Dd1 has had a few run-in's with one of her friends for years. Low level bullying, usual schoolgirl nastiness, dd being left out, etc. Lately it escalated to the girl hitting dd. It happened twice and the teacher told me it had been dealt with and the girl was on a 'three strikes and you're out' rule and would be excluded for a day if she did it again.
She duly hit another girl. I assumed this would be the third strike. Nothing happened however and the girl wasn't excluded. I believe she was spoken to though.
Dd is a bit concerned that it will happen again because the girl might think she can get away with it, because the school didn't follow through with what they said they'd do.
Anyway. We've had Ofsted in today. The inspector had an informal meeting with parents to canvass our opinions. Most of it was very positive feedback; on the whole it's a lovely school. I had to be honest though and say that we had had a negative experience that I didn't feel had been resolved. A couple more parents had a similar view.
The inspector asked to speak to us afterwards, to elaborate on our experiences. I explained what had happened. I'm sure she can't take personal anecdotes into account but she asked us so we told her.
I related this later to my friend, who is a member of staff, as I am also, although only in an admin role. My friend was horrified. She said dd was just as much to blame and gave as good as she got and wasn't being bullied! She said I don't know my own child and shouldn't believe everything I'm told.
I don't know whether to be upset at her opinion of my daughter, who she's known since she was a baby, or wonder if I've actually made a mistake and now made it worse by discussing it with the Ofsted inspector.
I gently questioned dd later and she got upset and thought I didn't believe her. Obviously I believe and support her, this has been going on for ages and she's not the only one having a hard time with this girl.
I just don't know what to think now. I wonder if I ought to ask the teachers tomorrow? The trouble is every time I've approached them before they've clammed up and closed ranks and made me feel like 'that' parent.
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Not sure I've handled this very well, might have made it worse, advice needed
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MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 26/05/2016 21:31
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