Upset at derision for my decor

(103 Posts)
DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 15:22:42

A colleague came round for coffee yesterday and openly laughed at my house and shockingly bad taste. She spent about 2 hours ridiculing my 'delusional grandeur' and picked out item after item for scorn.

I bloody love my home and spend most of my money and time on it because I really love interiors to the point of obsession. I openly admit that and I know my taste isn't to everyone's but I was offended.

Has anyone else had this happen to them? If I don't like something I just keep my trap shut.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Tue 20-Aug-13 15:23:21

Invite yourself to hers and let it rip.

It is a bit late, but it sounds like a perfect occasion for the Mn phrase, "Do you mean to be SO rude?"

nilbyname Tue 20-Aug-13 15:24:59

What's your house like!???

LemonPeculiarJones Tue 20-Aug-13 15:25:58

Wow, what a rude arsehole your colleague is!

Spend a nice half hour laying into their hair/clothes when you see them next.

No return invite for them! A potential friendship well and truly squashed.

And no, it's not funny, or 'just a joke' if that's what they say when they sense your annoyance or if you say anything. It's just rude and stupid.

Hasn't happened to me but it's rare for guests to be that rude. You were unlucky.

Chubfuddler Tue 20-Aug-13 15:26:26

Examples please. She sounds really unpleasant.

WetGrass Tue 20-Aug-13 15:26:53

To paraphrase Winston Churchill

"Madam, I can repaint, but I fear you will be burdened with your rude manners for life".

PeteCampbellsRecedingHairline Tue 20-Aug-13 15:26:55

Sounds like jealousy to me!

hellymelly Tue 20-Aug-13 15:28:38

I agree she sounds jealous. And unpleasant.

tethersend Tue 20-Aug-13 15:28:45

Ridiculous.

My house is decorated in a way that only two other people appreciate (60s/70s throughout), so am used to the comments. It matters not a jot.

mrspaddy Tue 20-Aug-13 15:29:39

Very bitchy of her. Respect lacking!! It is an honour to be invited to someone's home and like you I would keep it zipped if I didn't like things. I think it is the only place you can be truly yourself and happy in. Did ou say anything back to her ?

Periwinkle007 Tue 20-Aug-13 15:30:02

how rude. I am always worried when people come to the house about what they might think of our taste or state of decor but noone has said anything yet.

FannyFifer Tue 20-Aug-13 15:30:26

You let someone take the piss out your house for two solid hours?

What the feck is wrong with you, why didn't you ask her to stop being rude or leave.

Seriously you don't have to put up with bullshit like that.

People only behave like this when let away with it.

fieldfare Tue 20-Aug-13 15:32:30

How shockingly rude!
I'd not have been so restrained op.

ProphetOfDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 15:35:54

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LauraChant Tue 20-Aug-13 15:39:18

I bet if you were to do it to her she would be majorly offended as well. I remember a school "friend" continously mocking our car when I was at school because it was old, whenever she saw it or was given a lift in it, but I only had to mention once that her doorbell was ridiculous (it played a tune) and she was in a major huff.

Admittedly we were both ten.

changeforthebetter Tue 20-Aug-13 15:41:17

What an inadequate bitch she sounds.

Icy indifference is the way to go. Really, I would be limiting any conversation with this mare.

I am massively underwhelmed by the 60/70s look. However, I keep my gob shut tight as I have twigs, fairy lights, pebbly shit, laminate flooring and family photos on the wall...... I am the lowest of the low grin

Enjoy YOUR home and ignore, ignore, ignore brew

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 15:43:47

I have been to her house and it is very nice but definitely not my taste. Here's me thinking that's what makes the world go around. It never crossed my mind to take the mick out of her choices and I really don't know her enough to warrant the comments and advice she insisted on a dishin'.
Nilby I am very much an Abigail Ahern fan/stalker and buy a lot from her Islington shop ( she's doing a diffusion range in Debenhams from Sept 1 ). My house is in v dark and sludgy because that's what I like. I think my crime was mentioning I spend most of my disposable cash on my home - that irked her. I don't have children so it isn't child-friendly and that pissed her off too ( she didn't bring hers so no danger).

Thought I'd found a new friend sad

treaclesoda Tue 20-Aug-13 15:43:50

She sounds horrible. And possibly jealous. But mostly horrible.

Out of interest, what did you say in response?

FannyFifer Tue 20-Aug-13 15:47:53

What does dark & sludgy mean?

CalamityJones Tue 20-Aug-13 15:52:49

I love Abigail Ahern - I'll bet it's absolutely gorgeous and your colleague goes in for magnolia walls and Ikea bookshelves.

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 15:53:36

I would have said something if I had not been so stunned by her rudeness. I was a bit agog to be honest. I won't waste my energy.
All my friends have different tastes and a couple are very interiors obsessed like me but that is neither here nor there as far as friendship goes... demi-john of wine, a bag of crisps and a reet laugh is all I require from a mate's home.

LazyMonkeyButler Tue 20-Aug-13 15:53:48

How very rude! I wouldn't waste any more time on her TBH. And, yes, what does dark & sludgy mean?

changeforthebetter Tue 20-Aug-13 15:55:34

How very dare you spend your money on your home (surveys own pink plastic tat strewn abode).

It's a shame when you think you've bonded with someone and they turn out to be a fuckwit.... ah well smile

MothershipG Tue 20-Aug-13 15:59:47

Just google imaged Abigale Ahern - I now know what Doom means by 'dark & sludgy'. Not my cup of tea but your (hopefully) ex friend was simply rude.

I did like her dog, very handsome! grin

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