Being Friends with Teachers on Facebook

(61 Posts)
Royaldada Fri 15-Jan-16 20:26:23

Just that really - If one of your DC's teachers was on Facebook would you add them as a friend

Nuttypops Fri 15-Jan-16 20:35:30

No, I wouldn't add anyone as a friend unless I was friends with them anyway if that makes sense.

As a primary school teacher, I am not allowed under the terms of my contract to be friends on Facebook with parents of children at the school I teach at, whether or not they are currently in my class. I would presume most other teachers are the same, and if not I would be surprised if they accepted a friend request even if you are friends in day to day life, it just leaves you too open as a teacher.

Myself and the majority of my teaching colleagues are on Facebook under a different name anyway so the children I teach can't find me, I would presume your DCs teachers are the same.

admission Fri 15-Jan-16 20:40:41

I completely agree with nuttypops. Whilst you might be happy to add a friend, if a teacher or any staff member has a facebook page which is open and they accept especially pupils then they are asking for trouble. I would hope that most teachers by now would have got the message that this is just not worth the potential hassle and worse if they accept friend requests from pupils or parents of pupils, but obviously not.

BertrandRussell Fri 15-Jan-16 20:43:06

I would either warn the teacher or tell the Head- she should not be on Facebook.

LillyBugg Fri 15-Jan-16 20:43:10

No. Why would you? Unlikely they would accept you anyway due to what pp's have said. Teachers would be insane to accept parent friend requests.

Groovee Fri 15-Jan-16 20:44:56

I work in a school nursery and have refused parents as friends.

I have had parents who have come to the nursery as its their catchment and we were already friends prior to their child being born.

Gobbolino6 Fri 15-Jan-16 20:45:37

No, I think it's peculiar and it would be bad practice for them to accept anyway.

Groovee Fri 15-Jan-16 20:46:17

Bert why should school staff not be on Facebook?

kimlo Fri 15-Jan-16 20:46:58

No, they wouldnt be able to be your friend and probably wouldnt want to even if they could.

Hulababy Fri 15-Jan-16 20:47:43

I am not FB friends with any of my pupils' parents, past or present.

Only time I would consider it and it would feel right is if the parent was an actual real life friend of mine.

I do, however, now have a couple of DD's old teachers on my FB - but they are either retired or no longer teach now, we got to know fairly well (I worked at the school for a while) and DD left the school 3 years ago.

Hulababy Fri 15-Jan-16 20:49:34

No mention of it in any school contract I have had, but is advised again unless friends in real life - and then no mention of school stuff anyway. i do the social media advice/training at school - so we have certain guidelines surrounding social media, but nothing in stone.

No reason why school staff cannot be on social media at all!

Bogburglar99 Fri 15-Jan-16 20:51:32

As a parent, and parent governor, No. Really not.

I am Facebook friends with a couple of parents/ TAs who I know as friends, but who also teach at the kids school. Even that I think is pushing it a bit, and if they were actually teaching my kids I think I would temporarily defriend them.

DDs teacher is a fantastic person. But she should feel free to post drunken photos of the staff night out and I should feel free to post 'can't stand these children one minute longer, is it time for gin?' without having to face each other at the classroom door on Monday morning smile

ThatsNotEvenAWord Fri 15-Jan-16 20:58:28

I'm a teacher. One parent kept adding me then deleting his request then adding again confused he's blocked now, as are any other parents who try to add me. Or children for that matter.

I have a few friends who are TAs who are also parents at the school and I don't comment or really interact with them on FB so that other parents can't see anything. I want my private life to be private

bloodyteenagers Fri 15-Jan-16 21:16:39

Why shouldn't school staff be on fb?

Anyway no. Decent basic e-safety policy says no.
When we do e-safety with parents we also tell them not to send staff requests.

teeththief Fri 15-Jan-16 21:49:28

No. Definitely a bad idea. I'm a TA and get parents trying to add me but I just ignore it. If any of my friends get jobs at my DC's schools I also then delete them from my FB.

Feenie Fri 15-Jan-16 21:52:00

I would either warn the teacher or tell the Head- she should not be on Facebook

Must have missed that memo.

I wouldn't respond to you and my Head would tell you I can do what I like.

ButtonMoon88 Fri 15-Jan-16 21:53:41

No I would go as far to say that I think I think it's unprofessional to add/accept parent requests, just asking for trouble really. You must be friendly to parents but you aren't friends!

Potterwolfie Fri 15-Jan-16 22:00:33

In our US school, loads of parents were friends with teachers and no one seemed to think twice, but it made me uncomfortable, so many helicopter parents who would happily use their perceived 'connection' to teachers to try and benefit their kids.

cece Fri 15-Jan-16 22:01:12

Some of my friends work at my DC's school as TAs. They were tagged in the staff night out photos so I then got to see them all on their Xmas do. Including my DC's teacher.

However, before she was a teacher she was a parent in my eldest's year group, so I knew her as a parent first iyswim. I did tell them I could see the photos though - so they could adjust their settings...

Potterwolfie Fri 15-Jan-16 22:01:31

Should've said 'Facebook friends' rather than just 'friends'.

AFootInBothCamps Fri 15-Jan-16 22:22:22

We have TAs who are friends wit teachers. We are friends with the TAs so see the teachers comment. The only slightly dodgy buy is that the TAs also have children in the teachers classes. We also have the lunch ladies who have children the school being friends with both TAs and teachers. I think the lines are very blurred tbh.

Minispringroll Fri 15-Jan-16 22:24:45

I would either warn the teacher or tell the Head- she should not be on Facebook
confused hmm
The fact that I have a personal (set to highest security levels; and school's not meant to be mentioned) facebook account is none of my head's business, really. I've had it for years. Even teachers are allowed to have a personal life. I only have "friends" on it, who I actually know in real life and who are friends or relatives,...if that makes sense.

I am, however, not usually friends with any parents or pupils. I have one parent of a former pupil on my friends list. She was my friend and colleague long before I taught her DC.

BertrandRussell Fri 15-Jan-16 22:27:49

"The fact that I have a personal (set to highest security levels; and school's not meant to be mentioned) facebook account is none of my head's business, really."

Well, this teacher obviously doesn't have the same security settings. And many LEAs advise teachers not to be on Facebook at all.

VocationalGoat Fri 15-Jan-16 22:30:28

No way.

BelindaBagwash Fri 15-Jan-16 22:32:51

I have a few parents as FB friends - it's a small community and I know them outwith school. I wouldn't accept requests from parents I had no connection with other than teaching their children,

Some staff have accepted requests from parents, It's a handy way to see what they are bitching saying about what's gone on at school wink

Nobody has told us we are not allowed to be on FB or change our names. We are allowed to have a life out of school.

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