Teacher is a cold fish

(23 Posts)
Lulioli Thu 23-Jun-16 18:25:39

Before any one objects I am a teacher and I m not teacher bashing! The teacher my child will be going to in September is so emotionally detached from her current pupils. I am in school a lot so I have observed this many times and it is shocking to see her indifference. She appears cold and aloof. Doesn't say hello to them, ignores little comments they make just will not interact in any warm way. Her classroom is silent most of the time which is in stark contrast to the parallel class. I think I need to talk to senior management about my concerns but now I know my child will be in there I feel so much more emotional about it. Advice please?

mouldycheesefan Thu 23-Jun-16 18:34:24

You weren't bothered till your child was in the class 🙄

Lulioli Thu 23-Jun-16 18:41:29

Of course I was bothered! And I spoke to the parallel class teacher about my concerns. Are you here to criticise me or offer some advice?

DonkeyOaty Thu 23-Jun-16 18:41:29

Mouldy makes a good point

DonkeyOaty Thu 23-Jun-16 18:42:45

Oh sorry you HAVE raised concerns already. Didn't intuit that, apologies.

StrawberrytallCake Thu 23-Jun-16 18:43:55

I don't think mouldy makes a good point - you can't complain about everything in a school!?? Unless you want to alienate yourself from the teachers entirely.

Lulioli Thu 23-Jun-16 18:44:08

Oh ffs! I think rather than continue this thread I ll do what I planned to do which is make an appointment with the new Head teacher and formally complain about her actions. Once upon a time MN was full of posters who could help/advise/empathise maybe I just got unlucky...

StrawberrytallCake Thu 23-Jun-16 18:45:05

I think that's probably the best thing to do anyway Lulioli

DonkeyOaty Thu 23-Jun-16 18:46:16

Make an appointment with the HT to voice your concerns

I don't think you can complain unless you've got some sort of evidence/contemporaneous notes. Union might be able to advise you?

kittybiscuits Thu 23-Jun-16 18:46:29

I hear you OP. I encountered this and I hated leaving my child in her care. I spoke to the head and met with 'oh no she's not like that at all'. Sorry for the goody fuckers on your thread.

kittybiscuits Thu 23-Jun-16 18:46:49

goady

TheNotoriousPMT Thu 23-Jun-16 18:46:59

Er.... you expressed your concerns to her colleague? Seriously? What on earth do you think the colleague would do?

Have her students displayed signs of distress?

Hockeydude Thu 23-Jun-16 18:47:43

Yes you did get unlucky. My dd had a teacher just like this a couple of years ago. A woman completely unsuited to working with children. I saw a boy say hello to her (he was a polite boy and had been in her class 2 years previously) and she looked at him like he was a piece of shit and walked away. I'd try and get your dd moved. My dd was upset by this sort of atmosphere as it was obvious the woman couldn't stand all but two of the kids.

Lulioli Thu 23-Jun-16 18:48:02

Yes thank you strawberrytallcake. I could just kick myself for not reporting it all earlier before I knew my child was in her class. I don't want it to appear self serving as it most certainly isn't. I feel so upset anyone could behave so coldly to any small child.

Lulioli Thu 23-Jun-16 18:51:12

I was nt expecting her colleague to 'do' anything. Yes there are some goads fuckers on here. Thanks hockey dude. I'm dreading having to take that route but I will if necessary.

tiggytape Thu 23-Jun-16 18:51:28

It isn't clear if you are a teacher at this school or another school.
It reads as if you you don't work at this school but I may be wrong there. Therefore, when you observe her, she always sees you as a parent rather than a colleague and perhaps you aren't seeing how she truly interacts with the children.
I've noticed a lot of teachers seem to interact very warmly with their class even if they come across as very shy or very offhand with adults.
Of course if you've seen her teaching when she isn't responding to parents being there, and if you feel there are grounds for complaint, then of course speaking to the Head would be the way to go.

Iggii Thu 23-Jun-16 18:56:04

Under what basis have you been able to observe her?

camsie Thu 23-Jun-16 20:11:19

Not sure how you feel equipped to judge her?
Have you observed her teaching?

TrappedNerve Sun 26-Jun-16 12:47:22

Unfortunately it is impossible to change her personality.
Has she been known to be like this for a long time?
If she is as bad as she sounds then surely you won't be the first person to have noticed and therefore will not come as a great shock to anyone.
Is there only the one class per year? Not sure if you meant there is another one but your dc has been assigned to this one.

Either way it doesn't sound good, teachers at our school are so jolly and warm and I would hate it if my reception dd had a teacher like this.
Hers is lovely as I presume the majority are.
There may be more going on than meets the eye...

PenelopePitstops Sun 26-Jun-16 13:07:42

On the flip side if the kids are making progress maybe it's just her way.

Kids have to learn that not every person they meet will be falling over themselves to welcome them. She sounds well suited to secondary!

BoneyBackJefferson Sun 26-Jun-16 13:38:50

Lulioli
Oh ffs! I think rather than continue this thread I ll do what I planned to do which is make an appointment with the new Head teacher and formally complain about her actions.

What exactly are you formally complaining about?

t4gnut Mon 27-Jun-16 11:57:49

Not another one.

You do not get to choose your special snowflakes teacher.

Learning to deal with different people, expectations and personality types is part of life. Providing the teacher is providing a good standard of education and the child is making good progress what is their to complain about? So they're not leaping around with glove puppets all day and singing happy songs! The head is just going to label you as 'that parent'.

Skinnyflatwhiteplease Mon 27-Jun-16 21:39:07

Some unnecessarily harsh responses on here. OP I think you are right to raise your concerns with the HT. Your child will spend 6 hours a day five days a week with this person. it is not unreasonable to want them to be happy!

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