Inappropriate gift for 12 yo boy

(162 Posts)
alisont1977 Fri 04-Dec-15 09:37:41

2nd on his xmas list my DS has asked for Philips BG2024. I assumed it was something computer or xbox related but after searching for it on Argos website it is in fact an electric shaver! I talked to him about this on Sunday and he insists he “needs” it for manscaping (I had to google it, but it seems it’s a popular activity). The last time I saw his willy was on holiday at easter blush and he certainly didn’t need it then!

Even if he does now have pubic hair, it seems wrong that I should be buying him things to cut it all off!

confused

Am I being silly? Is this just what boys do now?

PennyHasNoSurname Fri 04-Dec-15 09:40:03

Well if a 12yo girl wanted to start shaving her legs she should be allowed, so I cant see the issue with a 12yo boy being allowed to be in control of his own body hair.

PennyHasNoSurname Fri 04-Dec-15 09:41:13

sorry....Legs/Armpits/Bikini Line

defineme Fri 04-Dec-15 09:44:55

I don't think they all do it... ds1 is 13, very hairy, and doesn't. He shaves his facial hair with an electric razor.
I teach 16 year old boys and they all have hairy armpits, but obviously I have no idea about the rest.
I would be concerned about where he's got this idea from and who exactly does he think will see if he's manscaped or not? I know my friend's 12 yr old dd was asking for help re bikini line because of swimming lessons.

titchy Fri 04-Dec-15 09:56:37

Errrr not at 12 they don't.... Who does he think is going to see it? I'd be asking him what he's been watching on tinternet to even realise this is a thing.

alisont1977 Fri 04-Dec-15 10:01:01

Thanks, thinking about girls his age shaving legs does give a new perspective on it I suppose.

If he had facial hair of course i wouldn't think twice about buying what he needed. It just seems too sexual for his age. He hardly has any hairs in his pits, just some very faint ones.

He says everyone else in his year does it, but then he also tried to say everyone in his year has an iphone6 and that certainly didnt work with me.

i'll have a think, thank you hun x

Floggingmolly Fri 04-Dec-15 10:01:21

I'd be quite disturbed by that, from a 12 year old... hmm Who is all this landscaping for, exactly? And how did he find out that it's a "thing"?

alisont1977 Fri 04-Dec-15 10:09:12

I have looked through his laptop history but he always clears it hmm hes better on computers than me lol

He doesnt have a girlfriend i dont think, none of his friends seem to but they do talk about girls. I phoned my sister about it last night and she couldn't stop laughing! She thinks im just silly but she doesnt have kids.

PennyHasNoSurname Fri 04-Dec-15 10:16:32

Gosh some of you are dramatic grin

One of the lads probably has an older brother who does it, told his little brother, who has come in to school and been all "yeah so this is what we do, y'know"

titchy Fri 04-Dec-15 10:25:43

As the owner of a 15 yo ds I really can't imagine his mates having that conversation in a month of Sundays....

Bluesicles Fri 04-Dec-15 14:06:06

I don't see a problem with it - I used to shave 'down there' at 13 and it was just what I preferred... So it is probably just for his own comfort...

Gatekeeper Fri 04-Dec-15 14:10:07

shaving your pubes and comfort doesn't normally go together in one sentence !!! The idea of a 12 year old child shaving their balls and whatnot is a bit depressing sad

alisont1977 Fri 04-Dec-15 15:50:08

I phoned his dad this afternoon to see what he thinks, we are not on great terms as it is, so I want expecting much help.

First thing he says is "what ever it is im skint" and I'll I'd said was "can you talk?"

Then when I'd explained it all, his only comment was "i hope hes not gay". I have no idea how his tiny brain works.

So I'm still no nearer to deciding whether to buy it, or tell him no - but maybe next year! thanks for comments though everyone

nancy75 Fri 04-Dec-15 15:54:02

Does his use of the word mascaping actually mean what we think it means - or could it be a 12 years old way of saying he wants to shave patterns in his beard?

Asteria36 Fri 04-Dec-15 15:56:46

I would feel a bit odd about getting something like this for ds and he is 13! He shaves his face very occasionally and I can only imagine that if his 6 chest-hairs are anything to go by, he would be far too proud of any hair finally appearing around his genitals to cut it all off again!!
It may well be that some of your ds's mates have such sparse/non-existent hair that they have claimed to manscape to save face.

voddiekeepsmesane Fri 04-Dec-15 18:48:18

Wow your ex is a wanker. Some 12 year olds are more into grooming than others. And if he is gay ( so what?!) he may be more into grooming earlier than some.

PennyHasNoSurname Fri 04-Dec-15 18:49:50

What a twat your ex is!!

AnyFucker Fri 04-Dec-15 19:01:17

I would be disturbed by this. It is a sexualised practice and I would want to know why he wants to do it and what would be the point if no one is to see it

Any comparisons with girls shaving their legs is naive. Legs are on show. Public hair is not. Or shouldn't be, for a 12yo

I also dismiss any minimising about "comfort"

AnyFucker Fri 04-Dec-15 19:02:11

I should have realised my phone would auto correct to "public" < sigh >

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AnyFucker Fri 04-Dec-15 21:38:55

it's not a choice made in isolation though, is it ?

no complete innocent looks down at perfectly natural parts of their body and decides they want to "sculpt" them

something (or someone) influences this

JumpandScore Fri 04-Dec-15 21:44:52

How can shaving public hair possibly be for comfort? It's the direct opposite of comfortable.

I have 12 & 14yo boys and to the best of my knowledge this is miles away from normal. I'd be having a proper conversation if either of them asked for this

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AnyFucker Fri 04-Dec-15 21:56:31

he is 12 Giraffe

what you do as a sexually mature woman of the world is up to you

but 12 ?

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