For context, it's a tiny school, he's already had this particular teacher for 2 years and will have her another 2 years due to a pen unfortunately timed reshuffle. He's a young year 4.
She palpably loathes him, there's just a clash. He senses this (I've never told him!) and is resigned to it. It's become an utter stalemate and she was so rude to me today at collection that I feel the first need in 8 years to make a complaint. He's not thriving and believes he's stupid (he really isn't.) She has never had a good word to say about him but adores his sibling.
Dp is a teacher himself, so I get how tough it is. I have totally supported her with measures to help him knuckle down at school. He can definitely be silly, I don't have blinkers on there. I always back her up when talking to him at home and the cheeky behaviour is not tolerated at home, I'm quite strict.
However, he's also incredibly helpful and capable at home, very kind and funny, is very popular with other children and parents always comment on his lovely manners and behaviour if he's invited anywhere, as do holiday club.
Is this all just beyond repair? I feel like I'm punishing him every evening at the moment for what's happened in the school day and it's miserable all round. Am I best just moving him?
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Would you move your child due to clash with teacher?
whirlygirly · 29/06/2016 23:03
Thank you all. No, there's never been bullying, punching etc. He's won kindness awards a few times for the way he is with younger ones and a mum I barely knew approached me in the playground the other day to say how lovely he'd been with her dd.
It's concentration, sitting still on the carpet, giggling and being chippy (which I am also like, but give him hell for) yesterday she said he'd been messing about in play rehearsals with another boy she also complains about, but had given them the joint comedic role in the play 
so she's threatening to take that off him.
I think him being still 8 when some dcs in the class have been 11 for a while only highlights his immaturity. He's behaving like a silly 8 year old whereas they are ready for secondary. The difference is vast.
I'll ring around a couple of schools today. 2 more years of this is going to crush us all.
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how awful for your DS, definitely the huge downside of small schools
I hope you find a new school for him to start in September.
Yes I would. I wished I'd done it with DD years ago when she was in Year 1. She had a teacher leaving her having a bloody asthma attack all day because she expressly told me 'oh I thought she was just being mardy' 999 was called and she spent two nights in hospital.
She's had lovely teachers in between, one of them for two years. If I could bottle him and sell him I would. DD is now in year 5 and I am in the process of trying to get her moved OP. I really do sympathise. DD is a star pupil but her current teacher doesn't like her. Same thing as you. I know it. He knows it. DD just doesn't know what she's done wrong. Ridiculous amount of bullying openly done in class which he hasn't been proactive about. I get it, I really do, we all have / know children who we don't gel to, but even if that is the case I think a teacher should remain professional throughout.
I already moved my DS out because of a person senco with a bee in their bonnet who actively went out of their way to make his life a misery. He is such a happier little boy in his new school.
Do raise a complaint OP. I wish I'd been strong enough to raise ours at the time.
DailyMaui exactly the same here. Are we talking about the same school? 
DD is such a good girl in school (don't get me wrong she can push my buttons at home sometimes). But I'm talking good behaviour certificates, rewards, prizes for no sad faces all year etc etc. For some reason the teacher just doesn't like her.
Also, it was other parents coming up to me with their concerns, especially around the days that she was being bullied openly and relentlessly in class (hiding her workbook calling her names), when she told the staff, she got told to suck it up. She ran out of class that day in tears. The only reason I know this is because another parent was reading to the class at the time and was furious at how she'd been treated and came to tell me so. The teacher didn't think it was worth telling me. . This incident is one of the more trivial ones in a long line of incidents this year!
If I'd known this last September I wouldn't have let her set foot inside that class, alas, hindsight is a wonderful thing.
From what I've seen and experienced flowers, No. My situation is quite unique so wont be going in to it too much but when I did summon up the courage to complain. It actually trigger the safeguarding process to the school as opposed to me if that makes sense? It was all swept under the carpet within a few weeks and nothing spoke off again. 
To be fair, I do have a good relationship with the HT and the rest of the staff usually, we just had an upstart of a young senco who thought they knew it all with DS, and a teacher who just simply hasn't liked my DD from day 1 this year.
I try not to go in all the time as don't want to be seen as that parent but ive had to go in a few times this year to sort things out but one of the problems ive found, is it depends how unprofessionally close to the parents the staff are to the parents (especially the 'in' crowd) as to whether they take your concerns seriously or not or treat all DCs in the school equally.
I know not all schools are like this but here is an example or two. In my elder DCs school. My DS got punched that hard in his stomach by another boy in the line once I had to get him checked out two days later as it was still hurting - when the Mum found out the boy had been put in time out for it she was bellowing at the teacher at 8:30am in front of everyone! Or most recently someone was told to not tell another DC to shift out the way of the only door entrance because said DC was 'X's kid' (some z list celeb I'd never heard of). If they're not THAT ridiculous then yes you'll be fine 
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