Just thinking - I remember on the application form for primary school there was a box asking if there is any social/ medical needs for the child to be in the school. If I put that if as school has provision for music, and DS plays instrument - he would fulfill his musical development there? because local schools in our area do not provide music. ( I mean extra curricular activities). would this make any sense?
So you're prepared to use your dad's terminal illness just to "bump yourself up the waiting list?" Hope he's happy to be used in such a way. However, waiting lists don't operate according to 'need'. They will take into account the published criteria, which usually includes things like siblings/distance etc.. Not sure about Catholic schools though.
Which is why we have been trying to explain that the waiting list is grouped in the same way as the admissions criteria and you are extremely unlikely to be placed in the medical/social need category (or however they describe it in this school's admissions criteria).