DS started in reception this month, and is on his fourth week now. I have posted before (but lost the thread) that he is not settling. He finds lunchtime frightening and noisy, so is not eating anything, thus getting very tired. This has now extended to not drinking because he doesn't want to use the loos (also full of big boys and frightening to him).
I took suggestions from other MNters and asked if the teachers could find him someone older to sit with - but they have not done this. I now pick him up some afternoons after lunch to give him a break, but that is the only proactive thing they have suggested. DS is crying most days now, disliking all morning as he works himself up about lunch time, then tired all afternoon.
I have now booked a meeting to discuss this properly, and want to have some idea of what is reasonable to expect, and if I am being too PFBish with him?
- He has days where he has not drunk or eaten all day long - and they don't seem to even notice this. Can I expect more input from them?
- Can I push them on finding him an older lunch buddy?
3)Can I expect them to help him join in lunchtime games, or is it normal to just leave him watching?
Just to add (if you managed to get this far!) I know he doesn't HAVE to be at school yet. At the moment I want him to go because I think it will be harder for him in September to join a class that has already been at school a year, have already bonded with each other etc, than it is to try and fit in now. Also I have considered and rejected Home Educating. I would rather just focus on settling him happily into school.