Is this bullying or am I being overprotective?

(8 Posts)
Lindy2 Sat 16-Apr-16 17:10:37

My 7 year old came home from school yesterday and told me 2 girls in her class had handed out friendship bracelets to every girl in the class but made a specific point of excluding my daughter. My daughter was quite hurt by it.
She isn't friends with these girls and she has her own good small circle of friends both boys and girls.
She isn't fussed about not being friends with these 2 but it seems to me these 2 popular girls (queen bee types) are now deliberately trying to upset my daughter.
Should I mention it to the school or is it daft to get worked up about bracelets?
They have a new teacher this term although she knows the class already. I do have a meeting scheduled with the Senco next week (my daughter has mild SEN which is probably why they are singling her out). I was thinking I could mention it to the Senco then so I have raised my concerns but without going straight to the teacher in practically her first week.

jamdonut Sat 16-Apr-16 17:40:56

Was it done in the playground, or did the teacher know about it? I think any teacher would have asked the girls not to do that if they knew about it.

jamdonut Sat 16-Apr-16 17:41:58

I think you should mention it to the class teacher, actually.

PinkFluffiUnicorn Sat 16-Apr-16 17:45:48

I would mention it to the teacher, ask her to keep an eye out as your not sure if your daughter is being bullied or it was an isolated incident.

Lindy2 Sat 16-Apr-16 18:23:07

It was done where no teacher would see.

donadumaurier Sat 16-Apr-16 18:47:15

Is she sure they were given to all the girls except her? Not trying to undermine your daughter here, I just know that while on many levels this was me in primary school, I was also incredibly sensitive about the fact I was often on the edges of things and did sometimes see situations as more excluding than they actually were, IYSWIM. That said, I still think it's worth having a word with the teacher. Were her good friends also given these friendship bracelets? Are they friends with the girls who handed them out? Either way I think it's insensitive, just trying to get a sense of the whole picture, you're in a better position to speak to the teacher once you have all the facts straight.

TheTroubleWithAngels Sat 16-Apr-16 18:58:56

I'd come down very heavily on that sort of nonsense as a teacher. You're right to have a word.

Lindy2 Sat 16-Apr-16 20:30:45

Thanks for your advice everyone.
Yes, according to DD it was all the girls apart from her. One of her good friends refused to accept a bracket because of DD being left out (a lovely girl). The other 2 accepted a braclet because they really wanted one but told DD they were still her friends.
I will let the senco know as that appointment is already booked for next week. I'd probably have to wait longer to see her actual teacher. The senco knows my DD well and I think she would talk to the teacher promptly on this.

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