My 12 yo DD is extremely self confident and truly believes she is the best at everything. A few examples of this include:
She started gymnastics about 6 months ago but now thinks she is so much better than other girls in the class. She makes snidey comments and pulls faces when they attempt any kind of gymnastic moves, all behind their backs because although she is full of self confidence, she isn't great with confrontation. She does it in the park if she sees other kids doing cartwheels or whatever and she doesn't care whether these kids are really small or much bigger than her.
She did really well in her end of Year 7 exams and scored very highly in all her subjects (7, 8 and 9 grades for everything). Obviously we are extremely proud of her and tell her all the time how fantastic these achievements are. She is predicted mostly A and A* at GCSE but obviously that's a while off yet. She looks down on others who didn't do as well as she did and again makes comments behind people's backs. When talking to other kids who did just as well, she will offer up a disparaging remark, totally rubbishing their achievements.
She desperately wants to be one of the popular girls at school but, like me, she just isn't but I think it's because she has this nasty streak to her. I can't figure out why she is like this.
She cannot seem to establish and maintain friendships with other similar aged kids. She has latched on to a couple of local kids who are 8 and 10 and spends all her time hanging out with them or waiting for them to play out. I think it's strange that she hasn't been out with anybody from school either to the park or bowling in town... Usual stuff kids get up to. She says she wants to, but appears to have nobody to do any of it with.
I don't know how to help her, so any advice gratefully received!
For background/context she is the eldest of 3, she was an 8 yo brother and s 6 yo sister. Due to our living situation, they are all sharing a room at the moment but I'm not adverse to hosting sleepovers for her/her friends. She recently joined dance and gymnastic classes in a bid to help her make friends but that doesn't seem to have worked either.
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LucyLastik · 20/08/2016 20:35
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