My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

Join our Primary Education forum to discuss starting school and helping your child get the most out of it.

Primary education

5 year old started to cry when time to go into school...

6 replies

ShdBeWorking · 24/05/2010 13:49

1st time on mums net so apologies for any bloopers!!... but would love some help...

5 year old has settled really well into reception class this year until the last few weeks when she has started crying when it's time to go in...

I have tried to dig at what the problem is, as has my mum (who she is close to), but she just tells us that she loves me and doesn't want me to go.

I don't feel like it's appropriate to take her right into the classroom but unless a teacher takes her in (and sometimes even when someone takes her in) she turns round and runs out after me sobbing.

Does anyone have advice on what to do? Am starting a sticker chart but feels like it's not really addressing the problem... and it now feels like it's become a habit. Any tips for breaking the routine and / or getting DD to open up if there's a deeper problem? Sometimes i think digging heightens the drama and therefore is exacerbating the problem - any thoughts? Any advice welcome!!

OP posts:
Report
wahwahwah · 24/05/2010 13:51

You need to drop and run. They are worse if you hesitate or hang around. If the teacher knows, then make sure you deliver the child then shoot off.

Report
EndangeredSpecies · 24/05/2010 13:56

She's probably just tired of the routine and wants the holidays to arrive. DS is nearly 5 and did this until last week. Proper screaming, crying and bawling the place down every morning. But the teachers said two minutes after I leave he's absolutely fine. Do what wahwah said, after I did the kind-but-firm treatment for a few days he just stopped, this morning he just trotted off quite happily.

Report
mumoffourgirls · 24/05/2010 14:01

Getting close to the end of term, kids are fed up, i have the same fight every morning with dd whos also 5, im bored i dont wanna go to school, i hate school, then at the end of the day school was great...

Report
ShdBeWorking · 24/05/2010 14:06

Thanks wahwah and EndangeredSpecies - so far dropping and running has resulted in her running after me into the car park, but seems like I actually need to take her right in and hand over to the teacher. I guess I've been reluctant as it feels like that's a step back to pre-school days! I too get feedback that she's absolutely fine after I go, and comes out of school beaming at the end of the day.

OP posts:
Report
mummyinbeds · 24/05/2010 14:07

My DS who had skipped in to school from day one suddenly started crying as soon as it was time to go into school a few weeks before the end of the summer term in his reception year. It didn't matter whether it was me, DH or MIL taking him. His teacher thought he may just be tired and ready for a long break from school. However, a week before going back in September he became very anxious again, started stuttering and cried at the school door again. After much questioning and many tears he told me his best two friends pushed him around a lot (not bullying, more playful) and he didn't like it. Since giving him coping methods for handling his boisterous friends we haven't looked back.
Those few weeks were heartbreaking so I know what you are going through. I hope you get to the bottom of the problem soon

Report
ShdBeWorking · 24/05/2010 14:11

Thanks mummyinbeds - she is definitely having an 'intense' time with a close group of 3 girlfriends (all of them taking turns at posessiveness, bossiness and fads for each other) which we have tried to be firm about so I am concerned this might be part of the root cause... will keep gently nudging to see if we uncover anything.

OP posts:
Report
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.