Going into school

[lulu2]

My dd started in Yr 1 this week and lined up and went in beautifully on first day but subsequent mornings is crying and refusing to let go of me when the bell goes for school to start.
In reception she was very happy but sometimes the TA would have to take her from me, although dd wasn't always upset. On the days she did cry the teacher said she was always fine within seconds of me going.
I don't know what to do because she is fine in the playground before the bell goes and plays with her friends but she will not line up and the teacher has to lead her in.
I asked dd about it but i don't want to go on about it too much and make it into a big deal. She doesn't offer an explanation and her yr 1 teacher said that yesterday she was fine when she got inside.
I feel useless and don't know what to do. 1 mum said to me that she thought it's because dd is an only child. I feel like i am making the situation worse just by being there.
Any ideas on this please.

[mrsmortenharket]

you are not a useless person (((((((()))))))
i think a big part of it is that she sis settling into a new routine and just finding things a bit difficult atm. do you think you could maybe wear a small scarf (not a wolly one!) and ask her to look after it for you, kind of like a comfy for a couple of days?xx

[Doodlez]

Big jump from reception to yr 1. Plus, she's just had a long summer holiday with you and she's rattled. Keep going. It's got bog-all to do with her being an 'only'. I've seen a child with 4 older brothers crying his head off before now.

[trickerg]

Don't get me started on the only child thing - winds me up something rotten! If she'd been one of 4, and had cried, another mother would have said that she was just missing playing with her brothers and sisters after the holiday! You can never win!

She probably is fine the minute she steps in the classroom. I've never known any child to cry for more than 30 seconds after they've left their parents in the playground! She'll be fine!

[lulu2]

thanks all. The small scarf is a great idea mrsmorten, i will have a rootle(sp?) about and see what i have got.
She is fine after about 30 seconds, i just don't like leaving her upset.
She was a bit better on friday but Monday maybe a different story.

[primarymum]

Is it possible for a friends mother to call and collect your daughter, she might find it easier to say goodbye to you at home, especially if a friend is waiting for her, and to the mum at school.

[Elibean]

Absolutely agree with others, nothing to do with only child: at least half a dozen of dd's Y1 class have been in similar states most days this week at or just after line-up. I think its very normal start of Y1 stuff, post holiday separation etc....scarf is lovely idea, and also the more reassured you are that its all ok and will pass, the better

dd1 was fine the first two days (very excited to see her friends) but by Friday was a bit tearful and wanted me to accompany her into the classroom...only lasted a minute, I found her an equally tearful friend to hold hands and sit with and they were both fine. A year ago I would have thought it was me, and I was making it worse, just like you...but as half the class have been feeling the same way (worse, in the case of some of the little boys) even I am convinced its nothing I've done or not done!

[lulu2]

thanks elibean, it just feels like she is the only one at the mo but it will probably be different this week.
Only prob with the scarf idea is that i only have woolly ones, will have another think.