And so it begins..... facebook updates telling of glowing end of year reports

(98 Posts)
starterforeight Wed 10-Jul-13 21:09:05

Why do it ?

Tell your kids how proud you are of their effort and or achievement this academic year, let them show their grandparents/favourite auntie/whoever but bragging on facebook is truly vulgar (or "naff" if you prefer).

Don't get me wrong, my dc's reports indicate that they've had a good year but I'd rather stick hatpins in my eyeballs than update my facebook status accordingly.

JakeBullet Wed 10-Jul-13 21:14:14

I am starting to see this too, DS is autistic and is well behind his peers. However, he has made massive progress and I am so proud of him. I don't need to put it on FB either.

...and by "massive progress" I mean he has skewed all the school's results by going up a massive number of sub levels within two years of starting junior school. Unheard of apparently grin. the school actually have to explain the anomaly in their results.....and it's DSgrin

Portofino Wed 10-Jul-13 21:18:58

What's wrong with posting something on Fb saying you are proud of your dc whether that is coming top, or achieving something or just being proud of them? I think some people should just avoid FB tbh as it seems you are not allowed to post anything in case you upset someone. I only have my FRIENDS on FB so I am genuinely pleased for them if their kids are doing well, or they are having a lovely holiday, or their extension is going to plan....

caffeinated Wed 10-Jul-13 21:20:43

Lots of my friends do this and I assume they must think my kids are academic failures because I don't. My kids know I'm proud of them, posting it on Facebook is just to be smug. I judge all my friends that do it.

MadCap Wed 10-Jul-13 21:20:58

I don't I kind of put people who complain about this with those who complain about people who post their holiday snaps.

They're probably posting to share with granny, auntie, etc. Hide the post if it bothers you so much.

caffeinated Wed 10-Jul-13 21:23:13

Porto fair point. Maybe I should unfriend more people. Because the ones I really like are too classy to do it. I saw one 'friend' was buying her daughter a pair of louboutins to celebrate her getting all 5's in ks2 sats.

Mintyy Wed 10-Jul-13 21:24:42

People use facebook in different ways!

Mind you, I did have to tell a very proud Year 1 Dad I know that I didn't want to read his pfb's report when I bumped into him in the park (Dad was carrying it round in his pocket to show all and sundry grin).

VivaLeBeaver Wed 10-Jul-13 21:25:12

I have some fb acquaintances who only post infrequently but every single thing is to do with their kids grades, reports, special awards, karate results, ballet grades, etc. seriously, nothing else.

I'm tempted to put a status on saying that I'm so proud of 12yo dd for passing eight GCSEs and getting accepted to Cambridge. grin

VivaLeBeaver Wed 10-Jul-13 21:26:57

Now I love seeing people's holiday snaps. <nosy>

mumblechum1 Wed 10-Jul-13 21:27:24

I have some fb acquaintances who only post infrequently but every single thing is to do with their kids grades, reports, special awards, karate results, ballet grades, etc. seriously, nothing else.

You should feel sorry for people like that, they clearly live through their children and don't have a life of their own.

merrymouse Wed 10-Jul-13 21:28:09

Isn't that the problem with Facebook though?

I think children's reports are strictly of interest to family only. However, if you put it on Facebook you end up sharing with somebody you used to work with in 2009 who you haven't spoken to since they asked to be your friend.

caffeinated Wed 10-Jul-13 21:28:12

Viva I love holiday snaps too.

MadCap Wed 10-Jul-13 21:29:03

Caffeinated, what are your friends allowed to post about since anything positive is deemed crass?

Periwinkle007 Wed 10-Jul-13 21:29:48

if you don't like it then hide them from your news feed. I don't see why people can't post things about their kids, things they are doing or have achieved or their holiday snaps or whatever. if you don't like it don't read it. so what if it is boasting, if they are proud of it then what is wrong. it doesn't mean they judge others because they don't do it. I like to see how my friends kids are doing, some of my friends have kids who are in yr6 and whom I rarely get to see due to distances but I love to see their sports results, their funny quotes, their good SATS or whatever. I am really pleased for them. My children are unlikely to match their achievements when they are that age but that doesn't matter because they are my children and I am proud of them but I can be very pleased for my friends and their families. I just don't understand why it is a problem for some people.

Titsnteeth Wed 10-Jul-13 21:31:13

I don't like any type of facebrag, I know my cl

caffeinated Wed 10-Jul-13 21:32:29

I have a problem that use Facebook only to brag.

RegularVoltaire Wed 10-Jul-13 21:32:33

I like to hear what my friends children have achieved.

What I don't want to hear is that you're having chilli for dinner ...or that you've just cleaned the house from top to bottom ...or that you're soooooooooooo in love with your ikkle smoochy kins <vom>

But that you're children have won a medal/got a great report/won a talent contest? Yes, tell me - I love it!

Titsnteeth Wed 10-Jul-13 21:33:03

Whoops ! I know what my close friends kids are doing and yes we are all proud of our kids, not sure why some need to share it so much.

pooka Wed 10-Jul-13 21:34:04

I loathe it too - just as I loathe most Facebook posts where parents are addressing their preteen kids:

"A very proud mummy, well done darling josh for winning the 100m. I love you" when the child is 7. Fgs - the sentiment is fine, but I assume your DVD doesn't have a fb account, so just say it out loud TO HIM!

pooka Wed 10-Jul-13 21:35:45

I also like holiday photos, other photos, status updates about the person posting, news-y stuff.

The rest is bollocks.

caffeinated Wed 10-Jul-13 21:38:00

Well said pooka.

caffeinated Wed 10-Jul-13 21:39:41

Don't get me started on people that have a picture of their child as a profile pic. Picture with your child, absolutely. Picture solely of your child? No.

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme Wed 10-Jul-13 21:43:11

I often post an update about what my dc's have been up to. Mainly so that all the uncles, aunts and cousins, that we don't see regularly but are all on Facebook, can see. I couldn't give a shiny shit if some random aquaintance wonders about it too. Clearly if you are fed up of seeing all these proud updates then I'm afraid you are probably the random aquaintance because they're obviously not meant for you. hmm

usualsuspect Wed 10-Jul-13 21:43:37

You know what, I will post what ever the hell I like on my FB.

Don't like it? defriende, it ain't hard.

usualsuspect Wed 10-Jul-13 21:44:15

Defriend*

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