DD is in Year 1 and one of the youngest in the year - 6 in Aug. She's been in the school nursery and reception class and loved it, we had no issues. However since she went into Year 1, we've had issue after issue with the teacher and DD's behaviour. DD is an exuberant, enthusiastic child, who loves to learn and chat. She's had a bit of a shock in Year 1 as the teacher (quite rightly so) won't stand for it. I imagine her in class to be a bit of a Hermione Grainger in the making!
It first came to light about 4 weeks into the new school year that she shouts out in class and doesn't understand waiting her turn. We did alot of work with her reminding her etc etc and all seemed to calm down. Then when she went back after Christmas, it's just got worse and worse. The teacher collars me in the school playground sometimes 2 or 3 times a week to say DD's been shouting out again, she's got red cards, she's answering back etc etc. We have been mortified and again impressed on DD that this is not how to behave at school. She understands but says she justs forgets. I guess it's all heat of the moment stuff, she's so keen in school and wants to answer questions that she does forget.
However, this seems to be getting worse and worse. The teacher keeps talking to me, DD gets sanctions but nothing seems to be improving except she is now getting disollusioned with school for the first time ever.
At a recent parents' evening we broached it the teacher played it down saying "she isn't the only one, they all do it, she's only 5" so we thought "ok" maybe it's not as bad. But since that parents' evening she's spoken to me at least 3 times in one week!
So I've broached her and asked for a meeting next week. She seemd relucant but agreed but I'm dreading it. I'm not a parent that thinks my child is an angel - far from it. I told her that, and that I wanted to work with her but it feels like these issues are only issues when she wants and it's all getting a bit petty. I pick up every day so have spent some time observing whether or not she speaks to other parents and I've only seen her collar someone after school once in the last month or so, apart from me! Of course there could have been other meetings etc and I know I'm jumping to conclusions on that score, I just feel out of my depth with all this.
I am dreading the meeting and wondered if anyone could give me some advice on how to approach these issues without criticsing the teacher. I like her, DD seems to like her and until recently was enjoying school.
I want to say to her that we need to come to a common strategy to help DD's social skills. She is emotionally immature compared to some of her peers who are almost a year older than her and the teacher did admit that to me in the parents' evening, yet she still brings up the shouting out in class.
I have my own issues from school days and this just makes me feel like a kid again and I don't want to offend anyone at the school just want to work with them to get the best out of DD. Her school work is average but I feel it could be better if she applied herself better but at 5, is that not a tall ask and something that comes with age?
Any tips for the meeting would be most welcome.
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Ongoing issues with DD and Teacher (Yr1)
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FallenAngel22 · 26/03/2011 08:25
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