If you have a child in year 6 do you still collect them from school?

(39 Posts)
chickensaladagain Wed 19-Jun-13 19:31:19

At my dc's primary you wait in the playground for your dc

Dd1is in yr 6, says hello to me in the playground then goes off with her friends and meets me at home

I have to be there to collect younger dc but I noticed today how many of the yr 6 parents are still collecting their only or youngest dc -they leave in a few weeks,surely they need to be getting used to walking by themselves?

They all live an easy walk from school so is it more about the parents than the dcs?

peeriebear Thu 20-Jun-13 15:49:01

DD1 has been walking or cycling home alone occasionally since y4, and full time since y5. I bought her a mobile phone for Christmas primarily so I can call her if she's late, or she can call me and ask to go to the park/town.

mumofthemonsters808 Thu 20-Jun-13 15:50:18

DD for the last couple of weeks has walked to and from school alone, in preparation for secondary school when she will have to cross the main road and get on a bus.

I still pick DS3 up, but it's for my benefit, so I get a chance to chat to my friends. We often go to he park and chat, and sometimes DS3 goes home first! blush I will miss it in a few weeks. Now all 3 will be in secondary I'll start a 9-4 job in Sept, currently do a term time only 9 - 1 job.

Elibean Thu 20-Jun-13 16:06:23

I think it depends entirely on the dc, and the parents, involved.

My eldest is only Y4, and we live a fair walk from school with several roads to cross, so not tried it yet. I think I'll let her walk to and from school when its light, in Y6, with a friend - but she only has one friend who lives anywhere near us, so it will depend on his parents letting him walk too!

After clubs, or in the dark, I think not. We're not that close to school.

learnandsay Thu 20-Jun-13 16:17:25

We live in a rural area with no bus services to speak of. Parents don't have a choice here.

Ferguson Thu 20-Jun-13 17:21:54

I and another parent took it in turns to collect our DSs from the grammar school gate, into Y7 & Y8 as there was very busy main road to cross, having also shared all through primary. By Y9 we did park in a side road and let them negotiate the road themselves!

I guess it largely depends on the route, distance and location, which obviously vary greatly.

junkfoodaddict Thu 20-Jun-13 20:33:14

I walked home on my own when I was in Y2 - crossed a busy road (lollipop lady) and defied my mum's orders of 'not going in the dene'. Consequently, I was approached by two older teenagers of non-school age who tried to persuade me to go with them and look at puppies. I was quite knowledgable on who to trust and not to trust at that age - but that was 1986!
Nowadays as a parent myself, I wouldn't allow my own child to walk home from school in Y2, despite it being closer in distance and no dene in sight! Not even sure when it would be alright for him to walk home - depends on the individual and their savviness at crossing roads, being stranger aware and them knowing what to do in an emergency.
Having said that, I am a teacher and in 'my' school, KS1 children are not allowed to leave their teacher until a responsible adult has collected them. All Y3 children have a parent or adult collecting them, some children in Y4 walk home alone (their is a 'particular' group that do and it is the ones whose parents are at home and cannot be bothered to collect them!). About half of Y5 walk home with an adult still and only a handful of Y6 walk home with an adult and of those who do, it is because parents are there collecting younger siblings. There is one parent who insists on collecting her Y5 & Y6 daughters. They are not the most indpendent of children. I do think it's because they haven't been allowed to.

junkfoodaddict Thu 20-Jun-13 20:36:13

Oh and had a friend who was still being walked to school (down a cycle track - not a road in sight and a mere 2 minute walk) when in Y11! She had an odd home life - not allowed to outside her garden without an adult, was only allowed baths when her mother said it was 'bath time', not allowed male friends and had to go home for lunch.
She was 'allowed' to go to university - but had to be a home university and heard that she 'escaped' to Israel to teach and has never looked back!

WhiteWine1nTheSun Thu 20-Jun-13 23:45:57

My Y6 DD has been walking on her own since I cancelled before and after school club in Feb. The only exception to this is on Thursdays which is my day off. She sometimes asks me to come with her so we can "chat".

What she actually means is so I can carry her violin and PE kit!

Still - it's nice to feel wanted!!

pointythings Netherlands Fri 21-Jun-13 17:56:40

DD2 is in Yr5 and has been walking to and from school since last September. She walks most of the way with older DD and a friend on the outward journey and walks back with a classmate.

I asked the school whether she needed a permit and they said no, it's fine from Yr4.

I'm a bit hmm about schools that insist on at the door collection in Yr6, that will make secondary a bit of a shock.

I walked to and from school from Yr3 in Holland in the 70s and am a strong believer in fostering independence.

oddslippers Fri 21-Jun-13 18:10:41

My ds1 in y4 walks home twice a week alone when his younger brother is in clubs. He's one of the oldest in the year group and very sensible, the walk is about 5 minutes with one Road to cross. He has enjoyed this little bit of independence and each day is given the option of me coming to get him. I hope the teachers at his school don't think I ' cannot be bothered to collect him' as said up thread

Takver Fri 21-Jun-13 18:58:07

DD is year 6 and has mostly walked home on her own this year - she quite likes to be met though sometimes, so I might take the dog out at home time & aim to run into her part way.

She started to walk on her own during yr 4, initially coming round to our office which is only 5 mins from school & the same direction as a couple of friends.

Mrsrobertduvall Fri 21-Jun-13 20:07:47

Mine walked home from year 4.
Two main roads, but zebras.

I have 2 very independent teens.

lljkk Netherlands Fri 21-Jun-13 21:26:35

Start walking a bit on own from age 8 (so y3).

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