DS cried so much tonight that school is hard and doesnt want to do, please advise

[fishingfilly]

just started y1 and loves schools, settled into new class well.

Tonight he announced he doesnt want to go tomorrow as today they had to do joined up writing and it was hard, also couldnt use comp mouse and that they had to test/try out different fruits (how the tongue detects different tastes Im guessing).

Bless him he was really upset, Ive reassured him that mummy and daddy can help with the writing, we can all practise together, explained that the comp was given to him as the laptop wasnt working so it was a one off that he was given the big comp to use!! Also explained that if he didnt want to eat plums, kiwi fruit etc... to perhaps lick it a few times or at least try a tiny, tiny bit.

He seemed ok but I feel so sad and upset, I dont want him to feel worry that he cries and doesnt want to go. I know that Y1 is a slow transistion from REception where it is very much play based but he's feeling a little anxious.

I think I will go in and ask for a sheet of words that I can perhaps practise and build his confidence at home. Anyone got any suggestions or in fact going through this?

[fishingfilly]

title meant to read ...doesnt want to go

[Tortington]

i would tell teacher that he has a confidence issue and then the teacher can be extra careful to praise him where appropriate.

i think little things like stickers etc. at home to visualise work well done is effective.

[fishingfilly]

yes going to speak to teacher but overall he is a very confident, chatty and well liked boy so for him to be "worried" his words its very upsetting. Also dont want to appear to be an over protective mum!

[grannieonabike]

I think you've done the exactly the right things for your son. Now you have to stop feeling sad and upset, because he will pick that up.

Tomorrow morning, be calm and confident. Don't ask him any anxious questions, but reassure him if he is worried, just as you did this evening, even if you have to repeat it all.

If you get the sheet of words, try to make it fun for him and give him loads of praise. I wouldn't spend too long on it, though, and the minute he gets fed up, I'd leave it. You can see if he fancies having another go later, but I wouldn't force it.

Good luck. I hope he has a better day tomorrow.

[fishingfilly]

thanks grannie youre spot on, Im not going to mention it until we go to school (unless he does) and I'll just say I'll have a quick word with the teacher etc... Also thought about getting him to help me write a shopping this for the w-end and make some tickets for a show - he loves doing shows!

[fishingfilly]

Had a word with the teacher and she was really nice and will keep an eye on things, she explaiend that it was certain letters they teach them to join up and that it was very hard for them, the transition from reception to Y1 was very different