My 5yr DD has just started school and become very friendly with a 9yr boy. At first I thought this was fine, it's a small school and all the years mix up anyway but now I'm wondering if it's innocent.
She is a bit 'gooey' when she is around him so I wondered if it might be a first crush without her knowing it and she stared at his Christmas card to her for ages etc. He has been really good about playing playground games with her and I think he is quite protective of her but she has come home today and said things which could be misconstrued...
It started because she received a card from the boy's sister which said 'cheer up' in it. When I asked DD about this she said it was a secret. So I said there were no secrets between her and me. She then said she had been sad and the sister said it was a secret. I asked her what her secret was and she said "it was about a big thing that you stick in and I wanted to play with it".
I KNOW, I sound like I am barking but it's just alarmed me because they are so much older and because of the secrecy. When I tried to get more info, DD said that she meant about the boy and another older girl having to go inside so she couldn't play with them and she was sad.
I guess I am worried that the older children have had some sex ed. and are using sexualised talk around my DD as a sort of joke at her expense OR the playing has undertones that aren't that innocent. She hugs this boy and he tickles her. I just don't know whether I am being really silly to even consider there is an issue.
With her being so young, dd's talk is sometimes fantastical anyway so I feel that I wouldn't be able to find out the true situation from her...
Has anyone experienced anything similar?
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5 year old DD has school friend/ crush? with 9 year old boy
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Homosapiens · 08/12/2015 18:04
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