My oldest DS is 8 we have had lots of concerns with shool so far, he was bullied in year 1 by year 2 boys in his class. Then in Y2 he was in a class just of his own peers but has 3 changes of teacher. Now he's in Juniors, when they moved up he was split from all his friends, we haven't had a friend over to tea/play this year he just isn't friendly enough to want it. They have moved the classes around every year so I didn't even think to question it.
Since easter his has become more and more dispondant and actually hates school, he refuses to do homework or doesn't even bother to bring it home, he won't change his reading folder. He comes home full of rage and is so nasty to his little brothers. It takes a couple of hours to get back my sunny easy going helpful little boy. Ask him to anything to help around the house and he's the first to get up. Anything to do with school he closes down.
Yesterday he'd just come out of the bath and I noticed a big bald spot (about a 50p size) on the top of his head. An older boy had done it in the yard because my son had kicked the older boys football.
We have been into school numerous times, one time being given information on the wrong child. ie. not ours. I feel as though I'm being palmed off and I am worried.
My son offers very little information about whats going on, The hair pulling has me at the end of my tether, should I just pull him out and teach him myself? My other boys enjoy school and are doing really well what message would that send to them?
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I need perspective, please somebody help, Thinking of withdrawing my son
wonka · 23/06/2011 09:46
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Your poor boy. I would definitely start making some phone calls and see if you can find him another school place. A fresh start could be what he needs, so please don't think you are being hysterical or knee-jerk about this.
I took my DS out of school at the end of his reception year because the school dealt so poorly with many issues that he had (he has SN, so slightly different, but very much the same disinterested attitude from the school). He has settled very well in his new school and for the first time, he has friends.
Good luck and do consider all your options. Your boy sounds so sweet. it must be awful for him feeling this way 
You have my sympathy. Adding my voice to those who say get your DS out of there. We had similar & let it run on for too long believing things would improve. And if it makes sense kind of not believing 6yr olds could be like that. DS lost eyelashes to being scratched by someone's nails. 
We moved DS at a half-term (which is possible if new head agrees) and he has never looked back. Different school whole different ethos. Both 'outstanding' state primaries & within couple of miles of each other.
Consider going to the GP and getting him a sick note for a couple of weeks. He's not learning anything worthwhile in school so missing a couple of weeks in Y3 isn't going to make any difference to his education.
An older boy pulling his hair out isn't minor bullying or high spirits or your DS being over sensitive etc, its an assault and the school should be taking it very seriously indeed. If you don't already have it, ask for a copy of their anti-bullying policy.
I feel so sad for your DS . I think the sooner you get him out of there the better.
Wonka you could try asking on Netmums noticeboard to see if anybody goes to that school, our local Netmums board is pretty lively with that sort of thing.
When DS was having problems with bullying we handed a letter into the school, which we cc'd to the Governors and the LEA (how to make yourself popular) and outlined what had happened and how they were going to address it and stated that we wanted a written response within seven days. The HT nearly shat herself and DS has been fine every since. Really think that you should move your DS, HE would give him time to relax as others have suggested but don't know if thats an option for you. I would also inform the governors, make sure they have the photos too and the LEA and report it to Ofsted.
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