Advice please, school are saying ''unauthorised absense' when they phoned me up to collect my child (school refusal, long story)

(56 Posts)
Marne Mon 11-Feb-13 13:38:56

Dd2 is 6 and has ASD, she's in a MS school and up until 2 weeks ago she was doing great.

Due to a big c8ck up at schoo resaulting in a change of teachers 5 times sinse September my dd2 has been very unsettled due to no routine and lots of changes.

Last week she refused to go to school, she went in for 2 half days but the other days i could not get her in (she kicked me and tore her clothes off), i spoke to the head and she told me 'not to force her and not to worry', of course i have been worrying as i want her at school, when she's at home i can not get anything done as i need to watch her 24/7.

This morning i managed to get her into school but at lunch time i was called to pick her up as she was upset and asking to go home. Now i have been told it will go down as 'unauthorised absense', surely if the school phoned me to collect her then it is 'autherised'?

I'm now worried sick that all the time she has had off over the last 2 weeks, where the head has said 'don't worry, don't make her come in' will go down as 'unauthorised absenses'.

I dont know what they expect me to do, i am trying my best to get her in and when i do get her in she's sent home. I'm pulling my hair out at home with her, she's destroying the house, i have to keep doors locked or she emties tooth paste, sugar, eats the contents of the fridge etc.., i'm tired and struggling to cope with her at home, do they think i want her at home?

Where do i stand with this?

I am hoping she will go in for a full day tomorrow.

christinecagney Thu 14-Feb-13 20:04:50

Sorry for typos...statementing not ink....etc

christinecagney Thu 14-Feb-13 20:03:51

This is definitely an unlawful exclusion I would say (I am a HT). Do you have a caseworker at the LA who managed the statement ink process? Document everything and inform them, if not phone IPSEA (google their website). Let the HT know politely hat you are dong this. It's really serious to unlawfully exclude a child, IMHO, and a statements child even more so.

Littleturkish Thu 14-Feb-13 01:08:50

I'm so sorry to hear that there is no suitable schooling near you.

I would insist on a meeting with class teacher, senco and head to organise a reintegration plan.

If it has been fantastic, it can be fantastic again.

Have you investigated play therapy, as you dd is high functioning she may find it very beneficial.

MareeyaDolores Thu 14-Feb-13 00:26:25

I wonder if her top-up funding has been reduced. If she came as a managed moved from another school, she would probably have had a dowry or premium for a certain period. Or if her increased needs owing to all the staff changes) means the school is no longer able to use her TA for additional tasks as well as supporting her.

Self-referrals to educational welfare officer and unlawful exclusions

JakeBullet Wed 13-Feb-13 20:24:36

Veritate is absolutely right. This is tantamount to unauthorised exclusion. Are the school liaising with the local SENCAN office because they absolutely should be as currently she is not able to access the curriculum.

Veritate Wed 13-Feb-13 20:16:58

This is not either an authorised or unauthorised absence, it is an unlawful exclusion, so it is definitely the school that is in the wrong, not the OP. I would suggest pointing that fact out to the school - fairly gently, but making it clear you know what the legal position is and that you will take it further if they don't correct their records.

Marne Wed 13-Feb-13 14:20:15

We have considered a sn school and before Christmas we went to look at the only sn school in our area, we felt it wasn't for dd and the head said they had no other children there without learning difficulties, dd2 is working a year above with reading and maths, slightly below for writing but that's due to language problems ( spelling is good just her writing doesn't always make sense) so she's not classed as having learning difficulties, most of dd's issues are sensory and social skills (lack of). There are no other schools in a 30 mile radius that take children like dd (high functioning autism) and most of the ms schools have no experience of Asd as they are so small ( most schools here have no more than 80-100 pupils). So we are a bit stuck for choices, this is the 2nd school she has been too, it has a good reputation unlike the other schools near by, is small and friendly ( or it used to be ).

Mutteroo Wed 13-Feb-13 13:37:01

I recall a child being sent home when he wasn't able to cope but this was agreed with the parents and school and never noted as unauthorised?

I don't have an autistic child, however I've worked with plenty. Echoing what some have said about the setting? Maybe even DD staying in mainstream but in a school that has a specialist ASC class? The school would have experience to deal with the challenges that come with an autism diagnosis. I'm also wondering if the current school are stating the absence is unauthorised so that they can use it to state they're not able to support your DD? Witnessed this happen some years ago now. Initially the parents were fuming, but it truly was the best option and the child thrived in a specialist school.

Or last option is that this period is a blip and DD will attend school for the rest of her education without any further issues! Wouldn't that be fantastic but alas unrealistic even without the extra complications autism brings. My thoughts are with you OP and I hope the school can find some further ways to support your daughter in school. Make sure everything is in writing and if they are going to continue to note down absence as unauthorised, use this to your advantage.

zipzap Wed 13-Feb-13 11:02:14

How about contacting the EWO now, say you are worried by the lackadaisical way the HT seems to be treating your dd's absences and find out what she suggests?

That way you can say to the HT that she can use xxx code instead of unauthorised absence. And the EWO will see that you are a worried parent of a SN child who is now having to battle school as well as being so worried by your dd (as opposed to somebody who doesn't care if their child is in school or not), and hopefully give you some useful support. And, when any automatic notification is sent to her to say that your dd has got lots of unauthorised absences, she will think 'Oh yes, I've already spoken to Marne about that, I know what's going on, we're trying xy and z along with the school' rather than thinking 'and here's another one to add to my list of trouble'.

socharlottet Wed 13-Feb-13 10:17:16

But to be fair the TA is contracted to work x no of hours per week.Under employment law she can't just be sent home!!!

41notTrendy Wed 13-Feb-13 09:26:06

Afaik the school can't really send a child home for these reasons. Illness yes, behaviour no. If her behaviour is causing problems then the school should exclude. They are not helping your dd in any way by doing this, they can't just send her home because they're not coping!
As has been suggested you need serious meetings with the head and SENCO. Urgently. I hope you get sorted, you and your dd deserve better.

Branleuse Wed 13-Feb-13 09:14:22

that's for their records.don't concern yourself As long as its recorded in case you need it

TheBuskersDog Wed 13-Feb-13 09:07:41

I would echo what a couple of other posters have said, do you think she is in the right setting? Does your daughter manage to do the work that the other children do with TA support or does she have a very differentiated curriculum?Is her behaviour the same as or different to at home?

Your daughter's behaviour at home sounds very much like my son's when he was younger, there's no way he would have coped in a mainstream classroom (and he would have totally impacted on the education of the other children).

As somebody else said it could be to your advantage if it alerts the authorities to the fact that the school cannot manage your daughter's needs. It is a lot cheaper for them to have a child in mainstream with TA support than in specialist provision, so evidence that the school is not meeting her needs can be important when getting the right provision.

Im sure you want your daughter educated in her local mainstream school, we all do in an ideal world, but sometimes as parents we have to accept that that is not always what is best for the child, and that is what is most important.

5madthings Wed 13-Feb-13 08:57:40

The point I assume is the ta is paid to care for the op's dd and once she is no longer at school you can bet that the school will then use the ta for other work which is not what she is paid for or contracted to do.

For the school its a win we in situation, the 'difficult' child is sent home and then they have an extra member of staff at their disposal.

socharlottet Wed 13-Feb-13 08:51:33

'does the TA go home too? Probably not, although it is solely your dd's sn and full statement that pays for them. '

what point were you trying to make?

Littleturkish Wed 13-Feb-13 08:42:58

Have you considered an SEN school?

I would feel that the 'unauthorised' would give more pressure to the LEA to produce more funding to provide help for your daughter.

Not the same situation- but strategies I have seen work have been:

alternative curriculum provided on site
staggered reintroduction to school
part education at a different facility whilst staying on role at MS school with the view to go full time in the long term at MS school

However, it sounds like you may wish to investigate alternative educational options- sadly things like teacher changes/schedule upheavals will happen in MS and there is only so much differentiation that they can offer. Is there a good provision of SEN in your area? Is there a reason why you chose mainstream or were you not given a choice?

Sorry for all the questions! I hope some of that helps.

BalloonSlayer Wed 13-Feb-13 08:38:39

Perhaps as Marnes DD is school refusing, the EWO will be some help, so the school have put it down as unauthorised so that the EWO will get informed sooner rather than later.

cory Wed 13-Feb-13 08:29:14

maizieD, in the case of a child whose needs are not being met, a visit from the EWO is not necessarily a bad thing

they are not just there to dish out fines; they listen to you first and if you get them on your side, they can help to put pressure on the school

float62 Tue 12-Feb-13 20:59:18

This circumstance is also known as an 'informal exclusion', does the TA go home too? Probably not, although it is solely your dd's sn and full statement that pays for them. Hate to doom and gloom but often things can start going pear-shaped from a good start for many asd kids at ms (have you considered specialist provision?), but many schools are loathe to admit they can't meet the child's needs. As other posters have advised, get thee some advice from IPSEA and the MN SN gals. Also, on a positive note, you are in a pretty strong position (although it can't feel like it) you already have a dx and full statement so that removes a swathe of hoops from the 'course' so to speak. Good luck.

Marne Tue 12-Feb-13 20:58:40

Thank you for your replies. Dd2 managed to stay all day today so I am hoping from now on she will go in, she's had about 5 days off in all (including the half days) and has only had a couple days off sick since September ( I know a lot of children that have had weeks off sick). Last year they authorised our holiday (5 days off) after we explained how hard it is to take the dd's away in the holidays as both dd's have Asd and can't cope when it's busy and noisy ,so I was hoping they would do the same this year, we go away the week before half term so it's not as though they are doing much at school that week.

I havn't spoke to the head yet ( as she was not available to talk).

She seemed to have had a good(ish) day today and they let her spend the afternoon with her TA from last year ( she knows dd2 better than the new TA ), fingers crossed tomorrow will be ok too.

FelicityWasCold Tue 12-Feb-13 19:26:18

In this case a visit from the EWO would most likely benefit the OP. she will not get a fine- far more likely that the school will get a bollocking!

maizieD Tue 12-Feb-13 19:17:37

No, they don't have to authorise holidays, but they can.

IAmLouisWalsh Tue 12-Feb-13 18:49:35

But schools do not have to authorise an absence for holidays and several do not. We don't. Any holiday is unauthorised in term time.

maizieD Tue 12-Feb-13 18:39:31

I get the feeling that you're all being remarkable cool about the number of 'unauthorised absences'. Unless things have changed recently too many unauthorised absences will trigger a visit from the EWO (Education Welfare Officer) and a possible fine.

I think your HT was being economical with the truth about the 'category' she could use. It could have been put down as 'Other Authorised Circumstances'. It all sounds a bit odd to me...

Holidays in term time don't go down as unauthorised absence if the parents have asked for, and obtained, permission from the school to take the child on holiday.

Hi, you really need to get a plan going with the school about properly reintegrating back to a full day _ can they get advisory teachers (asd) involved, and come up with a professionally backed plan? Ask what's been marked and then worry if necessary. The risk is also that education welfare contact you if she has a lot of unauthorised absence\absence and that may or may not be helpful.

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