Why are preteen girls so mean in friendships?
My dd (12) is just about to start a secondary school and has had a nice year with friendships in the last year of primary school - there were issues a few years ago with one girl in her class but she then moved and everything went back to being nice.
This summer hols, a new girl started just before the end of the last term and dd's friends are now all for this girl (who seems to be a bit of a queen bee). She was friendly with dd too, to start with, and then stopped calling, asking her out as have her other pals as they are all out with this other one.
She is nice if dd speaks to her but if she asks if any of them want to do anything (park or whatever) they are all 'busy' then she sees on Instagram they were all out together.
Dd even asked one close friend if she had done something wrong and she said no, but doesn't return her calls or made any contact over the hols.
I know dd will make new friendships at secondary school, but it's just a shame how this has turned out. Dd is a sweet girl who always looks out for her friends, but they suddenly seem more interested in being popular than maintaining friendships of 7 years.
I know this is just what girls of this age can be like, and there will be many of these along the way, but it never gets any easier seeing your child upset / down because of it. Even though we try and keep it light and say oh never mind you know what some girls can be like. It just makes me cross.
Just needing to vent I suppose.
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Sparkygal · 08/08/2016 15:47
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