More reception traumas in the manchesterfamily household
DD1 appears to have developed a bit of a fear/hatred of playtime at school. She says her friends "never let her join in", some of the big kids are a bit boisterous, or those who are not in her immediate circle of friends are saying mean things to her. I have no idea if this is true. However, I do know of others in her class, all girls, who are having similar problems at playtime. The teachers deny it, but one dad sat outside school one morning and saw his DD being harassed by an older girl . So there may be some truth in what my DD1 is saying (she can be fanciful, this I know).
She loves school and is progressing really well, but playtime traumas come up in conversation every night, most evenings and every weekend. What I am loathe to do is try to make out that she's doing something wrong: I was bullied at school and it was always "my fault", according to teachers.
I would take this seriously. There were various issues at playtime in our school last year. There has been a change of leadership and they have a much clearer playground structure now (one quiet playground for younger/quieter ones, some equipment for games, and a rota for the football) and the kids (and parents!) are a lot happier. I'm not sure who you approach and how though- sorry, perhaps others will have a better idea.
That's interesting. She's only got a bit of time left in YR, but I'm sure there will be children next year, the year after that and the year after that (DD2's year!) who will feel the same.
I am now thinking I might drop the school an e-mail. I don't want to collar the teacher at the start of the day and I also don't really want to discuss this in front of my DD as I'm not sure that will be helpful. We are having a change of head this Sept so it might be worth getting this on the agenda.
Yes, I think I'm most concerned about the older children issue. I think sometimes it's to do with her friends not wanting to play the same games, and I'm working on the idea of not being able to do what you want all the time much like at work
Yes, definitely worth it. I'm sure there are lots of other parents with similar worries. In our school they made quite a few changes- buddied up the YR kids (with Y5s I think), and I think they're also going to introduce them to the playtime thing during the last bit of nursery (there's a nursery class) so it's not such a big shock. Then throughout the school they made behaviour expectations clear and consistent which I guess helped with behaviour at lunchtime as well and then made sure there was something for everyone in terms of quieter/livelier bits of the playground.