What extras does a child get in private education reception year?

(44 Posts)
MrsNouveauRichards Mon 26-Nov-12 17:32:36

We can't afford to send our dcs to private school, and we are close to a good primary school, DD has just started reception there.

DD loves school and is relatively bright and has managed everything they have done with ease (according to her teacher) I don't want her to do more school work, but feel she needs more something

She has expressed a wish to start recorder club, but they can't start until year one, there are no school clubs available to reception at all.

My DH was educated privately, and has said he remembers being very busy at 5 with extra clubs (music, sports etc) as well as fairly packed days in school.

Is there anything I can do with her myself that would have the same effect? We already read together, go to the park, swimming, play games etc.

Bonsoir Mon 26-Nov-12 18:13:20

Swimming (lessons/club rather than just family swimming)

are the sorts of extra-curricular classes my DD and her friends did when they were 5.

MrsNouveauRichards Mon 26-Nov-12 18:16:48

Thank you. I am looking at starting DD back at swimming lessons after Christmas and she has expressed an interest in French lessons - there is a club run at the school by an outside teacher.

Bonsoir Mon 26-Nov-12 18:22:27

If I were you I would try to find all about what is going on in your area and try to take a look, meet the teachers etc. My DD didn't like going to classes with children she didn't know at that age, which is another thing to bear in mind. What do your DD's classmates do outside school?

Holiday courses are really good at this age - a one-week bash at art or swimming or gym can be great for getting them going. Drama also good for little ones.

LIZS Mon 26-Nov-12 18:23:46

At dd's they offered music, dance (as a class lesson as well as extra curricular), swimming lessons (as a class lesson as well as after school), library/storytime, French club. Most of the after school clubs such as ICT, sports, tuition for musical instruments, choir, board games club etc started in Year 1.

WipsGlitter Mon 26-Nov-12 18:24:16

Private music classes
Speech and drama

There are loads of things for that age.

RyleDup Mon 26-Nov-12 18:30:11

Music lessons

Inclusionist Mon 26-Nov-12 18:41:34

I reckon piano and/or Kodaly-type musicianship lessons and gymnastics. Both good foundations for other things later.

MrsNouveauRichards Mon 26-Nov-12 18:49:04

She didn't really take to ballet, she did swimming last year but we didn't want to book anything for her first term at full time school as we didn't know how she would be. This was a mistake I now realise as she bounces out of school every day and by Sunday night she is literally bouncing off the walls despite spending most of the weekend outside.

I also would like to do more things with her that will help her become academically more rounded, not just more reading/writing.

I had always half thought of home educating her, but being at school and preschool has done wonders for her social skills.

mam29 Mon 26-Nov-12 19:03:09

I think lots of people advise against too much reception year as think kids be too tired and lot state primaries dont offre much clubs at infants/keystage 1.

My dd as never tired she did

rainbows halfway through recpetion started when she was 5
gym after school
cheerleading on a friday evening so not too bad,

her old school did do 6week scince club-outside provider which was ok
knitting club-never did that

but then they did no afterschool clubs.

shes now year 2 and bored

so we moved her extra curricular/enrichment big reason.

I have 3kids so easier for me to pick her up bit later than pick her up drag her ad her siblings to another site.

shes rcently staryed at small village school half size old one and in year 2 she has choice of 3 clubs at keysatge 1 possibly soon.
she wanted to do art but that was cancelled

she does multisports on mon-run by teacher so free smile
tuesday theres libary club-too much with rainbows she doesnt wnat to do it.
wed drama-charagble but she doesnt wnat to do it but be easier for me if she did that day.

friday they hoping to start dance outside provider.

year 3 she can join choir, play an instrument, netball, football, junior art, junior drama.

I too contmeplated homeschooling last term year 1 as dd was unhappy. Even put in felexischooling propsal to the head that she was at home 1day a week which they rejected.

MrsNouveauRichards Mon 26-Nov-12 19:27:08

I must admit, even though DD's school is seen as a good one and she is happy there, I see it as an 'IKEA' school - very basic, everything is extra, nothing included iyswim? grin

Even PE is supposed to be twice a week, but often happens only once, and that is in the hall.

I want my dcs to have as many opportunities as I can give them.

zalana Mon 26-Nov-12 20:03:05

I would recommend that you consider a drama group for her, children of her age really respond well to drama activities and helps boost self esteem and general social skills, many are held on a Saturday morning, generally very popular!

dixiechick1975 Mon 26-Nov-12 20:34:32

If you think DD may like rainbows (girlguides) get her name down asap - they take from age 5 but some areas have long wait lists. They playgames/craft activities - my DD loves Rainbows.

What do her friends do?

Off the top of my head - things DD did in reception or classmates went to (we live in a small northern town)

Rainbows, swimming, ballet, gymnastics, ballet+tap, streetdance, trampoline, french, football.

ninah Mon 26-Nov-12 21:19:30

I bet the school would bite your hand off if you offered to run a lunchtime club for R

MrsNouveauRichards Mon 26-Nov-12 21:42:08

Until they realised my feral 2yr old would be joining me grin

ninah Mon 26-Nov-12 21:44:45

I took my 2 year old when I started R lunchtime Lego club! (liked it so much that, now my 2 year old is 7 I am a R teacher! grin)

Tgger Mon 26-Nov-12 22:10:40


difficultpickle Mon 26-Nov-12 23:40:43

At ds's pre-prep no clubs ran for reception aged dcs as they figured the school day was enough. Clubs started in year 1.

HanSolo Tue 27-Nov-12 00:03:39

Mine would love a Lego club ninah! smile

Our school offer YR yoga, ballet, explorers club (forest school essentially I think), football hmm, bollywood dancing, speech.
French (mother tongue teacher) is part of the curriculum from Nursery Class upwards, as is Music.
My children didn't want to do all of them btw!

MrsNouveauRichards Tue 27-Nov-12 06:50:43

Wow that is a lot!

Lego club sounds amazing.

retropops Tue 27-Nov-12 15:36:33

My son is in reception at an prep school, and during his normal school day he does:

PE twice a week

There are before/after school clubs where he can do recorder/violin/gymnastics/chess/puzzle etc

beachyhead Tue 27-Nov-12 15:39:59

A Board Games or chess club is good as a more academic type club

Xenia Tue 27-Nov-12 16:18:44

Our 5 have gone to private schools from that age (as did I). I lke to get them home quickly at that age as they are very little and tired. I don't think at age 4+ private school pupils do stay very late.

In the normal school day as said above they would though tend to have things like choir and lots of sport and when a bit older some after school clubs.

Perhaps if your husband wants her to have his kind of class/background though peversely the best thing you can do is whip her home quickly from the undesirables and spend a lot of time talking to her in the right accent and at the right academic level for a bright child of that age.

More seriously though for me we wanted selective education at 5 so only those bright enough to get in at the school which is not so much about class as about IQ.

HanSolo Tue 27-Nov-12 20:14:24

<snort> undesirables?

Careful Xenia, you're turning into a parody of yourself!

I have to say though, that having things like ballet during the day is good- the children can relax after school, and weekends are freer.

APMF Wed 28-Nov-12 12:06:29

@HanSolo - I'm guessing that you don't see many examples of irony in your part of the country. Xenia was being ironic ... I think.

take3 Wed 28-Nov-12 14:25:04

Swimming...drama...bollywood dancing...craft...lego club.... the list can go ON and ON....
Ok, I'm going to be radical here and say you don't need those things... your daughter (OP) is at school all day, that is a long time to be away from you and out of the house... so why opt for MORE out of home activities? You may think it is giving them opportunities to do new things and become 'more rounded', but it has a downsides too:
- firstly if children roll from one activity to another all day, they just learn to depend on these activities for their entertainment - it is all so instant and they therefore don't need to use their imaginations to create or learn how to spend time alone, entertaining themselves. This is so important for children - especially in a culture where everything is very immediate.
- secondly, if your daughter is out all day from 8.30 until 3.20 ish at school and then goes to a club after that, there is just enough time for supper, story and bed - not only is this reducing the time she has to create her own games but also it is really reducing the amount of time she is in the HOME - and children need HOMES. We all agree on that, but often clubs etc prevent children from really spending quality time with their parent (s) or siblings. Doing fun things at home, mean time to chat, to play together, to really talk about school, life, friends, things that are important - whilst creating a nurturing culture in the home environment.
This doesn't mean no activities - what about a different thing to do every day after school - perhaps a 45 minute activity (cooking together, something creative, making hot chocolate and snuggling up with some good books, puzzles, singing to a cd or piano etc, then she would have at least 45 mins of play before supper and bath.

Just an idea but I think it is all too easy to think that sending our children out to activities every day is the best for them. Yes, some clubs are fun and good, but not totally necessary.

Chestnutx3 Wed 28-Nov-12 14:51:45

Sorry I think it is very difficult to replicate the sport squads, doing after school activities with just your class mates, orchestras etc... that private schools offer. Are they essential for a happy childhood of course not, some of my DCs classmates I'm sure would swap all this stuff for more time with their parents.

take3 Wed 28-Nov-12 15:09:07

I agree - it is impossible to replicate them... not saying parents can, but I do think the tendency is to fill a child's day with as many activities as possible and not think about the precious years we have with them. I don't think I will look back and wish I had given them the chance to do bollywood dancing or cheer-leading club, but I think I may look back and wish I had spent more time talking to them and laughing together.
Some clubs are great - especially sporty ones and musical ones but let's not forget they don't need a whole range of clubs and they do need parents who spend time with them.

MrsNouveauRichards Wed 28-Nov-12 16:22:31

Thanks for all the fab replies!

I think this is it, I want her to do more, but I don't really like the idea of taking her to a million different clubs and activities after school. I wish the school had more varied activities within the school day which is wishful thinking! (or wanting the moon on a stick grin )

She is going to a French taster session next week with a view to start after Christmas, and swimming lessons or crash course too.

We try to play a lot of games with her - snap, dominoes, pairs etc which she loves.

Xenia Thu 29-Nov-12 11:02:13

Interesting issue is why did your husband who was educated privately end up unable to afford school fees for his children? Perhaps he really would prefer to pay school fees and may be you could both get better full time jobs to pay the fees?

APMF Thu 29-Nov-12 12:27:52

@take3 - I say again, why do some people have an either/or mentality? We have clubs AND what you described above. It doesn't have to be one or the other.

APMF Thu 29-Nov-12 12:30:48

@Xenia - Come on dudette. There are enough arseholes out there who think WE are the arseholes. Why play to their stereotype?

Tgger Thu 29-Nov-12 12:55:21

I'm with take3. Hence my post. Does she want to be busy all day, every hour of every day? I'm a great believer in space, time to chill out, play, do your own thing, chat, play games, annoy your sibling etc etc.

I'm all for passions, but less is more sometimes. DS (6) will often write stuff/put on shows/dress up etc etc. Wouldn't have time for that if he was out like a lot of his peers. I think as he gets to about 8 he might want to do more, but I am taking his lead and I love it that both DS and DD still have lots of creativity (kids tend to lose it as they get older, by 7/8 it is reduced a lot, part of child development but also part of fitting into today's society), and do all sorts of mad things.

Tgger Thu 29-Nov-12 12:57:01

He does swimming after school and a sports club at lunchtime that we pay for- that was an easier way of me saying yes to that than after school when i need to pick up DD too...

APMF Thu 29-Nov-12 13:21:43

I assure you that DS has plenty of time to annoy his younger sister smile

MrsNouveauRichards Fri 30-Nov-12 15:59:36

Xenia, without giving too much info away, DH's parents were both in the same job as DH is in, but at a better time. DH hasn't had the promotions that he should have due to the recession. Things may change in the future hopefully. As for me, I am not qualified to do anything so my earnings would just about cover childcare at this point in time!

SunflowersSmile Fri 30-Nov-12 16:14:48

'Leave them kids alone'...
Why so busy, busy at age 4- 5?
Let them rest and recharge for their full days of school at such tender ages.
Do believe most activities at this age are led by pushy parents...

Elibean Fri 30-Nov-12 16:23:17

I was educated privately: I finished school at 3pm, then played and had friends over. It was great, I have wonderful memories of being that sort of age.

Our (state) primary has a few clubs for Reception children - sports, story club, that kind of thing. French (if you pay). But in Y1 (when most are still 5) they have a huge variety of clubs to choose from - all sorts of sports, science, recorder, music, story, etc.

It was parents asking (and fundraising, and offering to help) that got some of the new clubs started - along with a Head who listens - so might that be a way to go, OP? Even if its for KS1, and not Reception?

For the time being, I would keep doing what you're doing, and remember that this is a great time for building on social interactions, friendships...invite kids over, be invited back....when they start all the clubs, there isn't the time anymore smile

cansu Fri 30-Nov-12 18:14:31

I think it's a shame you see your dd as having a kind of second best basic education. I actually don't think this is true. I really wouldn't wear yourself out rushing around to different clubs. Your dd needs your time and attention and it sounds like she is getting that. She needs to start to develop friendships with her peers at school. I would focus on this rather than feeling she is missing out. I honestly doubt this is true. As she gets older she will start to ask to do certain activities as her interests develop. I think that age 5 she will probably be quite tired after the school day.

MrsNouveauRichards Fri 30-Nov-12 20:22:47

It is not that I think there is anything wrong with the school/her education as such, more that I think she is already starting to find it dull. I appreciate that reception year is more about school prep, but their maths is currently learning to count to 10. I don't think I am being precious by thinking she actually needs more than this.

Of course I want her to have time to play and develop in her own time, but that doesn't mean she can't do other things too.

Houseworkprocrastinator Fri 30-Nov-12 21:31:27

is there any conservation/ forest areas near you that have a junior explorer or nature club? you mentioned her being outside all weekend so i am guessing she likes the outdoors. there is a group by us who learn all about nature and take the children pond dipping and on wood walks etc. educational and fun i would say.

Newbizmum Sat 01-Dec-12 02:52:59

Clubs are from Year 1 in my school, not from reception. That said, we had our youngest in 4 different classes in reception; swimming, gymnastics, ballet, theatre group and she dropped ballet and gymnastics from choice after a couple of terms. School now has added clubs and she takes sports and art after school and thus is back to 4 after school activities a week.

MrsNouveauRichards Sat 01-Dec-12 07:12:45

I'm not sure if there are any nature clubs, but we have quite a few country parks/national trust parks around here. Our plan is to get NT membership with Christmas money, so that we can go a bit more.

dixiechick1975 Sat 01-Dec-12 10:21:53

Your local park may have a 'friends of' group.

Ours does with a young friends section that meets once a month. DD enjoys that. We stumbled across them in the park one day but there is info on the local council website.

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