ear piercing what's the right age

(50 Posts)
carnage Tue 04-Feb-14 19:18:19

My ten year old twin girls want to get their ears pierced and I don't know if it's too early or not. Most of their friends have already had it done. But I'm a single Dad of 4 and I can't decide if this is a good idea or not. Their Mum who doesn't live with us has already said they can do it.

Any opinions???

bigbuttons Tue 04-Feb-14 19:22:09

My girls had them done earlier than that

meditrina Tue 04-Feb-14 19:25:25

soem at DDs school have had theirs done. But she (and many others) are being told quite firmly that it's a leaving primary present and it'll be done no earlier than the end of year 6.

But a 10 yr old should be capable of looking after newly pierced ears, so when's the next occasion you'd like to mark?

Twinsplusonesurprise Tue 04-Feb-14 19:26:27

Blimey I think that's really young.
Why are they in such a rush to grow up?
Surely they can't wear earrings to school?
My DDs are still really little so I've got these battles to come but I was 14 when I had mine done (back in the dark ages!) and I hope my girls will be able to grow up slowly.

TrampledUnderfoot Tue 04-Feb-14 19:27:04

I think 10 is fine.

vichill Tue 04-Feb-14 19:27:13

I was about ten and remember the joy of picking little blue crystal studs in the hairdressers as if it was yesterday. As long as they're banned from wearing big plastic gold chavvy hoops then I think its ok.

takingthathometomomma Tue 04-Feb-14 19:28:05

Mine had hers done at 6 months! But hey, I'm a "super chav" so what can I say?

TrampledUnderfoot Tue 04-Feb-14 19:30:02

Depends if your girls are nice MC girls or common.

jeee Tue 04-Feb-14 19:33:31

My DD had hers done at 10 (with her own money) - but I made it clear she was responsible for the care of her ears, and if she didn't look after the piercing carefully she would have to take her earrings out.

bruffin Tue 04-Feb-14 19:45:30

DD had hers done for her 10th birthday, when the summer holidays started so they could be healed by the time she went back to school and her actual birthday. Unfortunately she then had an accident in swimming pool with a towel which caught on the earring, dragging it through her ear and leaving the stud lodged inside the hole shock. Then waited two years and she had them done again for her yr 6 leaving prom.

carnage Tue 04-Feb-14 19:58:52

thanks for the feedback it appears i'm a dinosaur. Suppose if they don't look after them properly they can come out and the holes will heal.

Mine were done at age 7. Dd shows no interest in getting hers done but I would let her if she wanted them pierced (she is 10)

Aniseeda Tue 04-Feb-14 20:00:42

My DD was 11 and we did it at the start of the summer after she left primary school. You have to keep the studs in for the first six weeks and turn and clean them daily and I wanted her to be able to care for them herself as I have enough to do! I kept an eye on her ears and made sure she was taking care of them but she managed fine as she'd really wanted them done.

I think 10 is fine as long as they are sensible enough to care for them properly.

I had to wait till I was 16 which seems very old nowadays!

Hulababy Tue 04-Feb-14 20:28:28

This is MN so I assume anything under 18y would be deemed inappropriate and almost akin to abuse. But in real life it is a bit different ime.

DD got her ears pierced aged 11y - the first week of the summer holidays between primary and secondary. She had wanted it done previously but that had always been my rule.

Her primary didn't really allow earrings anyway - which was a good enforcer for me.

Now her friends are very mixed - some do, some don't - maybe 50/50 for those now in y7. Many had them done at the same time - beginning of school holidays.

Most schools will insist on them being removed for PE - and many do not permit them to be simply covered with tape. So always check your school's rules before you go ahead. Also check what type of earrings allowed - some with state colour, or must be plain with no stone, etc 0 this may dictate what they are done with.

I wouldn't have allowed DD to have hers done earlier - but now, at 11y she is mature enough to deal with them all herself entirely; I have never had to touch them at all.

sooperdooper Tue 04-Feb-14 20:31:16

I think 10 is fine, I had mine done when I was about 7 or 8 I think

Slipshodsibyl Tue 04-Feb-14 20:34:44

I have three daughters and they were 10 and 11. It's a good idea to have it done in a long holiday though as they have to take them out for pe and it took mine quite a while to learn to do this. They can also put a plaster over them to protect them during games but that is a nuisance too.

Pepperglitter Tue 04-Feb-14 20:37:50

I would let my dd anytime after 8yo if she really wanted them done. It's not something I would suggest though.

jamtoast12 Tue 04-Feb-14 20:56:33

Near us no one in primary has them and they are banned anyway. Many lab on getting them before starting secondary school. I do think they look bad on under 10s though!

staverton Tue 04-Feb-14 20:58:55

I am a dinosaur too as I think 16!

LtEveDallas Tue 04-Feb-14 20:59:50

DD is pushing me now (nearly 9), but I had already said Year 6 in the summer hols before starting secondary. I wouldn't consider it before then and she knows it!

AuntieStella Tue 04-Feb-14 21:08:40

The important thing you need to do is find out now if the school has rules about it. If they need to come out for PE and swimming, then they need to be done at the star of a long holiday and your DDs need to know they will have to take total reponsibility for removing and replacing the earrings (and not losing them!)

sandiy Tue 04-Feb-14 21:09:52

A few years ago Iwas discussing this with a colleague of a teen and she said "choose your battles"wise words if you are not too bothered then let them get them done.If you feel strongly then choose to wait.I had planned to wait until my twins were in the last summer before secondary school but they were desperate, almost the only girls left without ear piercing so I let them have them done last summer because I had bigger battles to fight they were nine and a half.Pain in the bum though One got a very nasty infection,and very slow to heal.Infact last week was the first time she changed her earrings!

Slipshodsibyl Tue 04-Feb-14 21:37:05

Mine fainted when it was done! And the most recent took ages to take them out as it all hurt more than she wanted to believe.

Nataleejah Wed 05-Feb-14 18:39:26

Really not too early.

PandaG Wed 05-Feb-14 18:43:24

I would wait until start of summer hols, to limit the pain it is when having to take them out for PE etc at school. DD had hers done end Y6 - that was the earliest I was happy with, and it marked a significant change.

exexpat Wed 05-Feb-14 18:44:47

DD is in year 6, and there is a wave of girls getting their ears pierced, or planning to at the end of year 6 - it seems to be part of the growing up and transition to secondary school process. Getting them done at the start of the summer holidays makes life easier because then there is the whole summer for them to heal up before you run into rules about no earrings for PE or swimming.

DD turned 11 in October, and I finally let her get them done in the Christmas holidays (she'd been nagging me for nearly 8 years to let her). It meant she had to put tape over them for PE for a few weeks, but they have healed up nicely and she can now take them out.

takingthathometomomma Wed 05-Feb-14 21:59:06

I'm really surprised at the ages given. Not in a negative way at all, just genuine surprise! I had mine done as a baby just like DD did, and while I know some wait a little longer, when I was in primary school most had theirs pierced too. Most of the girls in DD's school now do too. I never saw it as a "grown up" thing, and have never really stopped to consider why either. I guess it could be a cultural thing. I really thought it was the norm! You learn something new every day eh.

sinningsaint Wed 12-Feb-14 19:18:52

DD1 got them done at 10 and DD2 at 7, i had offered for DD2 to have them done at the same time as her older sister, she would have been 5, but chickened out whilst waiting for her sister to have hers done, gosh i must be such a bad mother!! Never had any problems with either just check your schools rules. DD2 got her second lobe piercing at 14 and now wants her third age 16 but i'm saying i won't pay until she has finished school in may as she is only allowed one pair in at school, up to her what she does though as i feel she is old enough to deal with the consequence now!

NachoAddict Wed 12-Feb-14 19:27:46

DD had hers done for her 6th birthday at her request. I had been planning to wait until the summer between primary and secondary school but dsd had had hers done and her cousins had theirs done as babies and I felt cruel her being the odd one out.

As someone else said, pick your battles.

basildonbond Thu 20-Feb-14 08:40:10

I had said not until the summer holiday at the end of Y6 but every single girl in her friendship group has now got them pierced (partly to assuage disappointment in 11+ results..)
DH and I have decided to pick our battles and if she still wants them done sooner, we'll explain why we think she should wait but leave the decision up to her.

My only worry is she's swimming in a school gala on Tuesday - presumably that rules out getting them done this week? I know the NHS website says no swimming for 6 weeks but that seems a bit ott to me

jemmyjam Thu 20-Feb-14 15:30:06

My dd has never shown any interest in ear piercing, she is 10 now and I think any time in senior school is fine , I don't want dd to grow up too quickly.

MirandaWest Thu 20-Feb-14 15:36:56

DD is 8 and doesn't seem to be interested. Would prefer it to be done over a school summer holiday so will suggest that if it comes up.

I was told not before 18 and when I was 18 and tentatively suggested it, my dad went mad shock. So I waited until I was 19 and at university.

My sister got hers done when she was 14. This still slightly rankles grin.

overthemill Thu 20-Feb-14 15:38:34

We said 13 for our girls eldest did it at 13 youngest at 14. But I'd have preferred 18 which is when I did mine.

Wishyouwould Thu 20-Feb-14 22:40:49

My DD had hers done at the start of last years summer holidays when she was 10. When she went back to school for Year 6 the majority of her friends had theirs done too!

She has looked after them and just loves picking out and buying earrings. The school she goes to doesn't allow earrings at all so she'll pop them in when she gets home and wears them at weekend.

5madthings Thu 20-Feb-14 22:45:13

I think the summer holidays between primary and high school so 10/11 yrs old is fine.

kslatts Sun 23-Feb-14 19:53:20

I think 10 is fine, both my dd's got theirs pieced as the left primary school, I think it's a good idea to get them done at the beginning of the school summer holiday so that they are able to take them out for PE, etc. when they go back to school.

gamerchick Sun 23-Feb-14 19:59:17

When they are old enough to look after them themselves.

not like the muppets who think punching holes through babies is perfectly fine because they don't remember angry I nearly got in a punch up over this topic IRL.

ThePinkOcelot Mon 10-Mar-14 21:19:59

My dds had theirs done at 6 and 9. They were allowed to wear them for school, if not I would have made them wait until they left primary.

shebird Wed 12-Mar-14 10:31:43

Ive promised DD she can have them done the summer before starting secondary school

AlpacaLypse Wed 12-Mar-14 10:38:51

Mine (and most of their friends) had them done on the first Saturday of the summer holidays between Year 8 and Year 9 - so aged 13/14. If they'd asked during the gap between primary and secondary, I would have let them though.

I'm a bit judgey pants if I see a child less than about nine with pierced ears. And extremely judgey pants if I see anything else pierced on someone obviously less than 18.

bunnybing Wed 12-Mar-14 19:41:31

Mine had theirs done between yr 4 and 5 - aged 9.5, at the beginning of the summer holiday - I think it depends on when you think they can look after them. They both had friends who had had them done for years by that time.

My mum would never let me have them done, so got them when I could pay myself which was aged 16 - which all felt a little pointless by then.

Heifer Wed 12-Mar-14 20:39:48

Another vote for summer holidays after yr 6. Her junior school doesn't allow earrings/studs at all which makes my life easier as DD knows there is no point getting them done until she leaves.

A nice way to celebrate the end of juniors/start of secondary I think.

Bonsoir Wed 12-Mar-14 20:41:18

My DD had hers done when she was 7.2. She wanted it and I couldn't see any good reason to postpone it.

Meglet Wed 12-Mar-14 20:45:34

I had to wait until 16. So I went silly and ended up with 2 holes in each ear, navel, lip and tongue.

Personally I think the summer between primary and senior school is fine. Do it the day they break up then they should have healed nicely before the start of hte autumn term.

wordfactory Wed 12-Mar-14 22:17:20

I always told my DD that she could have hers pierced during the summer holidays before secondary school...

But she wouldn't get them done. Still won't. She's 14!

Preferthedogtothekids Sun 16-Mar-14 00:33:56

My DD is 15 and knows not to even ask! I think pierced ears are gross, particularly on children.

guineapig2014 Mon 17-Mar-14 20:50:16

I'd say 12th birthday personally! grin

Ragwort Mon 17-Mar-14 20:59:47


(I had mine done at 30 grin).

Maybe it is a cultural thing, I genuinely don't know many young girls with ear piercings,

I currently work with a 16 year old male with a lip piercing, not a pretty sight.

I don't get the argument of "let them be kids, like in the good old days", because when I was a kid it was really common for parents to get their babies ears done, where as now this tends have ladies clutching at their pearl necklaces in horror.

I think 10 is a good age OP, many many girls have it done by then.

But similarly, if you aren't comfortable with it there is no harm with putting it off for a little while.

FullOfChoc Mon 17-Mar-14 21:30:21

Get it done at the beginning of the summer holidays so they have 6 weeks to heal. 10/11 is a perfect age, they'll be able to look after them themseves and should be old enough not to lose all their earings (fingers crossed!).

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