bullying - how to deal with it?

[catfunt]

my twins have just started yr3 and i think my boy is being bullied. He has had problems with this particuar child before, including in July being peed on him, which the school were meant to be taking seriously, but seems to have been brushed under the carpet, maybe thats my fault for not puching it enough.

today I have had a realisation that it is no longer 'one off' incidents but I believe it's bullying.

this week he's complained the child in question has punched him, jumped on him and hit him. he also said he's been trying to get him into trouble by lying about him. (telling playground supervisor that he's been hitting him!) my DD has seen what has happened and has confirmed DS's version of events.

to complicate things the parent is not the kind id like to cross (the school is in a fairly deprived area and there are a lot of 'undesirables' ) she seems to think im her friend and ive just rolled along with it, despite her not being my type of person as I really wouldnt want to make an enemy of her!

I do know that the child has been threatened with exclusion, and the parents have just started a parenting course and involvement with family support, though I get the impression this was the 'trade off' to stop him being excluded.

My own child is currently undergoing diagnosis for delayed development, he's developed tics over the last few months and has some other issues, although he has perfect behaviour at school, despite his development being behind his peers. at the moment he's undergoing assessment by SALT, OT and school nurse.

I just feel like i want to cry, he's got a hard enough battle to get through life and having to suffer at the hands of a little thug makes it harder...

I dont know what the next step should be, the class teacher is off sick (am hoping its not going to be long term!) so should i be going straight to the head? I just want to make things better for my little boy.

Im not the most confident of people myself, and this was made worse at thier last school as i was victimised by a staff member there, which resulted in me leaving the village I lived in and moving 20 miles away to make a fresh start.

(sorry this has turned into a bit of a ramble!)

any advice? does it sound like bullying to you?

[smee]

Yes it's bullying. Is there a head of year or something? If not, yes go to the Head and make an urgent appointment. Hope you get it sorted, sounds horrible.

[MrsDoofenshmirtz]

Yes go in and talk to them.

[ClaraRenee]

How awful for you. My DD2 now in year 3 was bullied for 2 years which included the bully spraying her with sun tan lotion which shes allergic to. Shes now in a different class as they moved her away from the bully. Heres what I did;

1. Keep a diary of all incidents
   
2. Tell your child to stay away and inform the teacher, TA
   
3. Ask for a meeting with the teacher and discuss the anti-bullying policy.
   
   If this fails, write a letter to Chair of Governors, informing them of what is happening. I did all of the above, now my daughter is very happy. Good luck