My 6yo is a bright and generally well behaved little girl. She's progressing wonderfully at school, her teacher is full of good things to say about her and her reading age is well above average. But she hates it. She has never in her life chosen to read voluntarily. She brings a reading book home from school every evening and the expectation from school (and from me) is that she should read everyday. I insist that she does and I literally force her to do it. Most of our 'reading time' is taken up with her slumping in her chair, staring into the distance, telling me that she'll only read x number of pages etc. etc. When she does read some words it feels like she's not trying, she often reads half a sentence looks around the room for a while, talks about something else. She's not interested.
I know I don't help as I find it horribly frustrating. I do start off being positive, tell her I like the look of the book she's chosen today, talk about what we can see in the pictures, talk about what we think the story could be about or what happens next etc. But she wares me down. I've fallen into terrible habits of correcting her, interrupting her when she's saying nonsense and not registering that the word she's saying is totally made up. I always praise her when she tries hard or sounds and blends words she doesn't recognise.
She chooses her books at school independently, the number of books, styles, interests she has to choose from is vast. We go to the library every week and she chooses books to take home but never reads them, never even opens the front cover.
I read to her and her little brother every evening. She went off picture books but we're working through Enid Blyton, Roald Dahl etc. She seems to love these books and being read to.
I've used sticker charts when she was younger with rewards given once she earned enough stickers. This did get her reading in the school holidays but always with the attitude mentioned above. She seems a bit old for that now.
I've tried talking to her about her attitude on numerous occasions. Today she insisted that she enjoys reading. I told her that her behaviour suggests otherwise and that the experience is horrible for me as well as her. The outcome of our conversation today is that I've told her I'm only going to read with her from now on if she wants to and the first sign of the negative behaviours, we stop. I've also said that I will be reporting all this to her teacher, who she craves to please and if no reading is done at home, her teacher will know the exact reasons. I'm hoping that she'll be shamed into at least doing some reading but I'm not convinced.
When reading is such a pleasure, how can it be such a horrible experience with my daughter? Where did it all go wrong?
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6yo girl hates reading - any advice please?
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millingtonsmummy · 26/04/2014 16:03
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