"My first child starts this September" - General Agh! thread

(32 Posts)
ArthurSixpence Tue 11-Jun-13 11:09:49

So the time is almost here. DD is still only three, but she'll be four soon and will be starting school in September.

Pre-school has got us all used to it a little because she goes two days a week, so already she comes out with things that haven't come from us or friends we know, so we know they must have come from school, but come September she will spend more of her waking hours in the week away from us than with us, and yet she seems so young.

So there is existential parental angst of 'letting go' along with more prosaic worries such as what size uniform to buy, how she'll cope with five days in a row given that pre-school tires her so much, how she'll cope with the slightly more formal style in school, if she'll get on with her teacher, if her teacher will be as good as the ones in pre-school, who will be in her class, will she get on with them, how sad it is that she will rarely get a park or a beach to herself again for many years, if she'll be stimulated enough in things she is good at, if she'll be able to keep up with things she isn't so good at ..

Here's the thread for all your pre-September parental-angst. Hopefully. Or maybe it'll just be me, fretting.

beanandspud Sat 15-Jun-13 21:29:19

If your DC has problems putting shoes/PE pumps on the right feet draw half a smiley face in each shoe with marker pen so that when they are put together the right way they make a full face. smile

Completely agree with the tiredness/grumpiness even if your DC has been used to ft nursery. Also be prepared for behaviour to get worse as you get to the holidays. I used to think that half-term was a bit of a cop out for teachers - now I understand that the children really, really need the break blush.

Don't plan lots of after school activities to start with and have snacks ready at pick-up time to keep them going until tea.

thegreylady Fri 14-Jun-13 22:11:37

My dgs was 4 in Feb and has been doing mornings in the nursery class of the school he will go to.Reception is in the same room-they just 'cross the floor' which is a huge deal for them.It's a tiny village school so no worries at all there-he can't wait to stay all day.
Most dc settle very very quickly but it takes mums a bit longer smile

CinnamonAddict Fri 14-Jun-13 09:03:26

My youngest starts school in September, and I am actually looking forward to it <awaits beating>
She is more than ready, will be 5 in November and - she is the youngest of 3 and they tend to be more independent.
It would make a change if she is tired after school. Currently she does 2 half and 3 full days at preschool (9-3.45) and she is never asleep before 8.30, sometimes 9 or even later. And she is in bed at 8, just not tired at all.

I got iron on nametags with just surname. Ordered 9 years ago for dc1.
I also write name with permanent marker on the school logo stuff, learned my lesson there as well.

Recommend a bottle in fridge for the evening. We have a tradition of going out for a meal after pick up on the first day of school, make it a really fun day for the child. Dh takes a day off.

Don't worry, they will love it!

Barbabeau Fri 14-Jun-13 08:47:31

My just turned 4 year old is also due to start in September. I'm a bit sad that none of the close friends from nursery will be at the school.

Their attitude to school seems to have shifted from excited to apprehensive so our focus over the summer needs to be on making school sound fun and exciting.

MaisyMoo123 Thu 13-Jun-13 20:29:17

Good idea for a thread! Starting school is a big moment! My ds starts in September and I have a dd currently in Y2. I'm not half as apprehensive about the whole school thing 2nd time round in terms of practicalities but I am nervous about how ds will cope as he's very different to dd (she's a sept born girl for a start!) My advice would be to try not to stress about it too much and wish the summer away - that's what I'm trying to do anyway! September is still a way off in their little lives. Obviously we need to prepare but I'm also trying to focus on making the most of having ds at home while it lasts - the comment about enjoying the beach/park to ourselves is SO true!!

ArthurSixpence Thu 13-Jun-13 15:34:36

Lots of good tips here.

DD already takes packed lunch to pre-school and wants to carry on doing that when she is at 'big school,' and she takes a sports bottle to bed with her every night in case she gets thirsty and so far there have been no spillages so we should be good to go there too.

And we always have a snack of some sort on our person when she finishes pre-school. She doesn't always ask for it, but when she does she really needs it: it's mainly uphill on the way home so it's fair enough!

ExasperatedSigh Thu 13-Jun-13 10:21:13

My PFB starts in September too. I am teary but excited for him (and me tbh grin). Very grateful though that he was a week overdue and arrived in September instead of end of August, as he will be 5 when he starts and the difference in him between now and this time last year is just staggering.

He's ready for it all...I know I will cry though when I first drop him off blush I'm also sad that he's not going to the same school as his best friend from nursery. DS is quite cautious socially and has formed a real bond with this little lad, so naturally I am now having all the 'will he make friends?' worries.

lottieandmia Thu 13-Jun-13 10:10:37

My youngest dc will start school in September. My tips are

Label everything twice (we have Stuck On You)
Get a keyring that will easily identify your child's book bag for them
shoe labels
teach your child to hang their coat on their peg before they start
if they have a lunch box, get one that is easy to clean
Avoid after school activities for at least the first term
Bring a snack at pick up time

My Ds will still be 4 when he starts reception , but he has been doing 4 days full time nursery at the school he starts in September so im hoping the transition won't be to bad .
Met his teacher etc yesterday & got given a list of what uniform he will need , just hope he doesn't hate me for making him leave nursery as he loves his teacher

MadeOfStarDust Thu 13-Jun-13 09:41:51

Sooooooo right Fish....... ALSO with packed lunches - actually go through what to do to eat it - we had one gorgeous little boy start reception a couple of years ago - he sat with his hands on his lap waiting for a plate to be put out for his food...

Oh and if they are going to be having packed lunches start teaching them now how to shut their drink bottle.....leftover drink dripping and schlooping around lunch bags is a PITA.

And name tags/labels....nah....sharpie pen or a laundry pen from the dry cleaners. Seriously everything labelled/written on by the time it would take you to get the sewing stuff out. Check it everyfew months to amke sure not faded. Do the first initials really thick/dense so even when faded they are stronger. Life is toooo short! [Grin]

recall Wed 12-Jun-13 22:30:15

I agree with fishfingersareok about them being grumpy after school, and not remembering what they did or wanting to talk about it.

SizzleSazz Wed 12-Jun-13 22:09:17

DD2 is still in age 3-4 cardigans and nearly at the end of reception!

recall Wed 12-Jun-13 22:06:04

these STIKINS are really good for name tags. You can just stick them on clothes, shoes drinks bottles….anything.

My DS started reception last year (my last to go, DD now in Y2) and I can remember feeling exactly like you.

He started in age 3 trousers and age 4 jumpers/tops Sainsbury's stuff has been great. The may even do younger stuff (as some nurseries/Pre-school have a uniform).

As for tiredness at the end of the day (if they are not used to full days) they will be knackered and possibly grumpy. Have in your mind to make bedtime half an hour earlier - they may well need it. Also have a snack with you at pick up - their blood sugars will be low - starve those grumps of with a flapjack/raisins and let them eat them on the way home (we abandoned the "We don't eat in the street/whilst walking home" rule for the first half term). They will not remember what they did. They will not want to talk about it. They may not want to talk at all on their way home. Grant them a recharge time (with snack) and then a big cuddle when you get home. You may then find out what they did over tea. But don't count on it grin.

And you will be there. You will be mummy. And they will have (hopefully) behaved well all day - so when they see you they will let all the grumpiness land on your lap. Because they know you love them.

Have a bottle chilling for their first night...for you obviously wine

superbagpuss Wed 12-Jun-13 21:04:51

my DT start in sept
still waiting to hear about uniform, start dates etc although we have a afternoon meeting to attend so that should help

my issue is that my boys are tiny - do school clothes come in trouser size age 2?

saw a list of what they should know by now, little bit worried about them starting behind the others

BoysRule Wed 12-Jun-13 20:58:35

Just reading your post OP made me well up. I am feeling very sad about this. My DS1 is very young (late August) and struggles with going to preschool 2 and a half days a week.

I am in denial - no uniform yet! He has a meet the teacher session soon and maybe then I will have to face up to it.

JustOneMoreBite Wed 12-Jun-13 12:51:45

My main 'agh!' at the moment is that the school can't tell me yet what the starting arrangements are (when they start and on what basis), and the nursery are chivvying me for a finish date. Hopefully I'll find out more once the induction things start at the end of this month, but I'd like to have some idea of how much leave DH and I will need to take between us and when.

Pyrrah Wed 12-Jun-13 11:07:54

I sent DD off to the full-time nursery at one of the local Primaries when she was 3.5 and it has been pretty much Reception-lite all year. All the kids seem to have had no issues with a full school day. I am HOPING DD comes home zonked next year, would make a nice change.

Some of the things that I found helpful - especially for girls:

Jersey pinafores - pinafores are much easier to manage than skirts and the jersey ones pull on easily and wash well. Trousers are to be avoided due to them getting soaked on the bathroom floors when they let them drop round their ankles.

Buy more than you think you will need clothes wise - they get filthy, especially white polos/shirts and jumpers/cardigans made out of the fleecy stuff rather than the knit ones.

The teachers are used to kids who can't do their buttons up/wipe their bottoms/occasionally wet themselves and in my experience are really kind and helpful with them at this age.

Buying uniform too big is not a problem. My DD is tiny and even with the smallest size uniform I could find it was ridiculously long but she grew into it gradually.

MadeOfStarDust Tue 11-Jun-13 13:10:17

mine are now Y6 and secondary Y7 - can I just say - Sharpies rule... forget the labels -
a) easy to write a name on the inside of a collar, or on a clothing label
b) some unscrupulous parents go through the lost property box and clip sewn in labels off....

make sure they can dress themselves, use the toilet unaided - and are not scared to flush! Put a spare set of undies in a plastic bag in their pe kit for accidents.

Write their name in marker pen on the INSIDE of their lunchboxes if they are having one - that way the dinner ladies know their name....

It is not as bad as it first feels - such an exciting phase for everyone!!!!

Periwinkle007 Tue 11-Jun-13 12:52:32

my youngest starts in september too, my eldest is currently in reception.

my daughter started in age 7 uniform because she is extremely tall and her summer dress which only just reaches her knees is age 8...

WingDefence Netherlands Tue 11-Jun-13 12:25:27

My oldest is starting this September and we had a new parents meeting yesterday afternoon. He'll be 5 in December though and is very bright so is more than ready to go and we and he are excited for him.

I'm sure I'll be tearful on his first day though - when the reception teacher laid out the uniform they'd need yesterday it all looked so little and formal!

caffeinated Tue 11-Jun-13 12:22:05

Ours have always been very specific about the areas they want children to be independent in before starting. Dressing and toileting are top of the list.

ReallyTired England Tue 11-Jun-13 12:10:22

Most reception teachers are lovely and reception is designed to teach children things like getting dressed. Summer borns are allowed to do half days if they are getting too tired.

My youngest is starting reception and I won't know what to do with myself.

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