Ditchling in Sussex. Tis the perfect village! Close enough to Brighton for excellent theatre and comedy, trains to London from Hassocks (5 mins drive), beautiful countryside, short drive to M23. Not stuck in the 1950s either, unlike some villages. Nearby Hurstpierpoint is also lovely and a bit bigger.
I was going to suggest the Horsham area, 15 mins to M23, 30 mins to Worthing & south coast, own cinema & theatre plus bigger ones in Crawley or Chichester for the Festival Theatre. Good schools in Horsham or Billingshurst.