Do super tall children always become super tall adults?

(43 Posts)
MrRected Fri 06-Sep-13 02:03:33

Ds1 was 61cms at birth. He has always been tall but now that he is 12 he really sticks out. He reached 6ft tall at 11y10m (184cms).

Can anybody tell me - from a physiological perspective if this means he is going to be a very tall adult? The calculators say he will be 200cms - I feel quite sad for him as this means he will always stand out like a sore thumb. People gape at him now and he hates it.

Or is there a chance he will be normal height?

CoolStoryBro Fri 06-Sep-13 02:13:53

No, not necessarily. DS2 is 12 and 5'11. He also looks very old for his age as is already growing "manly muscles" as we describe it to him. DH was just like this and stopped growing at 13. He is 6'2" .

CoolStoryBro Fri 06-Sep-13 02:15:18

Also, the pediatricians have a guesstimate calculator of height, depending on where they are at 2 years old. I will find it for you.

ViviDeBeauvoir Fri 06-Sep-13 02:16:18

I only have anecdotal evidence for my answer.
I was the tallest girl in Primary School aged 11 and was 5'6 aged 12. I'm now 5'9 so although I'm tall I'm not out of the ordinary.
He may be super tall or he may stop growing earlier, like I did.

CoolStoryBro Fri 06-Sep-13 02:22:48

Upon googling, I read a quick article that said that once a boy's voice has broken and they need to begin to shave, then they are pretty much their fully grown height. However, DS1 fits into that category and our Dr took an xray when he broke his collar bone and said he still had a few more inches to grow.

NatashaBee Fri 06-Sep-13 02:23:44

I was 5 ft 9 at 12yo. I'm still 5 ft 9! Maybe he'll stop growing early.

MrRected Fri 06-Sep-13 02:26:41

So there is hope :-)

exexpat Fri 06-Sep-13 02:30:22

Not necessarily. How tall is your family? Both my DCs were very tall for their ages from birth, followed the 98th-99th centile line. But DS hit puberty at 12, and now at just-turned 15 is not quite 6ft and hasn't grown for six months. He is taller than his father and all the other men in the family, but not as tall as you might have expected from the growth charts (I knew he'd stop growing early, though, as that's the pattern in both my and DH's families).
DD is also very tall for her age (5'3" at 10) but I expect her to stop growing at age 12 like I did. What's the pattern in your family?

MrRected Fri 06-Sep-13 02:40:28

I don't know about patterns - we have no grandparents to tell us. I am average. DH is 6'3, so hopefully he is just an early developer. He was 100cms on the dot at 2.

Time will tell.

Madmog Fri 06-Sep-13 10:00:07

My daughter has always been really small for her age and we were told that we should look at heights for the rest of the family. No one is above 5'7" for my husbands parents and siblings and my Mum is only 4'10", so that seems to follow through for us.

BanjoPlayingTiger Fri 06-Sep-13 10:05:40

My dh is 2m tall. He doesnt get stared at as much as you'd think.

My dh didnt stop growing until he was 21, and was about 180cm at 18, but 2m at 21.

It really isnt as tall as youd think. There are a lot of men that are only a little shorter than my dh. So try not to panic about him being giant. I think very tall kids stick out more than very tall adults.

CatAmongThePigeons Fri 06-Sep-13 10:11:23

I was 5'8 at 10, 5'11 at 13 and I'm still 5'11 as an adult. My DH is 6'4 so I expect my children to be taller than average.

I have noticed that a lot of children are taller than in the past, they don't stick out so much nowadays IMO.

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief Fri 06-Sep-13 10:17:41

DH was also 6ft at age 12, and is still 6ft now. Ds looks like going the same way- he's just over 1 metre tall and almost 3, so he's tall compared to most other kids his age, but will probably not end up a particularly tall adult given his genes (I'm 5'7'')

Trills Fri 06-Sep-13 10:21:02

Not always. Some people just happen to do most of their growing early on and then slow down or stop.

You are being a bit silly to feel sorry for him - 6ft 6 is tall but not freakish for an adult. He will grow into his height.

WhatHo Fri 06-Sep-13 10:24:28

MrRected My daughter will be between 6'1 and 6'5 (200cm), so I have to say that every time I hear about tall men I am pleased. Being tall, especially for a man, is a blessing not 'abnormal'. I am less happy when I hear people worrying their kid is going to 'stand out like a sore thumb' just because he is tall.

My husband is also 6'5, and believe me, other than finding it slightly uncomfortable on a plane, he does not stand out especially. He is a superb cricketer and surfer and never had a problem getting a date grin

Also, we are all getting taller - I am 5'11 and was tall for my year, DD1 will be tall for her year, not obscene. Same goes for your DS.

Finally, I was at school with a 13 year old who was just under 6ft and already shaving. He was the tallest and strongest in his year. By the time we left, he was one of the shorter ones. It depends when your son hits puberty.

Snowflakepie Fri 06-Sep-13 10:26:28

I think puberty age plays a big part. I was the tallest in my class aged 10, 160cm. I'm now 164cm. But fairly early developer overall. The calculation my mum was told was to double the height at age 2 years 9 months. That would have made me 174cm so clearly wrong!

DD would come out at 180cm by the same measure. She is a full head taller than everyone else in her year group but I expect it will slow. DS is 60cm tall at 10 weeks old so we'll see. DH is 178cm and is the shortest of his brothers. My dad is about 186cm. So tall is there!

I think most women prefer a tall man tbh. Your son won't be at a disadvantage. Taller men also tend to do better in the workplace and are assumed to have more 'authority' so to speak. I would prefer tall over short any day. Nightmare for school trousers though!

FortyFacedFuckers Fri 06-Sep-13 10:28:32

I was 5 6 at age 11 but I never grew any bigger, you might find he will stop growing soon.

CharlotteBr0nteSaurus Fri 06-Sep-13 10:30:54

I'm not sure how tall I was when growing up, but I was always the tallest in my year school, including the boys, until 11. I think I was about 5'5" when I started secondary school

I slowed down and am now a tallish 5'9", rather than being remarkably tall like when I was a child.

Debs75 Fri 06-Sep-13 10:41:27

I was always the tallest at primary school. taller then the boys and most teachers. I am now only 5'7" so not even tall by adult standards.
DD1 was very tall. Aged 3 in age 5 clothes, aged 6 in age 9-10 clothes. She is now 5'7" at 17, still time to grow but probably not.

I think you are being unfair saying he sticks out like a sore thumb. Yes 6' at 11-12 is tall but not at age 18. His growth may settle down and he will notice school friends catch up and even pass his height.

mysteryfairy Fri 06-Sep-13 11:11:06

I think if you rather than just ask for anecdotes you should speak to your GP, perhaps without DS to start with.

My DS2 had the opposite issue in his early teens when he was absolutely tiny and had also plummeted down the growth charts from above average to below the lowest curve. Our GP referred him to an endocrinologist. One of the first things they do (v straightforward) is bone age from an x ray. If your DS had this you might find he has a bone age well ahead of his chronological age and is unlikely to grow much more which would give you reassurance without the need for anything more. There are a huge variety of children in an endocrinology outpatients clinic but I certainly saw some children who were very tall and would assume they were there for that reason, though as DS was at other end of spectrum I'm not sure what intervention they could make and whether it would be something you would want for a child.

MrRected Fri 06-Sep-13 11:21:13

Thanks for that pearl of wisdom Trills. As a mum I do worry.

I don't say anything to him. He does get tired of people constantly going on about his height - i know he does because he tells me so. To clarify, when I say he sticks out like a sore thumb is just a turn of phrase.

tobiasfunke Fri 06-Sep-13 11:49:08

I wouldn't worry about it as there's nothing you can do about it and it's impossible to predict.
DH and DBIL are both 6' 1". DBIL was tall from he was a small child.
DH was average and then had a massive growth spurt when he hit puberty.
It's a good thing to be tall especially for a man. I am a short arse and I hate it.

Yonihadtoask Fri 06-Sep-13 12:04:08

Not necessarily.

DS was tall since birth. He was always in clothes 2 or 3 years older than his actual age.

However at 15 he seems to have slowed down, or even stopped growing in height. He is now (I think) 6ft 1". I am 5ft 9" and his dad is 6ft 2".
he does, however, have huge feet - 12. But his feet have stayed the same size for the past 3 years, so I am hoping that is it.

Some DC have their growth spurt earlier than others.

DSS is a year older than DS, and at one point was shorter than DS. But he shot up almost a foot in one year, and now towers over all of us.

Don't worry about it. More and more people are tall nowadays. It's a good thing smile

EyeoftheStorm Fri 06-Sep-13 12:08:17

DH is 6ft 5 and Australian where it seems more common to be taller. He always gets comments but because he thinks being tall is a positive thing he's not bothered. I always joke that I grew a couple of inches (am average) after I met him because he never bent down to me, I always stretched up to him.

Being tall can be brilliant. DH has presence because of his height. On holiday, we were walking along the street and he was talking on his phone and laughing. A little old lady grabbed my arm and hissed: Is he a film star? I replied (while trying not to bust a gut laughing): No dear, just Australian.

In your DS's place, if someone says, you're tall, he just replies with a smile, and you're small.

Give him some comebacks. I have 3 DCs who will probably be very tall and I always make it seem like the best thing to be. I want them to walk tall and be proud of their height. May be as a teen it's hard to be a bit different, but as an adult it can be great in love and work life.

WhatHo Fri 06-Sep-13 12:13:17

MrRected oh god, people always make stupid comments about &everything^. If he had red hair or interesting coloured eyes they'd comment. When people say to me, "gosh you're tall," I just say, "yes, I grew." It reminds them that, y'know, these things happen. grin

Ponders Fri 06-Sep-13 12:20:41

I have anecdotal stuff too.

When I started secondary school I was shorter than average - less than 5' probably - & there were girls in my year who were already 5'5 - 5'7. But they never got any taller, while I shot up at 14 & ended up at 6' confused

DD1 was always tiny (10th centile) & grew very very slowly but is now 5'7; DD2 was 75th centile - she is 3 years younger than DD1 but was only slightly shorter throughout childhood. She is now 5'7 too grin

So very tall children might or might not end up very tall adults.

HTH wink

WhatHo Fri 06-Sep-13 12:22:45

DH has presence because of his height
mine too. People trust him and defer to him.

willyoulistentome Fri 06-Sep-13 12:37:32

I was very tall and skinny in primary school. The tallest. I'm 5'8 now, but I reckon I must have grown very quickly at one point as I have been this height since about the age 13 I was a 14 year old skinny beanpole with horizontal stretch marks up the outside of my skinny thighs. ( I'm not skinny now though. Quite the opposite! )

Mumzy Sun 08-Sep-13 18:06:04

I worked in an endocrinology clinic and the accepted wisdom for most children was you did the majority of your growing prior to puberty and once that happened: start of periods for girls, voice breaking for boys then you would only grow a bit more as hormonal changes during puberty causes the bones to fuse together. Also height in children is accelerated by obesity as is the start of puberty so some overweight children will be very tall for their age but won't be that tall in adulthood.

alpinemeadow Mon 09-Sep-13 09:27:21

That's interesting mumsy, I have heard that during puberty (ie from beginning to end) you do grow quite a bit - 10 " or so for a girl. Then as you say there is not much growth after that. But that you don't stop growing when puberty stage 1 begins (ie the lead up - 2 yrs or so? - to periods starting). Is that roughly the view your clinic took?

Maryz Mon 09-Sep-13 09:48:55

There seems to be some evidence that boys who grow early stop early. Those who have their growth spurts later grow for longer.

I've seen this with my boys. Ds1 was one of the tallest in his year at 12. Now at 19 he is 6'2' and many of the smaller ones have caught up and overtaken him. Ds2 was one of the smallest at 12, now at 15 he is overtaking and still growing.

With girls it seems to be more straightforward, and related to the height they were when they started periods.

Having said that, if he does get very tall direct him to a sport like rowing, where they will love him and he will be among guys who are proud to be tall.

Fairylea Mon 09-Sep-13 09:53:02

I was the tallest in my class, 5ft 6 at about 10 years old with size 6 feet. The only thing that's grown since then are my boobs!

PlotTwist Mon 09-Sep-13 10:04:39

dd1 was always one of the tallest in her class and ds always one of the shortest. Despite there being only two years between them, I've got pictures of them at 10 and 8 where dd looks a good five years older than her brother, she looks about 14 and he could pass for seven. Now they are both grown, he's 6'4 and she's almost a foot shorter.

RatherBeOnThePiste Mon 09-Sep-13 10:05:15

My brother was your son. The others caught up. Some overtook, most didn't. Of course we parents worry.

What I would just say is to watch his posture. I'm sure you do, but my bro used to compensate by slouching down, and he ended up with back and neck stiffness. Painful too sometimes at school. Wrong height furniture as assumed they would be smaller.

Salbertina Mon 09-Sep-13 10:11:06

My cousin is v nearly 2m. Never stared at as not so tall to stand out, honestly. Main pain for him is seating- plants, trains, cars.. Also hotel beds, low doorways etc. he copes though!

Your ds may well just be an early developer.

Mumzy Mon 09-Sep-13 22:33:18

Alpine that's right dcs will attain the majority of their height in the couple of years leading up to puberty then once puberty hits the hormonal balance changes causing the bones to literally fuse together and growth becomes very slow and eventually stops. Generally most girls will only grow a couple more inches once their periods start. The sleeping patterns of teenagers reflect those of babies in that they need more sleep due to the amount of energy needed to grow so letting your teenagers sleep in is no bad thing.

alpinemeadow Tue 10-Sep-13 08:22:19

Thanks Mumzy, so I suppose it depends what you mean by puberty (!) If hitting puberty is when periods start then most growth has occurred by then. But if hitting puberty is when the whole 'process' starts (on average 2 yrs before periods start?) then you grow quite a lot during puberty - about 10 - 12 " on average, so I've heard.
Definitely agree with you about sleep - they're not being lazy, just growing! It is amazing how much more they sleep in the holidays,

Mumzy Tue 10-Sep-13 22:56:14
PennieLane Tue 10-Sep-13 23:24:28

I was 5'11 at 13and am now 6ft. No one in my family is under 6ft, so I think it's a combo of your family plus height at young age.

Although my DD is currently tracking 9th centime!

alpinemeadow Wed 11-Sep-13 20:54:41

Thanks mumzy - that's really interesting. So if you include stage 1, a girl would grow by up to around 30 cm during puberty ie up to starting periods.
Interesting that boys are said to stop growing around 17 - i thought it was more like 19, though obviously after 17 it slows down.
I'd never really realised how strongly growth rates are linked to puberty, rather than chronological age. Always learning....

Mumzy Fri 13-Sep-13 19:44:46

It's the hormonal changes during puberty which accelerates and eventually slows down growth. It's also pretty interesting how bones fuse at the end of puberty and eventually stops growth also affects the body's suppleness hence why sports such as gymnastics is relative short lived

Well, dd1 was a long baby and a tall, skinny child and at 18 is now 5'10. We think she's still growing too!

MummyPig24 Mon 16-Sep-13 14:44:01

I was a tall child but I stopped growing at 11 and I am 5'3. My brother however was always a very tall child and is now 23 and 6'4.

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