Is this enough punishment

(24 Posts)
sonlypuppyfat Tue 10-Sep-13 23:05:23

My DD at school was in line waiting to get into class a boy tapped another boy on the head he turned around saw my DD and thought it was her, he pushed her over. She took the skin off her arm and shin he owned up to it and his punishment is loosing 5 mins off his playtime is that reasonable I'm not too sure.

runningonwillpower Tue 10-Sep-13 23:08:43

Depends on the age of the boy and the severity of the telling off.

sonlypuppyfat Tue 10-Sep-13 23:12:31

Sorry they are in year 9.

sonlypuppyfat Tue 10-Sep-13 23:13:31

Sorry I'm an idiot they are 9 blush

numbum Tue 10-Sep-13 23:14:06

You need Secondary Education.....

sonlypuppyfat Tue 10-Sep-13 23:18:09

No they are 9 years old I got mixed up!

sonlypuppyfat Tue 10-Sep-13 23:22:32

Its just that I don't want to go in the school office moaning tomorrow if this was enough punishment for him

Blu Tue 10-Sep-13 23:28:18

It might be 5 mins every day.

numbum Tue 10-Sep-13 23:31:51

I'd think it was an appropriate punishment. I'd assume he'd pushed thinking that person had done the same to him and it had just gone wrong.

My DD seems to be 'in the wrong place at the wrong time' a lot though so i've come to accept it and trusted the judgement of the teachers

numbum Tue 10-Sep-13 23:33:42

When I say that I mean she seems to get pushed over a lot when children assume she's the one who's hurt them. DD has a very bad habit of taking the blame to protect other children. Thankfully her teachers have realised this though and manage to get her to tell them who the original culprit was

runningonwillpower Tue 10-Sep-13 23:33:43

How much punishment do you want?

He did a stupid thing and was punished.

Why question that?

sonlypuppyfat Tue 10-Sep-13 23:34:27

No its just the special playtime on friday, its just that my DD is such a gentle little thing very kind and sweet its made me see red a bit.

sonlypuppyfat Tue 10-Sep-13 23:35:54

I just think that loosing 5 mins play time compared to loosing a load of skin off your arm and leg is perhaps a little lenient

runningonwillpower Tue 10-Sep-13 23:40:54

Yes but punishment has to be fair and equitable.

The boy just lashed out - it wasn't his intention to skin an arm and leg.

I'm pretty sure he would have got a good telling off.

Sorry your little girl got hurt but the boy was identified as being in the wrong. I'd let it go at that.

sonlypuppyfat Tue 10-Sep-13 23:46:38

Ok I just felt like I should do something, she's my baby.

GibberTheMonkey Tue 10-Sep-13 23:51:48

The fact that he owned up to is also a point in his favour. The teacher may also be taking into account his other behaviour. If he's a child who rarely does such thing but may have made a silly mistake they may be less harsh. Lots of factors come into play

cory Wed 11-Sep-13 06:32:10

I think you need to step away a bit. Your dd's arm won't actually get better if the boy has a different punishment. The teacher who was there will have made a judgment call as to the best way of making sure he doesn't do it again. Sometimes it is better not to know every little detail of your child's school day.

Johnny5needsinput Wed 11-Sep-13 06:47:55

She's 9. Is this really the first time she's had a skinned arm at school?

You sound rather over protective to me. In a couple of years she will be off to secondary school.

exoticfruits Wed 11-Sep-13 07:11:29

As 'your baby' you should let go in this instant. It happened at school, the school dealt with it. They know the details and you don't.

Galena Wed 11-Sep-13 07:48:28

By 'special playtime on Friday' do you mean golden time? If so, losing 5 minutes of golden time is a fairly usual punishment for a minor misdemeanour - and this was a minor misdemeanour. He didn't target your DD in order to be mean to her, he messed around with someone that he thought started it. If she had started it, she would have been prepared for a push, and wouldn't have fallen so heavily.

It was unfortunate, but if you've got to year 4/5 without having anything like this happen ever before, you are very lucky!

sonlypuppyfat Wed 11-Sep-13 07:53:06

Ok thanks everyone for putting it into a bit of perspective for me. I won't show myself up in the office then!

ReallyTired Wed 11-Sep-13 09:36:42

It sounds like to me that the boy was being silly rather than outright bully. i think that losing 5 minutes golden time is probably the right level of punishment. He owned up the crime, which showed he was taking responsiblity for his actions and realised that he had done wrong. The leniency of the punishment reflects the fact that the boy was honest.

I am sure that the little boy has had a huge telling off from a teacher and his parents may well have got a phone call.

SanityClause Wed 11-Sep-13 11:47:37

TBH, how it was dealt with isn't your business.

If she was constantly picked on (i.e. bullied) by others, or if she always seemed to be coming home battered and bruised, of course you should speak to the school, but not if it's a one off.

DS got into a fight at the end of last school year. The school told me how he had been dealt with (litter picking at break; attending the "friendship group" where they discuss strategies for how to avoid fights etc.; making up with the other boy) and I was happy with that.

I have no idea what happened to the other boy. It's just not my business.

exoticfruits Wed 11-Sep-13 13:13:56

Well done- always nice to have an OP who listens. Unfortunately very few people read the thread and so she will have to put up with people who don't know it is done and dusted!

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