Do daughters start their periods at similar age as parents?

(64 Posts)
Lottie4 Fri 24-Aug-12 19:39:31

If your daughter has started her periods, was it a similar age to you? I started the same age as my Mum and was speaking to some friends recently who said they all started within a year of their Mum.

diamondee Fri 24-Aug-12 19:45:25

I started a year earlier than my mum did and my dis showing signs of starting soon and more than a year younger than I was (she's only 10 sad )

diamondee Fri 24-Aug-12 19:46:06

Dd is not di

mumofjust1 Fri 24-Aug-12 19:46:27

I started at 12 and my dd started at 11

DiscoDaisy Fri 24-Aug-12 19:49:02

DD1 did.
DD2 didn't.
DD3 is about the same age but nothing yet.

coffeeandwine Fri 24-Aug-12 19:49:37

Don't have a DD, but my DM was 18 and I was 13, so a big difference.
My DM, however, was born in 1930 and I'm pretty sure puberty has accelerated since then with better diet.

ethelb Fri 24-Aug-12 19:51:31

I started mine when I was nearly 11. My sisters started at 13 which is the same as my mum. I think I follow after my dad, who was shaving daily at 14.

Feenie Fri 24-Aug-12 19:53:25

Don't have a dd - but my mum was 9 shock and I was 14 and a half, so big difference.

ebaymad Fri 24-Aug-12 19:54:13

Mum was 13

I was 13

DD1 was 13

DD2 is 12 atm but the chances are she will be 13 when her periods start

thenightsky Fri 24-Aug-12 20:03:39

pretty much the same in our family... all 13 so far.

Dumbledoresgirl Fri 24-Aug-12 20:08:26

My mum (also born in the 30s) started age 9 which I found pretty shock when she told me.

I was 13.

DD is currently 12. I am not sure what signs to look out for, but I wouldn't say she was on the cusp of it yet though she has started boobs.

snickers251 Fri 24-Aug-12 20:12:15

My mum started at 16, I was 10! X

AmaraDresden Fri 24-Aug-12 20:18:52

My mum was coming up to 10 and I was 12.

amillionyears Fri 24-Aug-12 20:22:15

one yes,one years earlier

TiggerWearsATriteSmile Fri 24-Aug-12 20:24:07

My mother was 18 when she started. I was 14 almost 15 really. So late in comparison to peers but not as late as mother

crazynanna Fri 24-Aug-12 20:26:04

I was 11

DD1 was 13

DD2 is 14 and absolutely no sign yet

ivykaty44 Fri 24-Aug-12 20:32:11
OhThisIsJustGrape Fri 24-Aug-12 20:32:13

I started on my first day at high school - what shit timing! My periods have continued in the same vein, arriving at every inappropriate moment ever since!

So, I was 12.2 and DD started when she was 12.4 so pretty much exactly the same age.

For those watching for signs - DD had very little in the boobage department before starting, and still doesn't have much 6 months later. I'm very small busted though so I guess she takes after me. She did have a major increase in discharge though for around 3 or 4 months leading up to them starting (I only noticed this when washing her clothes - I didn't go looking for it).

I have no idea how old my mother was but my sister was also 12 when she started.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Fri 24-Aug-12 20:37:05

I was 13, my sis was 13 and mum was...wait for it....13.

I have no daughters.

QuickLookUsainBolt Fri 24-Aug-12 20:37:53

I was 14

Dd1 was 15
Dd2 was 14

ZZZenAgain Fri 24-Aug-12 20:38:33

no, not in our case, I was 14, dd much younger, no idea about my mum

MrsJREwing Fri 24-Aug-12 20:40:50

I was 12.1

My Mum was 15

dd1 14.3
dd2 hasnt started and is now older than I was when I started.

HarrietJonesPrimeMinister Fri 24-Aug-12 20:47:04

I was 8.
Dd1 -12
Dd2- 11 and no sign

MrsJREwing Fri 24-Aug-12 20:58:18

I think periods come once a full bush has appeared. Well that has been how things happened for us.

WinkyWinkola Fri 24-Aug-12 21:56:07

My mum was 17. I was 17 too.

SandStorm Fri 24-Aug-12 21:58:11

I was 11 as was dd1. DD2 is now 9 and I think I need to have the talk with her so it doesn't come as a hideous surprise. Although, with the level of openness in our house she probably already knows the basics.

Dancergirl Sun 26-Aug-12 09:28:01

I was v nearly 12 and dd has just started at 11 yrs 3 months.

I read somewhere that on average girls start approx 6 months earlier than their mothers these days.

kalidasa Sun 26-Aug-12 10:57:47

My mother was 14 I think; all my (four) sisters were either 13 or 14, but I started at 11. My Dad was shaving at 13 though so I think I got that from him. I had my pre-adolescent growth spurt early and looked older than my age at 11. Definitely already had a bit of a bust and had hit 7 stone, which my mother was convinced was the magic number.

MirandaWest Sun 26-Aug-12 11:10:00

My mum was 12 and I was 14. Not sure if my mum has ever been as much as 7 stone other than when pg grin

my mum and I were both 12. My eldest dd was 11. The younger one is ten, takes much more after dh's side of the family, and is nowhere near as far into puberty as dd1 was at the same age.

Smurfy1 Mon 27-Aug-12 05:38:51

I was 15, eldest sis was 8 and other sis was 12 our mum started when she was 13

Snowbell Mon 27-Aug-12 10:48:37

This is an interesting thread. I have a DD who is 10 and will be 11 towards end of this year. I think she is way off starting her periods. Mine started when I was 12 and 9 months. Seems like some people on here think girls don't always take after their mothers with their pattern of puberty - that they can take after their Dad's side. I have been assuming that DD will be small busted like me, but DP has pointed out that she might take after his mother and be big busted! Is this possible? Because I will be so jealous if she does!

mathanxiety Tue 04-Sep-12 16:22:40

So far all were older than I was, one by several years.

Bust size all over the shop too.

Hulababy Wed 02-Jan-13 22:16:41

I know it's an older thread, but its relevant and I did search for it, rather than starting a new thread.

I was 12 and a half, summer before starting y9.

DD is 10y9m and it would seem that she has started today, or maybe yesterday, She's been developing a lot in this past year, esp in recent months. Has been wearing a bra since just before her 10th birthday for example.

App DH's mum was very early - 9 or 10. My mum was a bit older I think.

storynanny Wed 02-Jan-13 22:22:18

Yes I did, 13and we both stopped at 55

mentallyscrewed Wed 02-Jan-13 22:26:23

I was 14.5, dd was 12.5

Ponders Wed 02-Jan-13 22:26:25

I was 14 & I think DD1 was too

DD2 was younger but I can't remember

that's interesting about your MIL, hula. I heard something on the radio today about men's baldness (or not) matching their mother's father, not their own. I think we tend to assume these things will come from the parent of the same sex but apparently not

is your DD OK about starting this soon?

Ponders Wed 02-Jan-13 22:27:14

(apparently not always, I mean)

Myliferocks Wed 02-Jan-13 22:29:54

I was 10 when I started
DD1 was 11 (now 16)
DD2 was 12 (and still is)
DD3 is 10 and nothing yet.

Hulababy Wed 02-Jan-13 22:30:05

She appears to be, thanks Ponders. So far has taken it in her stride. I don't think she is the first in her class - which is good for her I think.

mentallyscrewed Wed 02-Jan-13 22:30:21

Oh and dd says she has no bush (8yr old ds says she has a green bush after barging in on her in the bath but he tries to be funny) she has no underarm hair but has boobs

GetorfsaMotherfuckingMorrisMan Wed 02-Jan-13 22:32:18

I was nearly 16, dd was 11. My periods are so light as to be non existent, poor dd has always had heavy and painful periods and is now on the pill to sort the bloody things.

weblette Wed 02-Jan-13 22:33:09

I started age 11, dd is about to turn 13 and I expect she'll be in the next couple of months.

crazynanna Wed 02-Jan-13 22:36:46

I was just turned 11.
DD1 was 13.
DD2is 14 and a half and hasn't started yet,but physically is tall and slimish with no boobage, whereas I was wearing a bra aged 9.

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Wed 02-Jan-13 22:37:19

mum was 14 I was 12 my older sister was 11

sausagesandwich34 Wed 02-Jan-13 22:38:12

what are the signs that point 'in the next couple of months'?

we went through about 6 months of mood swings with DD when she was 10.6
and were convinced she would start

then it stopped and she has reverted back to her usual self

she is showing physical signs of puberty -bra & fluff
over the magic 7 st but very tall

I was 13 and well over 7stone for anyone that thinks that is the magic number

perceptionInaPearTree Wed 02-Jan-13 22:40:27

I've been wondering about this. My mum was 14, I was also 14. I have an 11 year old and a 9 year old. The 11 year old is quite severely autistic so (not knowing how she'll react to it) I keep wondering whether I have a few years left to worry about it or not!

Hulababy Thu 03-Jan-13 08:09:53

Dd is quite tall but under 7 stone. Been wearing a bra for 10 months or so. Lots of development ESP in last few months. Her body shape s totally different now, needs deodorant etc. so not all together a surprise tbh.

Muminwestlondon Thu 03-Jan-13 08:21:06

Interesting question...

My DD's both started at just under 12 years, as did I. They are both under average weight (as was I) but one is tall and the other relatively short. My sister started at about 15 as did my Mum.

My friend started at age 10 and her daughter aged 10 has just started too.

I read somewhere that girls lacking a good relationship with a dad (or substitute) start earlier. I don't think that is true in my DD's case.

Re the baldness - DH still has a lot of hair at age 42, as do his older brothers and his dad still has hair in his 70's.

bruffin Thu 03-Jan-13 08:21:18

I was 12, dd was 11.5 I didnt think weight had anything to do with it, more a body fat ratio. DD was definitely under 7 stone and i dont think i was that heavy either.

weblette Thu 03-Jan-13 08:29:12

Well she has pubic hair, underarm hair, needs to wear a bra, skin v spot-prone. Don't know about her weight - she's 5'5 tall and slim.

Dancergirl Thu 03-Jan-13 19:13:22

muminwestlondon is that true about lacking dad? How can environment affect physical changes?

This is pretty interesting as I'm not sure whether I'm worrying unnecessarily about DD starting hers early (she's just turned 9)

My Mum was a late starter, around 17 iirc. I would have been 12ish (Yr7) and my sister would have been a year younger (sometime when she was still in Yr6)

DD has very light underarm hair, and gets whiffy on occasion and, although she has no boobs atm, she's started developing (tender breast buds) and is getting more 'hippy' iyswim. What worries me is she's been getting belly aches off and on - not being ill, just being a bit crampy. Getting her period whilst in Yr4 would be a pita for her so I hope it holds off for a few more years. She's well aware of what's what and we've talked about what her belly aches could mean so she is prepared, but still... sad

Should say that whilst DD is only 9, she's the size of a 12yo, albeit a fairly skinny one!

Hulababy Thu 03-Jan-13 21:17:05

Not sure about the dad relationship link.
DD has a fantastic relationship with her dad - so def not the case here.

Muminwestlondon Fri 04-Jan-13 09:20:16


Personally I don't agree...

Groovee Tue 08-Jan-13 10:30:31

My gran started at 11, my mum started at 12 and I started a month after my 13th birthday. Dd has just started her period a few weeks before her 13th birthday.

Hulababy Tue 08-Jan-13 18:56:22

Apparently 3 girls in DD's Y6 started over the Christmas holidays - so must be something in the water! The other two are 11y, DD is 10y.

perceptionreality Wed 09-Jan-13 10:33:58

Interesting Hula - isn't it the case that girls are supposed to have cycles that are in sync when they spend a lot of time together? Or is that an old wives tale?

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Wed 09-Jan-13 10:36:09

Me, my mum and my sister were 13. My grandma was 16!

FloweryDrawers Wed 09-Jan-13 10:46:47

My Mum was 14
I was 13
Dd1 had just turned 11
Dd2 has just turned 11 and is v. hormonal but nothing yet.

FloweryDrawers Wed 09-Jan-13 10:51:19

In dd1's case, the 7 stone thing definitely doesn't apply, btw. She was well below that when she started, and (at 14) is still just over 6.5 stone. But after 3 years of periods she's only just now starting to get them regularly every month, instead of 3-4 month gaps. So maybe that's a weight thing.

Hulababy Wed 09-Jan-13 17:15:25

perceptionreality - I have no idea tbh. There are only 12 girls in DD's class - so 3 equates to 1/4 of the class. And all in Y6, so primary, still within normal range but all still very much at the lower age range. And all within a fortnight of one another. Ages are 10y8m, 11y1m, 11y3m.

perceptionreality Wed 09-Jan-13 18:49:24

I had been thinking that as I started at 14, my dds won't have to worry about it until then but seems you can't tell for sure then? Dd2 is 9 and she cried when I recently explained to her that this would happen. 14 is on the later side I suppose - I remember most of my friends being 12/13.

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