am not sure the best place to post this so may pop it in a couple of places for maximum feedback as am being eaten up with worry. i shall try to be concise but there is a lot to cover;
so ds1 (4.11) started reception last september. he is of average confidence, neither extremely confident nor desperately shy. although he can be boisterous at times, he has never been into fighting or hitting and has generally preferred the company of girls (all of his closest friends are girls but he is able to form good friendships with boys too). he has always been a very easy going child and pretty unflappable so when he started reception in september i assumed he would just breeze through the transition. very quickly his behaviour changed and he became very angry and quite unhappy in himself. on several occasions i was called in to see the teacher as he had been fighting with other boys in the playground (i cannot even begin to explain how out of character this was) and it soon became apparent that there was a real problem with rowdy boys and fighting in general in the playground of this school. the term continued with ups and downs, luckily my ds1 really enjoyed the classroom and learning and also formed friendships with a couple of the girls. he didn't talk much about what went on at school but would frequently mention certain boys as 'baddies' and 'enemies' and by the end of term his own behaviour had really calmed down and he was no longer fighting but he wasn't masively happy either.
this term, he has continued to mention the same 4 or 5 boys (who i now know have formed friendships together and have frequent playdates) to the point where he has told me he feels sad in the playground as they are constantly chasing him, hitting him and 'getting him'even when he asks them to stop. yetserday he cried his eyes out for over an hour when we got home, saying he never wants to go to the playground again and he wishes those 'baddies' would just go away. this is a boy who almost NEVER cries. so i know it must be bad. i have tried twice to talk to his teacher who, although lovely, is really not acknowleding that there is a problem at all and really doesn't listen to me. not that i needed it but my son's story has been backed up by another boy in the class who apparently told his mum how that groiup of boys are always getting my ds.
i am heartbroken for my little man and don't know how else to help him as the school doesn't seemt to want to know
any words of wisom and experience gratefully received
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zonedout · 20/01/2011 21:24
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