another house. But there was good tall planting (a silver birch, i think, and a tree of heaven) which made the house behind seem less important. Also my very sensible sister pointed out that no-one would be stupid enough to break in through the back of the house, so it would be more secure. Like you, we left a very private house (wooded backdrop in our case), but the reason we bought this one was for other reasons entirely.

I think this ramble is trying to say, having a house behind might be worth it if the rest of the property is appealing enough, maybe?

Piemistress Sun 30-Dec-12 10:01:29

Thank you. The house itself inside is great which is what makes it difficult. Has a fab double garage and decent driveway,lovely views from the front and is 5 mins walk from the school and 10 mins to the beach. Oh how I wish that house wasn't there then it would be a no brainer! DP will seriously freak if I back out now!

Springforward Sun 30-Dec-12 12:11:57

It does sound lovely, tbh - hope you find some peace with it soon.

notcitrus Sun 30-Dec-12 12:24:32

Sounds like a trellis and climbers might help a lot. We have a 12 foot London garden which is overlooked by a whole row of houses plus neighbours, but when in the garden it feels like a green oasis of calm, until the kids come in!

Fwiw, we compromised on condition and planned to live in a building site for around 10 years. Not for everyone, but all the disruptive stuff should be done by end next year.

nahla321 Sun 30-Dec-12 13:13:17

House 1 or 3 I would go for as I think house 2 the little niggles now would irritate you over the years and being so overlooked isn't a nice thing to compromise! Good luck x

From your photo looking out from the extension, I would plant a laurel hedge along the right hand boundary. I am totally with you on wanting to avoid the overlooked thing. I don't want to be able to see anyone else's windows from any where in my house or garden, so my planting scheme reflects this! I think you can achieve this in house B with the right planting.

Back2Two Sun 30-Dec-12 13:50:38

I'm not saying this to be provocative but out of interest.... The term "forever home" makes me feel claustrophobic from the outset. It seems to put so much pressure on your decision. And do people really know that they are going to be there forever? Freaks me out!

But anyway! I'd say from what you have said that House C sounds great for you and your requirements. If it was a happy home when you lived there I would say it's quite a lovely thing to return with your own family. If you believe in this "forever home" thing it seems to fit in nicely and create a nice circle!

Back2Two Sun 30-Dec-12 13:51:15

Oh just realised old thread!

BackforGood Sun 30-Dec-12 14:02:58

I wouldn't have a problem with the house being there (from what I can tell from your pictures) but that's not what's important really. If you've just sold a house with open views, then any house in the village is going to seem more closed in. We can't really say how important that is to you - for me, I've always lived in a City, so I'd expect to have houses in front, behind, and next door to me.
I do believe that you always make compromises when buying, but if you don't feel happy with it to begin with, then I wouldn't buy it, even if it meant renting somewhere for 6 months to give your family space. Buying just costs too much to buy somewhere you don't even like to begin with.

Piemistress Sun 30-Dec-12 17:47:22

Have added a pic of the front of the house.

back I think we were very lucky with our old house having such great views and was also in quiet cul de sac. I know I won't get everything I want in a house but, I am struggling with compromise but I know realistically there will always be something!

I love the the inside of the hose and its potential which is why I am in such a quandry. We had to discount the other house with open aspect as it was much smaller for same valuation and extending it would have been difficult as it sits much higher up than the garden (lots of steps down to.garden) and building on it would block out lots of light.

Thanks for all comments about trees.and plants to disguise the other house, off for a google!!

CaHoHoHootz Sun 30-Dec-12 18:11:44

It looks a lovely airy and light home.

How exciting for you......

Piemistress Tue 01-Jan-13 11:05:40

Thanks cahoho I can't help but fret if we are doing the right thing but are semi committed (verbally but not in writing yet) maybe I am worrying because its such a big purchase? Or would I be worrying less if the house was perfect? Sigh. DP is despairing of me! I am so pissed off at the owners of House C screwing us over as I wouldnt have had to compromise :-( people keep saying that it just wasn't meant to be but that doesnt really help! I need to look at the positives of this next house but am struggling even although I do like it. That doesn't even make sense! Sorry !

3smellysocks Wed 02-Jan-13 21:06:30

I think it would be a great house to play around with. Careful tree planting would screen the buildings.

Fizzylemonade Thu 03-Jan-13 18:52:59

So glad you came back to update.

Planting would easily sort out your "overlooking" issues. We are on a hill, and I have an 8ft laurel that hides me in the lounge from the bedroom windows of 2 houses that are sort of behind me. It is evergreen so no difference in winter.

I have also planted some bamboo to give some screening from another bit of the garden.

We are in our forever home, the only thing we compromised on was the kitchen as it is very small but we are extending this year!

We just knew that this would suit us now and later. So there is me and Dh and 2 DSs, we have a 4 bed, with the smallest double bedroom being the office so Dh can work from home when he needs to.

We converted a double garage (we have a massive drive) into a playroom for the children, so all their toys and noise is in there rather than the lounge.

We have lots of storage, somewhere for coats, shoes, ironing board, hoover and although everything needs updating (13 year old house) we are making it our own.

For me when we viewed the house I took notes of places where I would spend time, so the kitchen at the sink and prepping food, what can I see? Would I feel uncomfortable? In the lounge MNetting, reading, watching tv, would I feel comfortable?

What didn't I like about the house? Ugly fireplace, but everything I don't like I can change. The stuff I can't change isn't a deal breaker for me.

Good luck

Piemistress Thu 03-Jan-13 23:02:37

We have had a further chat and this won't be our ultimate forever home, I think once the DCs leave home (ok so that's about 18 years away!) we would probably move to the west coast of Scotland so it needs to suit us until then. One of my concerns is that we won't make a profit on the house and that the overlooked thing will put people off buying it (like it is me!) but he thinks I am being utterly ridiculous to both think that far ahead, and let the overlooked thing bother me as he apparently doesn't even notice that big huge house!! My parents went round for a squizz and think I am over reacting hmm

My problem is that I am hard to please whereas DP is the opposite!

I think good planting will help disguise that house well, thanks for the tips! X

I just really wish that my parents old house hadn't been available because then I wouldn't be comparing this one to it. I keep kicking myself that perhaps we should have offered more money but we offered a decent price that we thought would satisfy them but obviously not and they sold it to another party. Isn't hindsight a wonderful thing!

CaHoHoHootz Thu 03-Jan-13 23:30:45

Back to the planting..... My suggestion......

Don't try to 'block' out the house at the back with a tree that may grow to be equally overbearing. What you need to do is minimise it's presence. Soften it's edges rather than putting something in front of it. I would not use evergreens as they can be too heavy looking. I much prefer copper beech hedges rather than laurel. Whatever you do don't even think of lylandii. They are horrible tree (usually)
Make a focal point at the back of your garden away from the house and make sure the flower borders/ shrubs in your garden are interesting and have both depth and height
It may be worth getting a professional in for some proper advice.

Sorry if you know all this already. You may be a landscape gardener for all I know grin.

Piemistress Thu 03-Jan-13 23:39:28

I was thinking about getting someone in for the plants and trees as I am rubbish at this kind of thing! The inside needs a lot of work too which scares me! In the picture where you can see the view out of the sunroom double doors? We are hoping to extend that out to align with the end of the house (if get permission but will be quite close to the boundary wall) so hopefully the doors will be beyond the neighbours house windows (if that makes sense!)

The focal point will probably end up being a children's climbing frame! wink

Thanks peeps for helping me! I really am not a very creative person, DP will probably totally lose the plot with me when it comes to doing the kitchen and bathrooms! I asked him what Mr Men/Little Miss I am and he said Indecisive!

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