How many days did your DC miss this year? What's "average"?
From what I saw on MN and observed from friends' DCs and at our school, with the cold winter there seemed to be more illness than usual this school year. Right?
Somehow DC1 (just finished Reception) escaped relatively unscathed and had one day off all year, when she had a bad cold and was completely exhausted. There were days back in Jan/Feb when almost half her class was missing, so how she managed not to catch any of the nasty bugs going round is a miracle!
(Not at all a stealth boast - there were other children in the school that managed 100% attendance (DC1 was upset she didn't get a sticker for attendance). Which absolutely amazes me!)
How did your DCs get on? Just curious if this was a bad year or not, and what to expect in years to come.
Dredging my memory as a child, I can recall missing a few days due to usual childhood illnesses, but did have one or two years with 100% attendance, when I was a teen.
DD1 has endometriosis and is at college. She's probably had between 5 and 10 days off all due to the endometriosis.
DD2, DD3 and DS2 have probably had between 2 and 5 days of each due to illness.
DS1 has has an awful year. His attendance has been below 85% due to his asthma. He's been off school a lot because he's been on antibiotics and steroids. Probably at least 20 days in total.
We also took them on holiday back in October for a week which meant them missing school on top of the illness days.
1 day after a hospital admission (burn, nasty), 2 days with a winter flu virus, temp so high he couldn't stand.
Then 5 days excluded, which is authorised absence. Don't comment please, I am still on the edge of tears when I think about it and it was 2 months ago.
Well hopefully all of those with good attendance records are pleased that the children with bugs do take time off else the whole class would be catching all sorts of nasties and nobody would have a good attendance record. That is afterall half the point of staying away - either the child feels so ill that they cannot come in or feels fine but is contagious so shouldn't come in.
DD and DS haven't had any time off for holiday or even illness as such (DD was ill but it coincided with the Easter break). However they both have quite a few half days off for hospital visits. This cannot be helped as they see consultants who do not operate clinics outside school hours and this will go on for many years.
Dd - 98% attendance, 1 day authorised hol and first 2 days of reception for vomiting bug, first time she has ever vomited!
Ds - 94%, 1 day auth for hol, 2 for vomiting bug and remainder for two bouts of tonsillitis. I was really pleased as the previous year he had tonsillitis at least 4 times and getting time off work was awkward!
Ds - 3 days (year 2) - chest infection
Dd - 16 days (reception) - tonsillitis, nasty coughs, temperatures
Added to dd's days off for illness, she also picked up a verucca and a wart on her foot. And both kids got nits!
All of the above resolved over summer.
People's kids on mn don't seem to get ill as much as mine. All the bugs come from school though. I always send mine back fit and healthy and full of energy, lasts a few weeks until the bugs start going around.
This year DD2 had 100% and DD1 only missed half a day as she was sick on a friday lunchtime and sent home.
DD1 has been at school for 6 years and DD2 for 4 years. The maximum either has had off is 3 days a year.
They both get bad throat infections but usually these are in holiday time.
Thinking back to my own school days... Perhaps 3 a year? It was usually a heavy cold that got me days off. Very occasionally a sickness bug.
DD got 95% attendance. She has time off for chicken pox and tonsillitis. Also 1.5 days when we went on holiday (authorised).
Dd1 (year 7) 0 days (usual-she hasn't had a day off since year 3 when she had pneumonia)
Dd2 (year 4) 10.5 days (4 medical appointments for long standing condition-usual; 1 day (in 2 halves) for medical appointments for new condition-not usual; 1 day approved absence for sporting activity-never done that before; 4.5 days illness-about usual-2 sickness bug days and 2.5 days migraines)
Ds (year 1) 16 days (mostly ear infections, but tonsilitis too, unusually little he had double that the previous year)
Odd flying tree.
DD has had I think 2 days off, one was actually me who was v ill and I'd taken a sleeping pill too late and couldnt get myself together to get her in
One day of proper illness, she never gets ill
5 days authorised holiday
WTF Flyingtree?! Nobody here is blagging or lying, you can see the spread of attendances people have experienced. My family have been lucky this year, but it would have been a different story three years ago at nursery I can tell you.
A bit relieved to see a few lower attendees on the thread now. My yr.1 dd missed 21 days this year. She had the chicken pox and also recurrent tonsillitis. She had tonsillitis six times during term time and gets a scarily high temp with it. Also she is asthmatic and high temps have a tendency to trigger an attack.
The school have been totally fine about it.
Of course nobody is going to admit on Mumsnet of all places their child has less than an impeccable attendance record.
But take away this information and process it as fact and you'll be happy enough living under your acquired illusion.
I'm a teacher and usually I have a couple of days a term off - very bad cold, chest infection or a throat infection. I'm asthamtic and despite what one poster said on the first page, some colds affect people in different ways, some worse than others and believe me, it can be pretty grim to have to teach to a class of thirty with a streaming, nose and eyes and not being able to teach phonics properly because you can't make some of the sounds!!! Also grim for thirty kids to be staring at it!!!
Anyways, this year for me has been horrendous. In fact horrendous for the school. At one point we had to contact disease control or similar at the council for advice as we thought we may have had to shut school to stop the spread of viruses.
I arrived back at work in September after 9 months maternity leave so had zero immunity to all the usual bugs and germs. I have just triggered a 'meeting' due to so much time off but this year I have had; 2 x throat infections, 2 x tummy bugs, flu, bronchitis, ear infection a sudden and horrendous allergic reaction to penicillin which required an immediate trip to a&e from school, colds and god knows how many UTIs!!! And that doesn't include my sons chest infections and measles (despite having jab - he was that 1 in 10).
This year, my family has been damned unlucky with the germs. Some people are lucky to have a fighting fit immune system and everyone responds differently to infections, even colds. I know of one child who had 5 chicken pox spots yet another who was covered from head to toe (when I had them aged 2, I was hospitilised!)
I also have children in my class though, that have time off because they're tired. One girl has 80% attendance and aprt from 2 weeks when she had a tues/weds or weds/thurs off, every one has been a monday or a friday - typical days for feeling tired.
DD who had 100% attendance DID have illnesses - 3 throat infections, a UTI and two d&v bugs, but each time she was ill it was holidays, or a Friday evening that she came down with it, and well enough for school by the Monday. She's in Y10.
DS1 has NEVER had time off like this - I joked with the HT that as he had had 100% attendance from YR, he was taking ALL his sick days in one school year! He was in Y6, and managed to get lvl 6 in his Maths SATS, and lvl 5a in the reading & writing SATS test and the same in the SPAG SATS test. He was mad because he was trying to get 100% attendance for the whole 7 years of Primary!
DS2 was in Y4, and having 12 days off is hardly anything for him, as one of his asthma meds (not routine, but when he's really bad he has to have it) lower his immune system, which means that if CP is going round the school, he can't attend until a week after the last confirmed case, so he has often had to take over 5 weeks off at a time. 12 days is nothing really for him.
DD - none, 100% attendance.
DS1 - 39 days, but he had a systemic streptococcal infection and then appendicitis and an appendectomy...
DS2 - 12 days, due to hospitalisation for chronic brittle asthma.
Ds1 Yr2 has had at least four days off sick (authorised), and we took him out for a day unauthorised to go to a family event. Ds2 Reception has had the same unauthorised day and I think two days sick. Both were full of colds and winter bugs when in nursery and pre school, and the year that ds1 went to nursery was awful for dh and me as well - he just bought all the new bugs home and we all got them. I had at least eight separate colds in the six winter months that year.
We've also been late to school twice this year when they were both still asleep in bed at 8:15am after an awful week of activities and both seemed to be sickening for something on top. I just thought fuck it, they obviously need the rest, and took them in when they woke which was about and hour late all in all. I did phone school and let them know though.
My daughter has been having treatment for leukaemia for the past two years but managed 68% attendance this year (year one). Her teacher told me she has nowhere near the worst attendance in the class!
DS had 2 days off. Exams and transition day for new school in Sept.
He sulked mightily at not getting 100% attendance as he was in school just not the right one for those purposes !
No1 son had one day off - he is 13 and that's the first day since he was 6 - he has had 4 days in total off school in 8 years.
No2 son also had 1 day off - he is 12 and that's his 5 day off school in 7 years.
So I would say our average is half a day a year but most of that is concentrated on the early primary years.
Ds had 100% one of only 5 childreb in his school of 108.
Dd3 had 5 days of 3 with tonsillitis and 2 withtthe worst womiting bug I have ever experienced. She was actually sick on the Wednesday and off Thursday and Friday buteeven Sunday night were we uncertain if she would go to school the next dau. School kept a close eye and sent her to a quiet room for the last hour of the day she was exhausted.
Unsure what dd1 and 2 had must ask to get their numbers of them. Will be 2 or 3 day's each
Ye gods, all these healthy dc make mine look even worse.
Ds1 had a particularly bad year. Developed a squint which gave him double vision which have him headaches so he was off loads before he had an operation to fix the squint. That required two weeks off school for recovery and he still got occasional headaches adjusting. At one point he was taking the piss and claiming to be worse than he was thinking that he'd caught up after legitimate reasons the odd day here and there wouldn't matter. Teachers had to have words with him to get him back on track, saying he had to improve or he wouldn't be allowed to stay after next years exams, but he then got a throat infection caught off me (I was off work for a week).
Ds2 had the usual few days here and there of coming down with a cold which affects him badly triggering his asthma but thankfully not bad enough to put him in hospital as it used to
Ghoul I think that is harsh for primary. This year was a very bad year for our local primary with record low numbers on a few days. Lets hope the sunshine this summer has given everyone's immune system a boost.
My DS3 (y1) has 94% attendance for the year - that's quite low as he had a nasty flu virus that knocked him off his feet with temperatures over 39c for over a week and while he was still getting over that he caught a stomach bug that took a good few days to shift
and meant he missed his own birthday party Ofsted would like to see all attendance at 98% or higher but that's pretty hard to achieve as that's less than 4 days off per year.
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