We are really worried about some of the things our DDs reception teacher is telling us about our daughter and feel she may be unhappy. We cant get any sense out of DD about what the problem is, so are having to draw our own conclusions. Parents evening is coming up next week and we are not expecting good feedback, and also want to get our view across. Would appreciate the opinion/reassurance of fellow mumsnetters.
DD had some teething (we thought) problems in term 1 with behaviour/social aspects, which seem to have reared their head again recently. She is bright, very lively and admittedly a bit of a handful sometimes. She is apparently 'not QUITE doing what she is told ' (quote, love the 'quite'!), finding it hard to get into groups socially, playing up occasionally and not concentrating well on her schoolwork (we find the same with homework).
The school wonders if DD is worried about a home problem as she is also developing what seem like nervous ticks such as excessive blinking and throat clearing. We can think of anything that may be bothering her and she is not articulating anything when asked.
My SIL, a primary teacher, thinks it could all be school related, exhaustion, too much pressure, constant TA changes, and suggests we prioritise sleep, routine, boundaries at home, and let DD play (which is what she wants to do) in her free time rather than forcing her to do the, in our (and her) view excessive homework.
We think this is worth a try before exploring other possibilities like special needs.
We are not sure however how the teacher will respond to our request that DD only does the homeword she wants to do. DD usually asks me to read her book to her, and likes some of the games/activiites in her weekend homework but we have to force her to do the rest and it seems to drag on all evening and all weekend on and off, poor kid.
Each evening she gets a book to read, an ongoing wordlist which is now impossibly (40 or so words)long, and at the weekend 2 books plus about 4 sides of A4 of varied homeword including sums/words/drawing/games/activities.
The teacher is older, very nice but very formal and old fashioned in her teaching methods-I volunteer in the class so get to see her in action. Personally we think this is the wrong approach for such little ones, and certainly for our daughter who just wants to play most of the time (April baby).
Incidentally, we think DD is doing fine academically (though nothing like some of his high-achieving class mates), reading ORT stage 3, year 1 words, counting to 100 with a bit of help, though motor skills less strong, so I am hoping the teacher will feel she can keep up with reduced homework.
Does it seem likely that DDs problems may be related to this pressure/tiredness or do you think something else may be going on?
Does our approach (prioritising routine, slepp, boundaries and reducing homework) sound sensible, and is their a way we can voice our concerns on homework and suggest it become voluntary in future without the teacher saying no or becoming defensive?
Is it too much to want a 4 year old to just enjoy being 4 and to be happy???
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DD possibly unhappy in reception - parents evening
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Maxiebaby · 13/03/2009 10:45
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