My dd best girl buddies have had a falling out between them, although my dd hasn't and is good friends with everyone. They have been friends as a small group of 4 for years and years, happily. All the mothers are all friends socially as well as the girls.
My dd best friend has started being quite unkind to another girl in the group, lets call her friend 2 , but nothing much beyond the usual girly tit for tat not quite sure if they are arguing over my dd, but they are not getting on at all at school.
Now the mother of friend no 2 has started arranging joint activities for my dd such as private swimming club, sleepovers etc without inviting my dd's best friend, which is highly unusual as they all tend to do things together.
It has put me in a really difficult situation as I am very good friends with dd bf mother, and she is going to be upset that her dd hasn't been included or invited suddenly. She will soon hear about it, and will question what is going on, as it seems to be isolating her dd, which it is quite purposefully. I have no idea whether I should be telling her, and being open before she finds out (my instinct is to do this) as she is bound to find out anyway. I wonder if friend 2 mother is trying to drive a wedge between my dd and her bf by arranging all of this stuff and leaving the others out???
I asked friend 2 mother why the others were not included but could not get a straight answer.
I am a straight forward person and play fairly with everyone, and so am not used to looking for people's motivations, and I feel stuck in the middle. Should I tell my friend about it or not?
Any suggestions?
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Heartofgold25 · 25/04/2015 14:33
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