We are currently looking at schools for ds. We have two local schools we are considering. One outstanding which we aren't technically in the catchment for but could potentially get in from the waiting list, and one graded good.
Went and looked around the outstanding one and just didn't like it and couldn't see ds being happy there.
Went and saw the good one and loved it. A lovely community feel, impressed with the head and could see ds being happy there. It's a very mixed school in what is classed as a deprived area but right on the edge of an affluent area (where we are I guess) dh and I quite like this as we don't want ds growing up in a little middle class bubble. Ht and staff seem very passionate and dedicated and it has a good reputation.
Most of the neighbours children go there or are likely to go there, it's walkable and I feel like the school has a lovely community feel. It's what I d always wanted for ds. The community feel of all his school friends living around the corner, eventually walking to school together, dh and I hopefully doing play dates and getting to know the other parents are exactly the main reason we chose to live where we do. It would be super easy for pick ups and drop offs as I work two days a week.
However, we are extremely lucky in that my dad has offered to pay the school fees for ds to go to a private school. We went and looked around the school and of course it has amazing facilities. It has amazing results, it has an amazing staff to children ratio and experiences/attention and opportunities for ds our local school cannot offer. But we didn't love it. We didn't get the same community feel. It felt very formal, the classrooms very minimal and businesslike. I didn't naturally see ds there as I could with the local school.
It's a 20 mins commute into town at very busy times so would be stressful for dh who does drop offs on the days I work and stressful for me to collect on working days too in comparison to the local state school. I work term time too and so the overlap for state school and private school holidays/after school
Clubs would be difficult and more expensive to cover financially, this would come out of our own pockets, than the local state school.
But I guess my main concern is the catchment area would be so much bigger so it doesn't have the same community feel, ds wouldn't be able to walk to school with his mates, play dates might be more difficult as other parents live further away. So on a selfish level I feel it would make it more difficult for me to make friends with the other parents and have meet ups. I feel ds and myself would miss out on the social side in a big way as neighbourhood kids and parents become friendly and we aren't involved as ds goes to school elsewhere.
Dsis and BIL are very pleased with the school and feel ds who's now in y1 at the private school is very happy. They feel and have been told by friends their ds excels in reading and maths because of the small class sizes. But perhaps he's just very bright? The small class sizes are attractive but then dh and I are concerned about how much ds would be pushed to achieve. How competitive his classmates and their parents would be and if this is the right environment for him. If he'd be happy in that environment. Would we be happy and fit in amongst these people?
But should we deprive ds of this amazing opportunity other children don't get because of our doubts? If we left it until secondary school would ds get in?
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I know this has been done to death but should I send ds to private school or state?
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yummymummycleo · 03/10/2016 21:29
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