Am I committing a parenting faux pas by letting DS1 read his reading books to himself and then just give me a summary of the story??

(37 Posts)
ceebeegeebies Thu 27-Jun-13 19:48:25

He is free reading chapter books, magazines etc so is there a reason I am missing why he needs to sit and read boring books to me?

BabiesAreLikeBuses Thu 27-Jun-13 23:28:02

I have asked most of the parents of my y5 class to listen to their children read more often this year - most are nc level 4a and ort 16. Apart from the obvious enjoying time with you, asking searching questions and checking new vocab is really important. One child read to me today, a 5 syllable word and only two syllables pronounced which altered the meaning.

abitlikemollflanders Fri 28-Jun-13 20:16:25

year 2! I thought he must be Y5 at least.

Y2 still have sooo much to learn - as I am sure you have now realised! level 5 children still benefit from reading aloud. You can discuss inference and deduction - reading between the lines. Author intent, what did the author use this word instead of...
This is in addition to making sure that pronunciation/expression etc is good.

Enjoy hearing him read for a few more years. It really is one of the best ways you can support your child in terms of curriculum education.

EskSmith Fri 28-Jun-13 20:29:52

DD1 is in Yr1 & at White level (10). Her school like to make slow steady progress, she is already racing through Roald Dahl & the dreaded Magic Ballerina books at home
She brings home 2 books at a time. One book I hear her read daily from (normally a chapter or 2) The other she reads to herself and I ask her questions on the text, plus checking that she has correctly read random tricky words in the text.
She also reads her own books & books from the library to herself which we talk about but I don't "quiz" her.

I think at this age, as others have said it is important to encourage expression. Also checking some pronunciation is key - I was a prolific reader at this age, there were several character names and some words that I pronounced in a phonetically plausible but wrong way for years as I had only ever encountered them in text.

youcouldnevermakeitup Fri 28-Jun-13 20:35:41

DS is coming up as a 5b in Yr 3 and has been a free reader since starting school (obviously this is going to sound like a stealth boast) but he is a voracious reader and I still insist he reads to me from time to time. At this sort of level it is not just about inference and deduction but about challenging vocabulary. Whilst his 'reading for fun' is still at the 'How to train your dragon' level, his school books are at a higher level and I make sure that there is not a word on the page that he does not understand when he reads to me. This, I feel, helps his speech and writing as well as his comprehension levels. I am quite pleased with his understanding of vocabulary for his age but there are still some common words which he is not sure about.

You are not off the hook yet!

MirandaWest Fri 28-Jun-13 20:37:11

DS is in year 4. I hadn't really listened to him reading in year 2 or year 3 much blush and in year 4 he got a new teacher part way through the year who said it was important to listen to them preferably daily or at least a few times a week.

I have found that there were words he was occasionally struggling with and also he is actively getting more interested in fiction now. A bedtime we take turns and read a bit and we both enjoy it smile

DD is in year 2 and I don't listen to her reading as much as DS. May be my new school year resolution.

Elibean Fri 28-Jun-13 21:18:35

dd1 is in Y4, and mostly reads to herself (purely because I run out of time after listening to her little sister) but I make sure I listen to her a couple of times per week at least - mostly because she loves it when I do. Also to make sure she isn't skipping over tricky words in her haste to find out what happens next smile

Other times, dh or I sit next to her on the sofa and read while she reads - it's really enjoyable!

ISAmum1 Sat 29-Jun-13 08:31:14

MY DS is in Year 6, so about to leave for secondary. He became a free reader at the end of Year 1. He read to me every school day until the beginning of Year 3, when I found it difficult to get him to read aloud, as he wasn't enjoying it.
His teacher told me not to worry, but instead to read to him as much as possible. After some months of this, we started sharing reading a book (taking it turns to read) which worked well.
Now in Year 6, he reads a book to me and I read a book to him. We alternate each day. This seems to work for us and I will keep it up as long as I can, as I know DS is not such an avid reader.
But as far as literacy is concerned, reading is the most important thing you can encourage (aloud or to oneself). Children who read a lot, tend to do well in English in secondary school.
Btw, my DD (age 13) still loves reading aloud. At the moment, she is reading The Hunger Games to me.

mrz Sat 29-Jun-13 08:43:18

As a teacher and parent I would stop listening once they get to secondary school. Good readers don't take long to read one page aloud so it's worth making time once or twice a week.

Lulaloo Sat 29-Jun-13 09:26:52

Please please do listen to your child read regularly.
I asked one of our yr 2 free readers the other day -(a child whose parents just ask for a summary of what they have read), the meaning of a number of words that he had just read. He did not have a clue.
Listen , discuss and enjoy,books together as often as you can. Creating memories and skills we use our whole lives!

UniS Sat 29-Jun-13 20:10:57

Reading aloud is a slightly different skill to reading to ones self.

I've kept on with reading aloud regularly , tho maybe not daily , with a confident year 2 fre reader DS. He needs the practise reading aloud to keep him from gabbling and skipping punctuation. The reading aloud helps us to pick up on words he is not familiar with and check if he understands their meaning. Espionage was today's one, he can read it, but didn’t know what it meant.

wheresthebeach Sat 29-Jun-13 23:17:43

We had dd teacher send a letter to all parents saying we should be listening to them read for 20 mins a night. Was a bit of a shock as we'd all stopped listening to them around year two. Started again...and can see that it is still helpful. DH reads to her each night as well just for fun.

Enthuse Sun 30-Jun-13 08:59:05

free readers for last few months. None of us really enjoy me listening to reading anymore... We do it reluctantly once a week but necessary as I think words are being glossed over when they dOnt understand them. Otherwise ask for summaries. Have also just bought them a kids dictionary so they can look up words. However I read to them every night for half an hour and we always discuss the story and plot and characters and what we like etc so I think comprehension etc is aided and checked by that and hopefully feeds back into their own reading.

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