More of a wwyd.....my 12 year old daughter has been becoming more 'teenage' in recent months. Stroppy, hormonal,interspersed with immature periods, very jealous of siblings etc. A few weeks ago she cut all her hair off with scissors, (by this I mean cut her entire ponytail off- she has afro hair and his has taken her years to grow, so cutting it was a big deal). I did phone school but she had assured me there was nothing going on at school. Recently I have noticed 'things', items such as a leather bracelet, a little China dog, that I know we haven't given her and she's been very cagey about. I am beginning to think the hair incident is linked in some way to the gifts/items. There was also a birthday card stuffed in her wardrobe with a lot of kisses on it and wrapping paper so clearly someone has given her a card and gift that's she's hidden. I was packing for holiday today and went into her room and there is a very long love letter. I didn't read it but I wanted to (sorry) but the first line says something about being together forever and being the one. Signed James, same as the birthday card.
Now, my dd is causing me some concern due to her complete lack of personal hygiene (by this I mean I have to remind her daily to brush teeth, clean pants, wash her hands after the toilet, etc. She has no hygiene habits) and even today while packing I have filled a wash load with dirty clothes I have found shoved in drawers and behind the bed. I'm becoming really concerned that all these incidences are linked in some way (eg. Boy coming on strong, rebels by cutting hair, trying to out him off somehow by not being clean..??? ). I feel she is immature for her age and possibly isn't coping with this kind of attention.
Would you go into school? Should I tell her I have seen the letter and card and ask her to tell me more? I really don't know what to do and I would love for her to talk to me but she just won't. Any advice?
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thenewaveragebear1983 · 23/05/2016 14:08
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