Bit annoyed with teacher over spellings

(105 Posts)
MrsCampbellBlack Wed 06-Mar-13 20:14:56

I know its trivial and I probably need to be told to get a grip but I was a bit surprised by what happened at pick up earlier.

Yr4 child has spelling test tomorrow - so I always check when he comes out of school on a wednesday that he has his spellings so we can double check he knows them tonight.

So he comes out without them - I send him back in to get them from his desk. He comes out and tells me he's not allowed to get them.

I assume he's got the wrong end of the stick so go down to his classroom - his teacher is at the door and I ask if I could get his spellings. Teacher says 'I've already told him its not a good time he should have asked earlier so he'll just have to try his best'.

I said ok and walked away but am a bit annoyed.

I know DS should be more organised but really would it have been so hard to grab his spellings from his desk?

Go on tell me she is absolutely right and I'm being totally precious I can take it wink

Will add that spellings not his forte so he really does need to practice them a lot.

Oh and should add the school pride themselves on parents being able to have chats with teachers at pick up so I wasn't breaking any rules.

exoticfruits Mon 11-Mar-13 07:02:58

Exactly Wellthen- it was the sort if scenario that I had in mind at the beginning of this thread and I don't think that any other information should be given other than 'not a good time' either during or afterwards. I was amazed at the number of posters who thought they knew better and just wanted to over ride her or complain to the Head etc.

Wellthen Sun 10-Mar-13 14:44:08

I refused a parent entry a few days ago. She looked annoyed when I wouldnt explain why and I actually used the exact same phrase 'its not a good time'. I said I would see her first thing the next day so she didnt have to wait long.

She too would not have thought I had anything waiting for me or to go to because she wouldt have been able to see the child lying under my desk ripping up his maths book. The TA and I were physically preventing him from leaving because he had told us he would beat the 'living shit' out of another child on the way home and if we tried to stop him he would do the same to us. Knowing this child as I do I know that he is physically capable of this but that once he was calm he would see sense and not take this action. It took him about 10 mins after that parent left to come out from under my desk, apologise, accept his consequence and walk home. (In case anyone cares we rang his parents and the parents of the child he was going to beat up to ensure nothing did happen. It didnt.)

So, in conclusion you have absolutely no grasp on the whole story, like everyone on mn, assume that all teachers are obstructive and stupid. I sometimes wonder why I bother.

Laura4041 Sat 09-Mar-13 06:34:52

Quite right. Our HT never says sorry. I think it would kill her. She seems to be creating a culture of that attitude. We all make mistakes, sometimes a genuine verbal apology for a mistake or poor judgement is all that is needed to completely change someone's view of a person or situation.

The teacher was wrong, she apologised as soon as she saw you and quite rightly you accepted and moved on.

MrsCampbellBlack Fri 08-Mar-13 10:49:27

I don't think there was a crisis - I still think she'd had a bad day. But look she apologised, I said 'no problem' and we moved on smile

redskyatnight Thu 07-Mar-13 20:22:23

Glad it was resolved.
I'd have assumed that "not a good time" meant one of the children in the classroom had just been sick, something had been spilt or there was an argument in progress between 2 children.
Which are the main reasons my DC are told not to go somewhere in school when there seems to be no reason that they shouldn't.

clam Thu 07-Mar-13 19:53:10

Oh come on! Half a story! We want to know WHY she wouldn't let him in. What was the crisis?

MrsCampbellBlack Thu 07-Mar-13 19:18:05

Quick update - went to parent's evening and the teacher apologised as soon as she saw me so all resolved.

mrz Thu 07-Mar-13 17:18:39

barge verb

Definition
to hurry somewhere or through a place in a rude and forceful way

Informal to push (someone or one's way) violently

hmm

Feenie Thu 07-Mar-13 14:32:41

Because barging would be soooo much more polite......hmm

Hulababy Thu 07-Mar-13 12:32:21

Barge/push - same thing to me tbh

clam Thu 07-Mar-13 11:20:14

Your post of Wed 06-Mar-13 21:39:18 said, "I would have had no qualms about pushing past"

Although I can't believe you think there's a difference! Barge/push - both appallingly rude and unnecessary, regardless of the teacher's attitude, which I agree was unhelpful.

fouranddone Thu 07-Mar-13 08:27:15

Clam I said barge not push, they are very different things. However it would never actually happen as the teachers at my children's school would never act like this. We have naice teachers in our area wink

MrsCampbellBlack Thu 07-Mar-13 05:58:47

Thanks Clam smile

clam Wed 06-Mar-13 23:18:10

MrsCampbellBlack I think people were aiming those objections about the 'barging' and the 'storming to the head' to fouranddone, not you.

I think you've sounded rational and measured in your posts. Not sure, however, whether to be shock or hmm at fouranddone's assertion that she's never rude or bitchy, but would nonetheless consider 'pushing past' the teacher!

MrsCampbellBlack Wed 06-Mar-13 22:30:55

Oh dear I swore on here and I never do that.

Best I go and 'practise' my own spellings wink

exoticfruits Wed 06-Mar-13 22:28:47

We have absolutely no idea why she said it, and never will. Since only the OP knows anything about her I can't see how anyone can make all these judgements. Not knowing her, the school, or the classroom, you just have to assume she had her reasons.

MrsCampbellBlack Wed 06-Mar-13 22:25:25

Oh thanks getmeawhatever - that's really helpful hmm hope you feel so much better now.

Don't get me started on the pedants on here or as I refer to them 'the rude fuckers who have nothing better to do than belittle someone who is upset'

Bonsoir Wed 06-Mar-13 22:24:24

It sounds as if you were within the normal cultural boundaries of your DCs' school when asking for the spellings and that the teacher wanted to be obstructive, for reasons unknown.

At my DD's school parents are usually quite helpful and will text or email a photo of the relevant pages of forgotten homework.

MrsCampbellBlack Wed 06-Mar-13 22:23:58

To think I hated homework when I had to do it. I loathe it far more now my children have to do it wink

fouranddone Wed 06-Mar-13 22:23:36

Hula you didn't read it very clearly I actually said barge grin

getmeaginandtonicnow Wed 06-Mar-13 22:23:31

"he really does need to practice them"

Should be practise (verb), and not practice (noun). Sorry, pedantic and boring, but you did start thread about spelling OP................!

MrsCampbellBlack Wed 06-Mar-13 22:22:26

And I do think it was to teach my DS to be more organised in future. And yes I'm sure my 8 year old not doing well in his spellings will teach him a very valuable lesson hmm

Kaekae Wed 06-Mar-13 22:22:22

Teacher sounds like a jobs worth. I would not have stood for it. I wouldn't expect my child to be more organised, children forget, fact of life.

Hulababy Wed 06-Mar-13 22:22:06

MrsCampbellBlack - I know you didn't say that; but someone else on the thread did. I was referring to that comment.

fouranddone Wed 06-Mar-13 22:21:50

Mrs Campbell when you speak to the teacher please don't just say he should better organised, a quick reminder to the whole class at home time wouldn't go amiss. We all forget things, I do a lot so I expect children to even more so. smile

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