It's the old moving out of London chestnut. DH and I live in N London and on the whole love it, particularly the following things:
- our house (we've spent a lot of time working on it, converting loft etc making it suitable for working from home, which I do...)
- our immediate environment: good friends, a decent primary (well, I think so, DD1 starts there in Sept), lots of nice bars/cafés, which probably sounds a bit shallow but DH and I really enjoy that aspect of the area when we get the chance to go out together on our own
- it's close to DH's work
But every few months we start to feel guilty about the fact that the kids (4 and 2) don't have a garden to run around in, and we get fed up with the fact that we have to navigate a fair amount of traffic to get to a big green space. Then there's the noise, congestion, dirty streets etc, all the usual stuff - and we start to think we should get out of the city at least while the kids are young.
But, DH works in the city and works v long hours - at the moment, if he's working til 11, he get in a cab and be home in 10 mins (or walk home in half an hour) whereas if we went anywhere that involved a train journey he'd probably end up staying the night in London on a regular basis and we'd see a lot less of him. So, it would in some ways be quite a sacrifice and I just don't know if it's worth it.
Obviously nothing's perfect and there will always be pros and cons but just wondered if anyone had done any of the following:
- moved out of London and loved it (and if so why?)
- moved out of London and hated it (ditto)
- had experience of a DH/DW working long hours in London and then having a biggish commute
- stayed in London and regretted it later
Not expecting a straightforward 'this is what you should do', just interested to hear about other people's experiences. Want to do what's best for kids but not if it will be detrimental to relationship between DH and I.
Thanks v much in advance for your thoughts. Have to go and read a v boring doc but will be back in an hour (just in case you post and I don't respond straight away)