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Question re Individual Music Lesson

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Whocantakeasunrise · 21/10/2010 18:02

My ds (5) was meant to have had an individual music lesson today at school. I say meant because he forgot about it.

Now from my ds the way I understand it is he's a) meant to remember he has a music lesson, b) remove himself from class, and c) take himself across school grounds to the separate music school.

AIBU to think that this is too much for a 5 year old a) to remember and b) to do by themselves?

Just want others opinion before I call the school tomorrow, as I think the least that should happen is someone should remind him to go to his lesson, and I also want an additional lesson scheduled for him to make up for today's lesson, as I don't think a 5 yr old is fully responsible for forgetting.

What do others think?

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cazzybabs · 21/10/2010 18:05

as a class teacher i can't remember music lessons of my class

but maybe the music teacher should have come to get him and you would have to cope with missing some of the lesson

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MenorcaFan · 21/10/2010 18:06

Lord!

I work at a middle (9-13) and if the students forget their lesson, an admin person is sent to get them.

That's a lot of responsibility for a 5 y.o.

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GrimmaAndGrimmer · 21/10/2010 18:11

This is probably why a lot of schools don't have individual music lessons for infants. Its unreasonable to expect the class teacher to remember them, but impossible to expect a 5 year old to do this - how many can tell the time at that age?

I think DDs lessons (in juniors) worked by each child who'd just finished a lesson getting the next one. Not sure who had to remember the first one!

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GrimmaAndGrimmer · 21/10/2010 18:13

At DDs school they didn't have individual music lesons till juniors. Each child finishing a lesson would get the next child, I think.

How is a 5 year old supposed to do this - few can tell the time at that age, can they?

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mamalovesmojitos · 21/10/2010 18:14

far too much responsibility imo. not unreasonable of you at all to raise it with the school.

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GrimmaAndGrimmer · 21/10/2010 18:14

sorry, it said I'd posted a blank message the first time - weird!

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Whocantakeasunrise · 21/10/2010 18:20

That's good just wanted to make sure that everyone else wasn't going to post 'but of course my 5 year old remembers that' etc.

I've already raised with the school that due to other classes school trips that my ds' lesson has been changed to different days, and I've said to them they have a lot of confidence in a 5 year old to remember when this has changed to and the correct day it was altered to so he can remember his books on the different day, as they won't put a written note in his bag for him.

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livingwithdinosaurs · 21/10/2010 20:10

My son has had individual music lessons since he was 4.5 and the teacher always goes to pick him up from his classroom - he would never remember to go on his own!

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Whocantakeasunrise · 21/10/2010 20:53

I really do think they forget my son's age sometimes. One day his teacher said to me 'although he's in my yr 1 class I do have to stop myself and remind myself that he is only yr 1'.

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stoatsrevenge · 21/10/2010 20:57

Does he like the music lessons?

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faileddoctor · 21/10/2010 20:59

dc2 has choir once a week at lunch time and is often upset because she has forgotten them! She is in y3.

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Whocantakeasunrise · 21/10/2010 21:10

Yes he was the one who asked to do it, and this morning he was excited about showing his teacher that he could now play Frere Jacques. And when he came home and I said did you go and he cried and said no I forgot until I saw my bag at the end of the day, and I may not remember my song tomorrow.

It's hard isn't it faileddoctor you feel for them, but you can't be there to remind them.

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cat64 · 21/10/2010 21:15

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stoatsrevenge · 21/10/2010 21:18

Impossible for a 5 year old to remember this! Music teacher (being the paid professional) should collect. Do any of his peers do lessons too, or is he the only one?

Can't really be as sympathetic for dd in Y3 with choir at lunchtime faileddoctor Grin

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Whocantakeasunrise · 21/10/2010 21:35

I know of another child in his class, there may well be others but I'm only aware of one other.


Good point re teachers being at other schools, hadn't thought of that, that'll be a bummer.

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stoatsrevenge · 21/10/2010 21:38

Could you send in an alarm clock that day?

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wheresthegin · 21/10/2010 21:41

Would you accept dc's lesson being 5min (?)shorter if you asked teacher to collect dc? As a music teacher myself, I collect younger children. 5 is very young for 1-1 lessons though??

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Whocantakeasunrise · 21/10/2010 21:43

Flippant remark stoats but as always they are normally the best. Grin

He has a watch with an alarm that he can't switch off without help when it beeps, but at least when it goes off, and he asks the teacher for help to turn off he could say and now i must be going Smile

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NoahAndTheWhale · 21/10/2010 21:52

DS is in year 2 and had his first guitar lesson at school today. He was fetched for his lesson and when I spoke to the music service they said that at primary school here, they are generally collected. Expecting a five year old to know where they are meant to be and exactly when is expecting a bit much I think

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Whocantakeasunrise · 21/10/2010 22:00

Yes I would accept a shorter lesson.

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KT1324 · 21/10/2010 22:07

My son's school only start individual music lessons once they are in the juniors (so aged 7) and he is expected to put his hand up and ask to leave the classroom. A number of children often forget and the music teacher comes to get them. If they miss some of their lesson she tries to make the time up elsewhere.

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