My DCs school has always had a relatively relaxed policy towards holidays in term time (within reason) and has been quite happy to authorize up to 10 days away. However for whatever reason, this year they have tightened up considerably and recently sent home a rather fierce letter stating that they would only authorize leave of absence in "exceptional circumstances", and only if the child's attendance (through their entire time at school to date) was above 95%.
My problem is an annual trip, with extended family, which is a lifetime tradition for me (30+ years) - as well as now my kids too - based around a particular public event which happens to fall in term time. It?s a really special time for us & more important in our family than spending Christmas together. Always in the past, throughout my own education and my children?s, we?ve been and it's not been a problem. I bend over backwards for the rest of the year to support the head and school in every other way: we?re never late, we support all the school events, I volunteer, DCs always do their homework beautifully, and are doing well in class - in many ways we are the model parents: I know that, and the head knows it too. We would never choose to break the rules or go against school policy - but I now just don't know what to do about this year?s holiday (especially in view of the fact the problem is going to arise again in subsequent years).
Frankly, there?s no question of us not going for a truncated week (4 days off school - though had hoped to take 6 or 7 before this change of policy came up) - for that I will willingly run the risk of fines and Education Welfare officer visits (not that these have been threatened, but I?m aware that this is the usual route in some other schools). Other than this regular annual period of absence, DCs attendance is excellent - faultless this last calendar year - but illness / this same trip in previous years means that at least child won?t hit the magic 95% attendance required by the school before they will even consider granting my request.
So:
Should I write and explain what I feel are the exceptional circumstances and see if they?ll grant me 4 - or more? - days leave? But then my intention is all in writing and evidence against me in anything else that I subsequently do.
Or should I talk to the Head first? (problem is that I?m feeling very emotional about it and am liable to bust into tears!).
Or should I do nothing and just phone in both children sick when the time comes - which will be very see-through as the head will know where we really are, I am sure - it?s a small school and she?s not stupid - but if I send them back with sick notes after a nasty dose of ?chickenpox?, what could she do?
And, if I do ask, don?t get and still take them anyway - when & what do I tell the school?
Be really grateful for your thoughts / opinions. FYI, DCs are Y4 and Y1.
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"Exceptional circumstances?" holiday in term time - need advice what to tell school!
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DoodleNoo · 19/01/2011 13:07
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