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how would you phrase this?

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thecloudhopper · 17/02/2010 19:50

I am currently wriing a report on my 1-1(who has behaviour issues) for a emergncy review meeting well to cut a long story short I want to say that he displays some very manipulative behaviours at times and has a range of things he does in order to try and get out of doing things.. how do I write this without being ofencive?

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MustyOdour · 17/02/2010 19:53

He displays a range of strategies for task avoidance

I think its ok to say he tries to manipulate his adult and give examples of what they are

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MustyOdour · 17/02/2010 19:54

BUt I think you should say why you think he wants to avoid certain things, does he avoid work he thinks he cannot do or does he have issues with concentration

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thecloudhopper · 17/02/2010 20:01

that sounds good, BTW his mum gets easily offended so this report is hard to write. I am also trying to day that one of these behaviours is crying that he switches on and off - His mum thinks he is distressed but this is not the case so how do i say this in a non offencive way.

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Hassled · 17/02/2010 20:05

I can see why you want to be tactful but I think it is probably better to tell the truth than to worry about the mother - he's not going to get the help he needs if you withhold any information.

Re the crying - "I believe that there are times when X's distress is exaggerated for effect".

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MustyOdour · 17/02/2010 20:08

I don;t think you should say 'I'

Say something along the lines of 'XXXX appears to become very upset when asked to do a task. He then calms down if he believes he does not have to do the work set for him' Would that cover it?

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thecloudhopper · 17/02/2010 20:11

yes- normally I would be plain speaking but as his mum has made an official complaint about teacher and has caused no end of problems. Although i do like what you have written.

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thecloudhopper · 17/02/2010 20:14

this is really helpful thanks.

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SE13Mummy · 17/02/2010 20:57

How about, "when faced with a task that he perceives to be beyond his capability X will sometimes choose to engage in 'task-avoiding' behaviours such as crying. He rarely exhibits these behaviours in other situations and they cease as soon as the undesirable task is no longer required of him".

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thecloudhopper · 17/02/2010 21:08

that sounds good - sometimes it is so useful to hear other peoples ideas.

THANKS ALL

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